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  • ahh changed up the question on me... Well, that's human nature. ALL women are insecure about something. You just need to find something about yourself that makes you unique or you excell in and take confidence that you are you.
  • The media supports unrealistc expecations. How can you live up to that? You cant.
  • maybe people have put you down, maybe you were made fun of as a child. The problem is you and these other people are the only ones who can change the way you think about yourselfs.
  • I am afraid I can't tell you the answer. A better question would be "Can I be happy?" To that I would give you an overwhelming YES. To be happy you first need to tackle the sadness that is currently bothering you. You then need to train yourself to think positively. Everyone has good and bad days, good and bad moments in their past and hopes and fears about the future. It’s important that you don’t let your worries rule your life. You need to teach yourself to be positive and to look forward. If your depression is severe, one route you could take is to get medical help, counselling, another therapy or even a combination. Will you ever be happy? Probably. ---------- Every day is not just another day, it’s an opportunity. You are not weak. You are not small. And finally: You CAN be happy. Edit 1 I spent some time on that answer, but now the question has changed to: "Why am I and other women so jealous and insecure with themselves?" ...... Let me think about that a moment...! Edit 2 This question is very difficult to answer. People can become jealous for a whole range of reasons, you might be talking about being jealous of someone having something, or you might be talking about relationships. It might even be something else. Are you talking about trust? Edit 3 Answer: "I am talking about being jealous of other girls around your man" [I will use the term boyfriend, but I don't know the status of your relationship.] This is a mostly trust issue. If you could trust your boyfriend to be around a porn star and still want you, then it’s unlikely that would you feel jealous of the porn-star. You would probably feel really good that you have such an awesome boyfriend. Alternatively you might be feeling self-conscious when you see him talking to other girls you think are prettier, more intelligent, sexier than you are etc. This is a matter of self-confidence... but also some trust as well. If you knew boyfriend would not take two looks at anyone else out of choice, I suspect your self-confidence would be high. The biggest issue is trust, and then the slightly lesser issue would be your self-confidence. So there are really two questions here: 1) Why don’t I trust my man? 2) Why am I self-conscious? ... More to come later...
  • I think things ARE getting better, but for many years women were raised to believe pretty soundly that we were second-class citizens and that beauty was the stronger key to gaining success. Even now we are bombarded with advertisements that personify our LOOKS as being the most important feature we have to offer. And to make it even more frustrating most people sure do not look like the models chosen to sell the things or the illusions being promoted! Women STILL do not earn as much as Men in a fair number of cases, we are passed over for promotions, we are seen as probably going to quit, marry and becoming breeders or if we have kids and continue working, we are often seen as having BIGGER priorities than our JOBS...unlike the more "stable" and "accountable" male. (this too is changing, but hasn't yet all the way!) We are taught that "its a jungle out there" and you'd be better off NOT to trust other women. Accidentally or otherwise we may be taught that OUR judgment is not to be trusted or we've made some pretty dumb or even minor "mistake" but no one remembered to say that mistakes are part of the learning process... I think a large part of it comes from the Home environment, and an almost equal amount from what we are subjected to in School. How can we be secure in who we are, how we present ourselves and what we are capable of doing, if we have not learned to VALUE ourselves?
  • I honestly do not think this applies to all women.I believe that a lot of us can feel insecure this applies to men as well. I certainly do not feel jealous, it is one emotion that i seem to have been deprived of having ,(Happily) I have seen my Mother ruin 3 marriages with jealousy and the breakdown of marriages in my family is almost 300% like 3 marriages to each sibling two of them 4. This was the result of jealousy and insecurity I have always made sure it would not effect me. Luckily my husband was the most trustworthy man alive
  • It's so difficult. I hate being jealous. In the past guys have always used and abused me. I've been cheated on, assulted sexually and mentally and it's left me feeling so vulnerable. Because of what happened I get easily stressed and anxious. I hate it when my boyfriend talks to girls because I feel so jealous. I know he loves me and would never cheat on me but it's still there at the back of my mind. I hate it so much :( At the back of my mind I always think that everyone is going to backstab me at some point in my life. I find it so hard to trust people and I have always had an issue with my weight and how I look. I never feel pretty enough or skinny enough. I guess that comes with the jealous and trust issues. It's all one messed up disease. We think at the back of our minds that we will never be enough. There will always be someone skinnier, prettier and more successful.
  • You probably realize how little you're actually worth.
  • i think you answered your own question...insecurity. i'm not sure but could it be because there are so many broken homes and young women generally do not have close, loving relationships with their fathers? i think young women learn what to expect from a man from the first man in their life, daddy. my high school aged daughter says so many of her (girl) friends think their dads are jerks because they have little or no contact with them. my daughters both seem to worship the ground their dad walks on...and both have very strong self-esteem. i'm no expert, just my guess.
  • It happens because they are brainwashed from childhood regarding the etiquettes and manner in which to behave in public and private.The insecurity starts at childhood itself.They get dominated with the male egos all the time.First it is the father, then the s/o,sons,bosses etc!In a dog eat dog world the woman is never given the right place.Though sometimes she tries very hard to get there but there are others to pull her down.In this the other women are also no less in pulling her down. She needs to be given special care and confidence in herself.Today a woman can do anything that a man can!And I have a number of students who have fought with this world to reach where they are and I feel very proud of them.

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