Is it appropriate for my soon to be sister in-law to stay friends with my fiance's ex girlfriend, and invite her to family functions? This makes me really uncomfortable, and I just need to know if it's me that needs to change or her.
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actually, that sounds pretty disrespectful to me. just tell her that it's inappropriate, and that even if she is friends with her, that the family functions isn't a place that the ex should be, especially with you there, and getting married. (although I would probably use stronger language, but that's up to you) =0)
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I would wonder the reasons why his family unit is not ready to move on, personally. I would think your fiancee should have good reason to want her excluded from most family functions too. Things didn't work out between them- He should be ready to move on. I am friends with my brother's ex but I understand that there are some respect boundaries that are important to help my little brother move on in his life so I don't involve them together...ever. It was hard to get used to a new girlfriend at first since we all love his ex, (like neighbors we grew up together in a small town) but we've come to love his new flame for who she is too. I hope his family will give you a chance to assume your role, and I hope your man can offer you security that your position is unique and valuable through this akward time.
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It's totally inappropriate for your soon to be sister-in-law to be inviting the ex to family functions. Sounds to me like the sister-in-law is trying to start drama. Maybe you should have a little talk with her.
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I think we all have a right to be friends with whomever we want, we just need to be respectful of new relationships.
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No, It's not appropriate. She can be friends with your fiance's ex but not invite her to family functions. That is really inappropriate. You fiance needs to intervene and stop this from happening.
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