it's kind of an invitation only thing, and most women are a little shy. developing a woman's anal passions takes some subtlety. when you are doing her from behind, lick the ball of your thumb and with your hands planted on ass cheeks brush your moistened thumb over her anus. two or three passes, no more. do this when she's coming or close to it. use light pressure only, no penetration. do not mention it later, don't ask her if she liked it. do not do it every time. the idea is to begin associating pleasure with your anal attention. next, when you go down on her, let your tongue wander. long strokes starting closer and closer to her anus. if she rises to meet those strokes you're on the right track, but unless she really presents herself to you do not make more than one or two passes over her entire anus. again don't do this every time you go down on her. you have to let her be in control, it's her ass. if you're getting her to warm up to it you'll know. next, again when you're going down on her, when she's starting to come, her hips rising to grind into your face, introduce a finger tip, one joint only, into what should be her slick anus.

Most women I know that do have anal sex don't do it out of actual enjoyment but usually because of ulterior motives, an if-I-let-him-he'll-owe-me-big-time sort of thing. At best they have said, "It's not that bad." Also, I find it comical that men ask why women are so opposed to anal sex when it's simply because it isn't their own anus that's being referred to. I can't remember ever having a boyfriend who wished for his ass to be penetrated by another man's penis, so why is it odd that women feel the same way?