If there is total mutual trust, binding your partner in some way can be deeply erotic. The eroticism and sexual tension arises from the fact that the one who is bound has willingly surrendered her power to her partner and does not know what he will do--giving him tacit permission to explore her body in new ways. Before you engage in any sort of bondage, it is important for you to do some homework. For example, you will need to have a word or phrase you can use if you want the role playing to stop. Your partner needs to know that if you say this word or phrase, he is to stop and remove the ropes immediately. That's where the trust factor comes in. Also, be careful to avoid putting ropes or straps anywhere near her neck and don't bind her arms or legs tightly. This is, after all, about a fantasy--you are not trying to truly scare her and you certainly don't want to hurt her. I've experimented with bondage, both as the giver and as the receiver. It can be a nice prelude to sex. One man I knew desperately wanted anal sex, but that's one thing that has never appealed to me, though I did experiment with it a little when I was young and was not ready for vaginal sex. I never let him do it. But in our session, with me tied spreadeagled to the bed on my stomach, he pushed himself into me. I did not want this, and he knew it. I used our agreed upon phrase, got off the bed, locked myself in the bathroom and told him to go home. Bondage is about a surrender of power, but not about surrendering your limits, or risking your health.

Hmmmmmm...never tried that one!

i would love to be tied up

I tie him up sometimes but I would prefer to be tied myself.

You betcha!;-)

Well to be honest... it makes me crazy with delight... by trade I work in a mans world, I have to be tough all of the time, it is a nice change to have a sex partner to take the reigns and control the situation form time to time... However I do switch, so yes, I want to control you too... <sometimes>

We tried it. It was different, but we probably won't do it very often. More freedom and fun without the restraints.

It depends on the person. If you think it's hot, do it! If not, don't. I personally love it