Man up and tell her exactly how you feel. Tell her that you're offended (because she knows you're married) and that you would like for her to respect you, your wife and your marriage. Be firm and take a stand! It's better to save your marriage than to save a friendship.

Dang! Howcome *I* never had that problem??? : (

"Im sorry. Im Married. I am Flattered though!"

Tell her pretty much exactly what you've said here. You're flattered and would very much like to remain friends but you're happily married and uncomfortable with flirting.

Whats wrong with flirting as long as you dont take it to the next level. Everyone flirts sometime in their life. Acting on it is a different story.

Tell her that you don't feel right about whatever she is saying because of your marital status. Trust me, she will respect you more because of it, if you are firm about it. Whatever you do, don't do it where many others can hear/observe. This will keep from humiliating her. Good luck!

Easily. Tell her "I find you very attractive and I'm flattered but I'm happily married" - If that doesn't get her to back off, then a restraining order may have to do

How does she and your wife feel about a 3some? :-P If she's getting you all hot and bothered, run home to the wife and throw her in the sack and have your way with her, I'm sure she'll like it.

tell her your flattered, but you are happily married and her flirting is making you fell uncomfortable and you would like her to stop.

Put some really pretty photos of your wife up, make sure you're always wearing your wedding ring. When she makes a comment (even if it's a white lie) say, "Oh, my wife feels the same way..." etc. The more you bring up your wife, the less likely she will try to pursue you. Well, that is unless she then sees you as a challenge, in which case, you'll have to say, "Hey, sorry, I'm married...I can't continue this line of talk." By the way - it is also classified under "sexual harrasment" if you tell her to stop, and she doesn't.

Just spit it out but say it like you mean it. Don't let her think you're just saying it because you are supposed to and that it's really not heart-felt.

im beginning to like you more and more with each question i hope all people in relationships see this and take notes!

Is she really a friend if she is flirting with you? Is this someone you want as a friend? She is being disrespectful and very inappropriate in her behavior. She needs to grow up. If you want to remain happily married, then you need to be firm and tell her to stop flirting with you. Stay away from girls like this.

well first you need to ask yourself whats more important your marriage? or your friendship with this woman at work? and if it's ur marriage then you know what you have to do. End the friendship, because for one she is not respecting you as a married man and 2 her flirting will only lead to more temptation and other things much worst...

That is very common. If it really bothering you, the best thing for you to do is to pull that person to the side and tell that person that you are not interested. It is never wise to let something like this continue to grow so be firm but not callus.

First off... you are a great guy. Just by the way you worded your question.. it is evident that you have a lot of devotion toward your marriage partner and the feelings of other people. Bravo. The best way is to simply distance yourself a bit emotionally from this flirtatious female you work with. Do not allow her to touch you, even playfully... keep a safe amount of distance between you and her at all times. Do not accept any invitations to sit with her a lunch or go out to lunch with her. Wave your left hand around a lot... show your wedding ring to her. Talk about your loving wife every chance you get. Unless this woman is stupid, she should get the hint.

Are you sure you want her to stop? It sounds like you like it and are trying to convince yourself you don't out of respect for your wife. Just tell her to stop. If she ruins your so-called friendship over that, then I guess she never was your friend in the first place.

I say just avoid her.If you can't,just be civil.It's you now telling yourself what is right,and you know what is the right and fair thing to do.

The trouble with girls my friend; is the more you say no thanks, the more she will want you. Just keep laughing it off. If you are truly happy, you should have no problems with this. Good luck dude!

If you wanna be nice just take her aside and tell her you're extremely flattered but happy where you are. This might take things down a notch friendship wise but if shes an understanding and nice person she should understand the situation shes putting you in and lay off.

Include your wife's name and experiences into different conversations...at least once a day...anything more will seem cheesy....I agree with the photo idea...since it is the holidays...ask your coworker about ideas of gifts to show your wife how much you love her and that she is the only one in your life....make a call to your wife when she is in ear shot just to tell her you love her and can't wait to get back to her that evening......she will get the hint....

Sometimes straight and polite comments can solve everything. Just tell her that you are married and you love your wife and you are not interested in new adventures.

start talking to her of how good your wife is, how much you love and care for her...that will give her a hint. beware of the snake.

tell your wife, and let your wife whip that bitches ass. lol

If she continues to flirt with you, you are probably encouraging her in some way. Give her the courtesy you would give to someone on the street and see what happens.

I think you're flattering yourself. If you're happily married there is no 'but' and if you were single you'd be an idiot to hook up with a coworker. Here's my advice and I really hope you take it to heart: DON'T TAKE THE WOMAN ASIDE! The moment you take a female coworker aside you are putting your career in jeopardy, and you're setting yourself up to be made into a complete fool. What to do? Don't bring it up and don't play along. Her flirting is getting to you because you've allowed it to. Change the topic of conversation, be busy with work, show some damn professionalism, for god's sake. This is not complicated. Be a man. Be confident in your marriage, and give your wife a reason to be confident in you as well.

that's simple ,if she is truely a friend she would respect the fact that you are a happily married man, i must say good for you , not to many men would turn down a attrative woman, you wife is a lucky lady.

If it's making you uncomfortable, tell her. Your marriage is much more important than possibly offending a friend.

How about having a "bring your spouse to work day?" Maybe the next time you have to put your car in the shop, have your wife pick you up? Maybe if she sees the two of you together, she'll get the point. Marriage first, friendship second.

I am not sure exactly what you meant by "flirting." Two pieces of advice; 1. when you tell someone something they may not want to hear, you can never be sure of how they will feel - that is their issue not yours. 2. Keep you comments to her flirting style to behavior not emotions. in other words, if she sits on your desk with her skirt hiked up you say, "Mary, sorry, but you sitting here like that makes me very uncomfortable as it could be interpreted the wrong way," or "Mary, i would appreciate it if you would not rub up against me like that - i just do not feel it is appropriate." like that.

I'm not sure what type of flirting she is doing, but definately aviod physical contact. Some women are sickly turned on by a happily married man. In this case talking wouldn't work, but your actions of disinterest would. There are many forms of flirting, one thing is for sure, always have others around. Do not work together alone, or have breaks or meals alone. If its a group from the office thats one thing, but keep your distance. Advice - actions speak louder than words. Without having to say it you can show her your work only interest in her. When that doesn't work you say when it happens - like hand on you, please don't touch me. Don't throw a bunch of things out there, just deal with each action as it happens. This helps it from becoming awkward. And if there is some real issue, then there were situations that you did directly approach her about.

Make regular referneces to you wife, like, "My wife said..." And have a picture of her on your desk.

Whenever she flirts with you look at her like shes crazy. You may not realize it but you are somehow encouraging her. You are being too nice.

3-way alert!!!!!

If she's doing this continuously, it means you are giving her positive signals. Call her home someday for dinner with your family- wife and kids. Let her sense how happy you are presently with your family. If she's wise, she'll back off.

Wud rather drive her away than my spouse, thats what I think. She shud respect that you are married, and since she is not.... I dun see why she deserve any.

"Would you like fries with your flirting?"

I would try subtle hints, like referring to your wife if that doesn't work......just tell her you are flattered (nothing wrong with being flattered) but she needs to quit the flirting, otherwise you are afraid it will hurt the friendship. Which honestly..rather offend her then letting go on and maybe getting out of hand or it getting back to your wife! If its a true friendship she will respect the boundaries..which sounds like some boundaries need to be set up!

Just tell her to knock it off already.If she is bold enough to flirt knowing you're married,surely it won't kill her when you tell her to stop.People do get through rejection...Are you more worried about her feelings than your wife's?

You will need to weight which relationship you value more... your marriage or a friendship? Tell her that you feel flattered but that you are happily married and will not do anything to hurt your wife and destroy her trust in you. A woman that goes after a married man knows nothing about respect, loyaly and love. A woman like that will never be the kind of "friend" you would want around.

u dont have to tell her and embaress her if she is a friend,, just keep ur strong attitude on and she'll eventually get bored, and the friendship will stay ,, though u realy have to stay strong no matter how hard it gets ,, keep remembering ur wife,, and enjoy the flirting while it lasts ,,

Just tell her to "lay off, I'm a happily married man."

Daniel! DANIEL! This is your wife! What's the broad's name! I'll take care of it...trust me, I'LL take care of HER!

I would explain the situation to your wife first and foremost. After you have fully explained it...take the girl thats flirting with you out for coffee (with your wife's knowledge of course) and tell her then that it won't work. Tell her about your wife and that you want to remain friends (This won't be possible) but that way you are in a neutral place outside work, your wife knows what's going on, and she isn't let down in front of co-workers.

Try throwing some phony hints about you and your wife separating, to see if she is only after you because you are currently "unavailable." If she is STILL pursuing you, try sitting down with her and explaining your concerns about the situation.

Let her see your wife on some occasion and make sure to focus and pay attention to your wife. In some way i hope she gets your intention.

1) A bucket of cold water. 2) tell her your wife will de miraclize her bra. 3) tell her that hot attracitve flirting women give you hives.

Don't confuse flirting with friendship. Is she doing anything "Forward"?

better you share this problem with your wife... and you will get a better answer, the only can help u just your wife. ;) the important thing she will believe that u are a good husband

Leave a hotel room key on her desk?

I THINK EVERY ONE CAN HAVE HIS/HER SECRET.BUT JUST AS A SECRET .IF U CAN KEEP UR LIFE OUT OF REACH FROM IIRS EFFECTS..THEN I THINK ITS OK

Ask yourself who would you rather offend, your wife or her..... not to mention yourself. If she gets humiliated, it is her own fault for making a fool of herself.

Be the first to be in humility, which means showing no charisma yourself, nor any outgoingness, just be a plain person with mere mild and non-provoling talk, which prolongs the conversation; just answer simple and to the point, but again in a mild or soft tone. Make yourself with her as a plain person, with no attracting qualities until she sees this countenance.

If you are truly happy, my advice to you would be to "nip this behavior in the bud" before it goes any further. You are flattered by this woman's behavior, and that is your ego responding, and has nothing to do with love. Ego is selfish, and can never compare with the loving relationship that you have built with your wife. Ask yourself these questions. Would your wife be upset if she found out about this woman? Would you be upset if your wife was emotionally unfaithful, and had an ongoing relationship with someone who was flirting with her? Tell this woman to stop playing games. Better you should hurt her feelings than destroy your marriage.

Many people will say if you were really happy you would have stopped this sooner. Truth is we all like attention and sometimes we over look the little flirts that people do all the time and take it as a notch in the ego. When it does seem to move forward into something more we need to end it which you want to do and good for you. Best way I have found is act like you haven't notice the flirtation and start talking more and more about your wife. How you love the food she cooks, the getaways you guys have taken, and so on. Don't let a conversation that isn't work related go by without mentioning her. She will soon get the idea how you feel about your wife without any embarisment.

Even if you are flattered don't give her the satisfaction of knowing it, it will only encourage her to continue.Smile and give her the ring finger : )

tell your wife and tell her that nothing will happen between you too and yoiu need to make sure of it. As for the woman flirting with you just talk to her.

Every time she starts to flirts, I would smile and say please excuse me but "I need to call my wife".Perhaps if you do that every time she will stop.

Straight out, I feel honored but I love my wife and I'm not going to blow it.

Watch the movies "Disclosure" with Demi Moore, Michael Douglas and "Fatal Attraction" Glen Close, Michael Douglas

You really need to tell this woman your happily married and this flirting really needs to stop because this flirting can get out of hand and if your wife finds outyou can end up losing your friend and most importantly you can lose your wife.

Worry about your wife's feelings, and not so much this lady's feelings.

Well if I were you,I would ask her to take a little walk with me and I would tell her in a polite mannerly way that "I am happily married and you are a very pretty women and there are many fish in the sea for you.We can stay friends.But nothing more."Make her understand that what she is doing is wrong and it makes you feel uncomfortable.

I think you are playing with fire. 1) Check out your marriage. Are you restless? Why? 2) stop flirting back. I know you do or she wouldn't be continuing. 3) Always give her "the courtesy of the man on the street." 4) Do NOT bring it up. Just change your behavior to pleasant and friendly, straight up.

If its driving you crazy that means you like her

Nothing wrong with flirting as long as you not leading her on and you do not act on it. flirting is just playful conversation.

live and let live... accept her for who and what she is and just don't act on it...

Why are you so worried about hurting her? She should be mature enough to realise you're a married man. Just tell her directly.

I had that same experience in my first marriage, I told her I would never be unfaithful to my wife and se became my enemy from then on. I guess she was never my friend to begin with.

See, Daniel, it's an issue of mind over matter, if you don't mind, it don't matter. Ergo, since you DO mind, it does matter. Forget all that mentioning of your wife, if you force it, it looks like you are trying to hard to fend her off. And in my opinion makes you look weak. Just enjoy it man, flirting doesn't mean she wants to hop in the sack with you. Every married man needs to have a little fun sometimes.

well talk about your wife and say that it is the best thing that ever happend to you,,,

I am the woman in that type of situation, I love to flirt with a married man that I am friends with, I am married also. I am crazy about him and he flirts back with me. But I am not interested in any type of relationship with him, I don't want to sleep with him and he seems to feel the same way even though we have never put ourselves in that type of situation. I just love the excitement of doing something "wrong or dangerous". I don't want to hurt anyone at all, I just like the excitement of sharing a secret with someone.

Why not be upfront...? Ask her what her motivation is and inform her how it feels. I tend to think mature people can handle a situation like this and mature people can accept a need to change their behaviors slightly. I would, however, not do it in such a way that does put her on the spot. Depending on your position and her position, you may wan't to involve HR... But if you ARE friends, then a friend will gladly listen to how you feel about the matter... Good luck

Remind her that the relationship is about business and nothing more. Her hurt feelings are of far less consequence than your ruined marriage. You owe it to your wife, your God, your marriage, and yourself to guard the sanctity of your marriage against all flirtations and outside temptations. You may need to re-educate your colleague about what are the proper parameters of your business-only relationship.

Friendship should be based on honesty. If you cannot be honest it means it was nothing more than a flirt. Quit it and forget it.

Just blow her off. That's what I do when men flirt with me. Once a guy was flirting with me and I just didn't respond and started talking to someone else around me...kind of extreme I know but hey it worked. The only difference is I am not happily married but I love my husband and I am so devoted to him that it hurts me to even imagine how he'd feel if I were to flirt back. Unfortunately he does not feel the same way about me. I wish I could have a husband like you.

I think you should say playfully "you are such a flirt" and see how she responds...if you are too shy to do this, that's okay. In terms of what you should do - it depends on how close your friendship is with this woman you work with. If she's someone you just socialize with at work, then I would look the other way when she starts to flirt. Go and get a drink of water, say "I'll be right back" and go do something else. If you are staying in the conversation, then you are quietly encouraging her. Let her know through your actions that you are NOT going to respond to her flirting. If she is someone who you can be direct with, I think you should tell her you enjoy her friendship and you don't want to give her any wrong ideas...be sure to let her know that you are very married and happily married at that!! Some women are unconscious about the way they flirt, depending on her age, she may not know how much she is flirting. Some women are just not that aware of the signals they are putting out. But I also need to say that some men really enjoy this flirtation. Of course you are flattered, and it feels good to have someone find you attractive. Be sure not to feed her flirtation. Let her know that you are happily married...and see if the flirting continues.

Photo idea is excellent! Also take the "driving me crazy" home to your wife...it can enhance your sex life. Good luck.

you got face the facts that it is going to mess up your friendship but who cares this lady is flirting with you. you should ask her to dinner thats if she wouldnt mind being a three wheel and just kiss your husband and touch him so that she knows that you love him and that you will always be with him. and tell her a couple of your love storys to. if thtif that doesnt work then you should tell her to stop or you will have to get your boss invovled just say that your not trying to be maen you just want her to stop

Well a very good way to let her know is just by talking to her. BUT talk to her about how much you love your wife.Tell her 'Oh, i remember when i first met my wife...wow, she was....' you fill in the empty space. Also, when she flirts with you tell her, just back away and tell her 'you know what i should do? By flowers for my wife to show her how much i love her.' The more you talk about how wonderful your wife is, the more she would get tired of listening and she will back off. Because she'll know nothing is going to work out and you just arent interested.

Its not friendship when all she wants is more than a friendship with you. Friends dont flirt. Break it off with her until she learns how to behave.