Well she felt neglected. She did make a mistake going to someone else for attention, but did she tell you that she was not happy? I mean, if you just ignored that then it is your fault. You need to sit down and talk to her

Do you mean finance

Finance- possibly Fiance- Depends on what you did.

if you have been together for 4 years and all it takes is 3 months for her to seek attention from amother guy i think its probably time to move on

Well, being that us AnswerBag users are all-knowing, we will surely be able to tell you this information, and quite flawlessly, I might add. So, let me reach into my vastly filled cup of knowledge and reach in for a little piece of "relationship advice..." Hm... well. My AB instinct would best tell me that this is not likely. If you provide additional information, I will -at no extra cost- more accurately tune my prediction. ...or you could ask a mutual friend. Whatever floats your boat. I'm sorry about your fiance, but honestly, who's going to be able to tell you that other than your fiance herself? You should talk with her about it, it would probably work out better than what anyone here has to offer. Edit: Okay I just read after the edit. I think, still, that you should sit down and have a serious heart-to-heart with her, though.

very poor she was feeling the the way she is long before she saw another man. so to think it has been 3 months straight that you ignored her she is most likely long gone. it is deffenitly part to do with your fear of commitment! 7 years before you asked her? you say you have been engaged for 7 months so you must think sence she is going to marry you then no worries cause 4 months into the engagement you start neglecting her. you got some probs bud find out why it is you have done the things you have done. you might get her back. however when she comes back you can bet that you will no longer be the only one she has slept with.

You better make ---- sure you've learned your lesson ? And hope he/she' comes back around, in his/her own time - That's really all I can say ! Good-Luck

Have you ever worked hard toward a goal or looked forward to something for so long with the belief that it will make you happy and that it will be joyous only to find out that it does not make you happy after all and that it was not what you really wanted… You made her wait for a very long time and I guess you thought a big diamond and trip overseas made up for it but the pain of you stringing her along for seven long years did damage that she might not even realize or understand. To top that off, a month after you give her the big prize that you made her wait seven long embarrassing years for (yes it was embarrassing for her), you start ignoring her and not just a little but for three consecutive months. It is clear that you have some major issues regarding commitment. I believe you need therapy if you every want a healthy, happy relationship. ----Edit---- And to add to this... did it occur to you all the unkind things people said to her while you strung her along and what was said to her when you finally gave her the ring? Did it ever occur to you that she may feel like a chump because of you? Your guy friends may have joked about it and might have given you a hard time but I would bet anything that is nothing compared to what she went through with friends, relatives and co-workers. It does not even sound like you care what you put her through... you just want to get her back...

Some things in life are meant to be, others are not meant to be. Apparently, your engagement was not sincere. you do not ignore your fiance in this manner. it shows lack of love and respect. Sometimes the mistakes we make, cannot be corrected. This was a no-no.

And to add to this... did it occur to you all the unkind things people said to her while you strung her along and what was said to her when you finally gave her the ring? Did it ever occur to you that she may feel like a chump because of you? Your guy friends may have joked about it and might have given you a hard time but I would bet anything that is nothing compared to what she went through with friends, relatives and co-workers. It does not even sound like you care what you put her through... you just want to get her back...

this exact thing happened to me only I was the chump who waited 8 years. I had a dress picked out and the entire wedding planned, down payments and everything. and now he has called off the wedding. I don't think your fiancee should return to you BUT she probably will. Perhaps you can learn to treat her better and not take her for granted

I hate to say it but I hope she doesn't. Sounds like there is a lot of growing up to do for both of you before a marriage, no matter how much romance there was. Neglect a fiance and the wife will also feel that, but much more at stake. Why hurt someone you proclaim you love?

In my opinion, the farther she stays away from you the better. You have shown her no respect at all. You also seem to be very insecure. Time to grow up and act like a man. You had no right to abuse her for 3 months. Yes, neglecting someone especially someone you are supposedly In Love with, is abuse. * I agree with the other person who said you need some serious counseling. You will not ever find a woman who will put up with your actions. I cannot believe this gal put up with you 7 years! Maybe she finally got a clue that you are not Mr. Wonderful after all. I'd say your chances of getting her back are slim and none!

write her letter