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  • The best thing you can do is have a sit-down with them. Get to know them. Get to know them. Maybe start out by saying "We may have gotten off on the wrong foot...." As much as you may dislike her parents, if you marry her you are stuck going there on holidays and special occasions. The best thing you can do is pass yourself with them. Do that for her. Sure encouraging your woman to think for herself and be independent is fine. However, keep in mind that this influence may be detrimental to the relatinship with her parents. They may view you as someone who is trying to drive a wedge between your fiance and them. That you are trying to pull her away from them. Try speaking with them face to face and if they continue this type of behaviour you and your fiance can always move to another town. Sometimes you need a buffer zone.
  • are you truly engaged? in other words do you have a ring and a date? if you are then continue with the patient niceties. gradually your husband will learn to ween himself from the need to please his parents and want to please you and they will just learn to deal. they may never like that you replaced them in his life, but once the grandkids come along, they'll soften. some. good luck!
  • sorry to say, you're gonna have to kill them with kindness....kindness kindness kindness....if you sincerely (key word: sincerely) try that for about a year or so, and if it doesn't work, then just ignore them and dont waste energy on them good luck
  • to be honest, that is in laws for you.... they don't like anybody but themselves giving advice to their son... you are going to take his mother place now and that is difficult for a mother to accept.... you just continue to be yourself... they will realise and accept the both of you once they see how happy you both are... don't cut your ties and worst case encourage your fiance to cont his relationship no matter what happens... they will appreciate it later. it took my in laws 6yrs and they confide in me more than their own son... all the best for your future...
  • Perhaps they think you are leading your man around by his bullocks? You know that no one is ever "good enough" for a baby they have raised to adulthood. My mother hated my man and after 22 years.. she realizes that he is a good egg. Even if she didn't, she doesn't live with him, I do. These two people have been used to controlling this man's every action for years... the idea of him having his own ideas or being influenced by you, sickens them. Only time and perhaps distance may help this. Do yourselves both a favor and elope.
  • Be yourself and try to gain their trust. Hope this helps :)

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