Hey, do you have a girlfriend yet? Asking all these kinds of questions are not going to help out in regards to getting a good woman. I know I can't be changed by anyone.. change comes from within.

We can only change ourselves.

Never, A person chooses to change, you cant make anyone change.

cuz she can, they have vaginas

If they could do, the divorce rate wouldn't be what it is. As for thinking, we'll women have a 'social worker' gene that men don't seem to posess

A lot of girls marry a man who is as much like their father as possible, and then think that if they just work on the husband or boyfriend a little he can become just like their father. Other women have a Messiah Complex--I'll save you from yourself, poor boy! And others still believe that Prince Charming is out there and that you are it but you're just being stubborn or selfish. Or else they may believe they are Michelangelo, who took a big block of flawed marble that everyone else had rejected and chipped away at everything that didn't look like the perfect man. Chip, chip, chip. I'm doing this for your own good! One of the fundamental differences between men and women is that women are constantly looking at themselves for things that are less than perfect, and they tend to look at men the same way, but men look at women for what they have and appreciate it. Like it says in the song "There Is Nothing Like a Dame," "It's a waste of time to worry about things that she has not--be thankful for the things she's got!" Or, as another man said in speaking of female imperfections, "We don't call them hate handles." I'm not arguing that one sex is better than the other, just pointing out some differences.

We are all born with certain character traits, more or less prominent. We cannot change our partner, we can smooth him over or look out for another one. My man has long time ago given up to change me -hehehe!!

i dont have statistics on your first question. as for the second ~ relationships are all about compromise. everyone changes when they are in a relationship. the only constant in life is change, so get used to it. if youre not growing as a person, youre wasting your life. but ultimately, the decision to change lies within the person themselves. however, i see nothing wrong with communicating what you want out of a relationship with your s/o ~ especially if they involve important issues like children, marriage, finances, etc. and no ones perfect ~ if there are problems, out of respect for your partner and for your own good, you should work on them. theres nothing wrong with calling someone on their bs. but if its not something youre willing to compromise on, then you are always free to walk away.

She might subscribe to the misguided philosophy that "love can move mountains" and other crap fed to us by our culture. Don't blame a woman's character - it's culture driven crap.

I don;t know, why would some want to anyway, if you are with the right person?

I've heard of people trying to change people alright, but I've never tried to because i've never had the need and people dont usually change unless they wish to change themselves. Of course Im not talking about changing someones personality I'm talking about changing their bad habits such as if they are an alcoholic or addicted to drugs. If anyone tries to change someone beyond that they are fooling no one but themselves.

Hopefully it doesn't happen often, as I believe it's important for both men and women to retain their individualities even after they're married. A woman who wants to change a man is selfish. Same thing with a man who wants to change a woman. I wouldn't want to change the person I love, because that's the very reason why I fell in love with her, because of her, not because of what I want her to be.

hmm.. I wouldn't want to change mine in any way at all. perfect to me the way he is. :S - sounds a bit cheesy but its true. If a woman wants to change a man who she is with, maybe she shouldn't be with him? . Just my thoughts :)

1. To that, I would ask: Why do men change women into the something they aren't? 2. Women have a maternal instinct to want to "fix" men.

That's what they do. That's why they can only stay in love for 7, 7 1/2 years at a time. They never love you for who you are.

I thought the whole point of being with someone was that you would be happy enough with who they are. My fella asked me if i would change anything about him and i said no. I like him for who he is, flaws as well.