How about instead of finding pills or teas or whatever for her to consume, you start telling her all the things you love about her? Everytime you see her throughout the day, tell her why you were attracted to her, why you married her and why you stay married to her. Tell her in minute detail what you find sexy about her and why you want to have sex with her. Keep telling her until she hears you, and then continue telling her so she doesn't forget. Build her confidence in herself and her love for herself, but also build confidence in you: why you are there, why you want her. Let her know it isn't just about Mr. Happy, but also about wanting to bond with her.

Try reaching over the counter for her!!

Women need to feel pretty, cherish and loved. The only time I feel "blah" is when that is missing. It is hard to resist a man who makes you feel special. If you do those things you will tones of sex :o)

yep - doing it over the counter might be why she is feeling blah! where is the romance???

You don't mention your wife's age - we can understand that! Here are some things to consider: is she menopausal? Does she have problems with weight gain, or blood glucose (diabetes)? Those are 2 very common problems for women who are peri-menopausal, or have completed menopause. Honestly, for women there is no magic bullet like there is for men. I have read that the major pharma companies have played around with a female viagra, but since females rely more on mental stimulation than physical, it is difficult to impossible to create a drug that brings back libido. Low thyroid function and diabetes both decrease libido. Having those conditions treated doesn't necessarily make libido return. A few years ago someone told me about a cream that had testosterone in it and that application of the cream to the genital area as foreplay could be quite helpful. My own physician told me that most women simply respond to the cream in the same manner that people respond to placebo drugs - just the extra attention (and a bit of 'hope') will do the trick. I am not recommending anything - I am not in a position to do that. However, you and your wife can assess other possibilities if you understand what might be going on.

What about exercise? The best thing I ever did for myself was join the gym when I was going through a "blah" period.

Is she feeling 'blah' about life in general or just about her sexuality? Feeling 'blah' is often the primary symptom of mild clinical depression. The 'low self worth' symptom is also common. Good luck.

Well there are plenty of things you could do to help her get back into it. Exercising would be a start...how is her diet. If it's a poor diet, that might damper the libido. I've been there and it sucks. I'm on this great female enhancer that is natural. My husband says it the female version of viagra cause I'm always in the mood now. The stuff was called hersolution which at the time I saved on it at herenhancement.com . There is a lot of good info there.

Well there are plenty of things you could do to help her get back into it. Exercising would be a start...how is her diet. If it's a poor diet, that might damper the libido. I've been there and it sucks. I'm on this great female enhancer that is natural. My husband says it the female version of viagra cause I'm always in the mood now. The stuff was called hersolution which at the time I saved on it at herenhancement.com . There is a lot of good info there.