Do you believe in the saying "Once a cheater, always a cheater"?

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• good answer

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  by Sandra havent been here since forever on June 18th, 2007

• well put

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  by science_geek on October 18th, 2008

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• Hmmm.. someone DRed you. That didn't seem very fitting so it seems like there's a troll on the loose.

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  by anonymous for now on July 26th, 2007

• Thank you! =) +4

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  by Ender is back.. And slightly confused. on July 26th, 2007

• You're welcome

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  by BWhisKey on July 26th, 2007

• Welcome to Answerbag.

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  by keithold is a prodigal bagger on July 26th, 2007

• Good answer.

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  by A on July 7th, 2009

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• Good answer.

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  by A on July 7th, 2009

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• ok thanks for your input

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  by Sandra havent been here since forever on June 13th, 2007

• I agree.

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  by Snooch on June 13th, 2007

• It is nice to see someone who sees the best in people

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  by giveiturall on June 16th, 2007

• Thanks. I try.

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  by Jax is missing AB on June 18th, 2007

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• I agree, TTGS.

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  by BrokeDog on January 18th, 2007

• me too! but yeah its hard to win back someone's trust..

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  by asairel on January 18th, 2007

• very hard to, but its possible

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  by giveiturall on June 16th, 2007

• This is so true. My boyfriend is a very good example of that. Good answer.

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  by A on July 7th, 2009

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• Tiger Woods is another story, he screwed many trashy women, not just one mistake. Loser!

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  by Piratebooty on December 9th, 2009

• But how far, really, is all this usual story-pulling newspaper gossip??!
  I always have Grave doubts on newspaper accuracy ... I mean they also tried to pull off Jackson and rubbed him into the dirt.
  I've seen them spin all sorts of garbollage to make big stories worth Billions worldwide ... I mean, the Bigger the name, the Bigger the shame!
  The MORE that media make on these manufactured stories of theirsLOL!!! ;)
  I usually ignore these news reports like this.
  You only encourage them by taking noticeLOL!!

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  by denidowi on December 10th, 2009

• Well, this is true and the women that have come forward may not "ALL" have proof of being with him. It is a shame that his wife has to deal with all of this. She is the one we must feel for at this time as well as his kids. I do not understand why some people do not think of the other person's feelings before doing something so stupid.

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  by Piratebooty on December 10th, 2009

• It is the price the famous and their families have to pay.
  I'm afraid it's true!
  My son could be becoming famous soon too - poor guyLOL!
  I stayed out of the limelight myself!! ;)
  I knew ... once you became too famous, the world basically owned you, and I preferred to move w/o the Elvis Presley media chaseLOL! and public dangers of fame.
  I mean, Johnny Lennon is classical example; isn't he??
  Once you become Big for any reason, you can well be in trouble one way or another!

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  by denidowi on December 10th, 2009

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• Well, I would have to say that I am the latter..

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  by Ender is back.. And slightly confused. on September 13th, 2007

• that's good. my ex cheated on me many times, lied to me about lots of girls, and i have no doubt in my mind that he will do it to every other girl he is with at some point in time.

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  by candycakes loves j. bell on September 13th, 2007

• Yeah. Gladly enough, I realized the error that I had made and took many steps to correct my behavior because I couldn't believe how much I hurt someone and what a mistake I had made..

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  by Ender is back.. And slightly confused. on September 13th, 2007

• Ender, you are a sweetheart. Don't let anyone tell you differently.

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  by A on July 7th, 2009

• Thank you very much. I appreciate the compliment. =)

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  by Ender is back.. And slightly confused. on July 7th, 2009

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• Good answer.

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  by A on July 7th, 2009

• My avatar changed, I like it

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  by Closed Account on December 13th, 2009

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• Can you share what motivated you to cheat in the past? Was it low self-esteem, boredom? I just like knowing why this happens so much.

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  by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on October 25th, 2009

• For me it was being cut off from any form of affection for over three years because I didn't make "enough" money. I held out, totally without affection for three years, and if you had known me then, you would have said, "No way!" I finally just decided I wasn't going to live my life like that and started chasing women online. I deeply regret it, but I couldn't be a monk.

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  by CaptainHarley adores his life penguin on October 25th, 2009

• I suppose if you aren't getting anything to eat at home then you have no choice but to dine at a restaurant. Basically, you were "set up" for cheating which was not fair. Not even getting a cuddle or kiss for that long would drive anyone to look elsewhere. Thanks for sharing.

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  by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on October 25th, 2009

• Welcome. I agree somewhat, but it still makes me feel guilty as hell! : (

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  by CaptainHarley adores his life penguin on October 25th, 2009

• I would have liked to see a discussion about this, plans on cheating made clear to your mate, and if the relationship was worth even going on. Out in the open, not secretive cheating.

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  by anon on October 25th, 2009

• I wasn't secretive about it, but neither did I announce it.

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  by CaptainHarley adores his life penguin on October 25th, 2009

• Not judging you, just stating what be more fair to your partner, and in an open discussion ahead of time. If I knew my man was was thinking of an affair, we would have a LOT to talk about.

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  by anon on October 25th, 2009

• That would be great, if my partner ( first wife ) had been the sort to discuss things with a modicum of logic, but she truly expected me to be able to turn affection off and on, just as she did, like a faucet. I was not designed that way.

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  by CaptainHarley adores his life penguin on October 25th, 2009

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• Oh boy, here we go again...:)

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  by Mike Astill on July 26th, 2008

• You tell em sister;)

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  by gtravels loves her life penguin on July 26th, 2008

• I would never marry a man with those kinds of issues. I much prefer a life without drama, where we tease and poke fun at each other! Can't wait til somebody asks about humor instead of all these bad things. Whut up, g?
  
  Easthill! Are you following me? I told you - there are no more hotdogs!!!

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  by Phillis - Zacks little sister on July 26th, 2008

• Just hangin and chillin;)

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  by gtravels loves her life penguin on July 26th, 2008

• Hangin? Doesn't your hubby handle that part while you eat the cookies??

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  by Phillis - Zacks little sister on July 26th, 2008

• I gotta hold em up myself while he's at work. And type with them at the same time. It's not easy;)

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  by gtravels loves her life penguin on July 26th, 2008

• Pure silliness :) How I love it!!

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  by Phillis - Zacks little sister on July 26th, 2008

• phillisn...yes I'm following you around. I'm like a stray dog that nobody wants. You'll get used to me eventually. Of course you wouldn't marry a guy like that. I agree with you there. What if you had been married for, say, 10 years, and you had 2 kids together. He just blew it. Made a horrible choice. He admits it. He apologizes profusely. He is truly penitent and sorry. Is there no hope to salvage the marriage? No redemption? No forgiveness?

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  by Mike Astill on July 26th, 2008

• Oh, dear. I was only playing, easthill! Please don't be upset. I swear to you right now....I was just teasing you a bit, nothing more. Hey, I have a link for you. You may turn into a one man cheerleading team for your gender! It wouldn't bother me at all if you called for back up. http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/878301

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  by Phillis - Zacks little sister on July 26th, 2008

• I don't know if I can answer that question. I'm pretty certain I was the last good man on earth and my wife snatched me up. :) There may be a few extra good men in China. I hear they have a surplus.
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  Me? Upset at you? Never! I would let you know if you ever upset me.

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  by Mike Astill on July 26th, 2008

• Oh! I have to admit I feel relieved! I see I need to get accustomed to your sense of humor, too. And I will try with all my might not to hate your wife for snatching the last great man on earth :)) But I went to Mexico for my husband. It was a lot cheaper :)

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  by Phillis - Zacks little sister on July 26th, 2008

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• Good Answer:)

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  by MOON_LIGHT_88 on April 3rd, 2008

• thank you.

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  by Xtrmlyluckygal on April 3rd, 2008

• Good answer.

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  by A on July 7th, 2009

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• Good answer.

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  by A on July 7th, 2009

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• lots of good insight on this question. Right on the $

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  by giveiturall on June 16th, 2007

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• But they don't because many cheater blame it on everyone else but themselves. I'll say maybe 1% learn or stop cheating.

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  by anon on October 31st, 2009

• That's true. Many people who cheat wouldn't admit to themselves tghat it was their fault, although I do think more than 1% would learn from their mistakes.

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  by Anonymous on October 31st, 2009

• I hope so. I wish so. But I haven't seen it. Thank you.

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  by anon on October 31st, 2009

• You're welcome.

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  by Anonymous on November 1st, 2009

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• Why do you think that cheaters don't know how to love and have no feelings? Who says they live for the moment? You can't just make this blanket statement about everyone who has ever cheated because every situation is different.
   
  "Their morals are on the bottom of a deep pit"
   
  What do you know about their morals? What do you know about their situation?

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  by Aquatic Eagle on October 25th, 2009

• Eagle, think about it.
  Would you cheat on someone you loved with all your heart?
  You wouldn't be looking and you would not be tempted.
  You would never cheat on someone you loved because you would hurt your love, and love is not hurtful.
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  Cheaters live for the moment because they have a personality disorder. They want the sex at that moment than the permanence of a deep relationship. Every situation is of course, different, but has the same noncaring morals of a Cheater. If the Cheater truly loved, they would never cheat. They don't care about anyone else when they cheat. They don't care about spreading stds at that moment.
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  Afterwards, they may feel guilt, but their character is so pitiful that cheating is part of it: whether it is for self-fulfillment, loneliness, revenge, opportunity, lack of sex, etc.
  No cheater is ever so in love with their mate, they would rather work it out than cheat. Those that cheat have a 98% chance of cheating again.
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  by anon on October 25th, 2009

• There is NO situation in which cheating would solve or take care of any problem or would ever be necessary.
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  Eagle, I would bet that you have cheated more than twice.

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  by anon on October 25th, 2009

• You didn't say that the cheater shows no care for the one they are cheating on. You said that they don't know how to love. Period.
   
  How do you know that the person cheating isn't doing it BECAUSE they want a deep relationship and aren't getting it from the one they are with? Maybe they are married to someone who shows them no respect or love and can't afford a divorce. Maybe they find someone at work or a friend that they truly care for and that cares for them in return. They don't care about spreading STDs? Do you think that people who cheat are ignorant of condoms? Why can't you believe that an unfaithful person would use a condom?
   
  I'd be interested to know where you got your 98% figure. What scientific study was that?
   
  I would bet that you know nothing about me or my past and I would appreciate it if you would not continue your habit of making blanket statements when talking about my personal life.

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  by Aquatic Eagle on October 25th, 2009

• Well, did you cheat over 2 times?
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  I didn't say the cheater didn't care, they care when they want to; they do not know how to love or they would never think of cheating.
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  If married, they need to be open with their partner and get a separation instead of cheating and being deceitful. That's why I say they are liars. They won't be open and truthful until it is too late. A condom is useful, but for HPV and other infections, not 100%; you were the one that said an unfaithful person wouldn't use a condom, not me.
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  The statistics are out there. If you need a personal study of cheaters, I would charge. However, Yahoo is looking in that topic as one of its headlines.
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  You're right I know nothing about you or your past. The only thing I said about you personally is you fit the Cheater to a T and I knew you've cheated more than twice by your own comments. A cheater is always a cheater.
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  A cheater can definitely change but has a much stronger character than you do, Eagle.

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  by anon on October 25th, 2009

• "I think Cheaters do not know how to love, do not care or understand what hurt they inflict, enjoy the deceit, lie and live for the moment."
  This is where you said that they don't care.
   
  When did I ever say that an unfaithful person would not use a condom? Please quote me directly as I can't find anywhere that I said that.
   
  You provided the statistic. It's not my job to go looking for something to support it. That's your job.
   
  I find it amazing that you think you know so much about me. Apparently you KNOW that I've cheated more than twice. I haven't but thanks for the assumptions. Stronger character than me? The only thing you can know of my character is that I choose to be fair and not make blanket accusations and judgments of people based on one action. That's obviously one thing we don't have in common.

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  by Aquatic Eagle on October 25th, 2009

• Wow... You know, there are actually people who have cheated who are better partners than people who never have... It's weird to think about...

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  by A on October 31st, 2009

• I don't think Aquatic Eagle is one of them. I think cheaters who are better partners suddenly grew up to what life, love and feelings are about and are in the minority of cheaters. However, I also agree with you that just because someone does not cheat does not make them a good marriage partner.

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  by anon on October 31st, 2009

• "I also agree with you that just because someone does not cheat does not make them a good marriage partner." At least we can agree on that. Where did Aquatic Eagle say that he cheated, though?

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  by A on October 31st, 2009

• He denied it but with every instinct in me, he either has or is in the midst of an affair. If not, he is the most guilty sounding person I've heard. I would never trust him.

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  by anon on October 31st, 2009

• Okay, let's hear it from him... if he hasn't unsubscribed already. Have you cheated, AE?

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  by A on October 31st, 2009

• I couldn't care less whether or not you trust me or anything else you may think about me. I never said I haven't cheated. I said I hadn't cheated more than twice as that is what you asked. I have cheated before and I've learned more from that experience than anything else as far as relationships go.
   
  You think that some can cheat but still be better than those who haven't yet you don't think I'm one of them? Tell me how it is that you know so much about me from one conversation that you can make that judgment? You know nothing about me. You know nothing about what I had to go through with my partner to get past the mistake I made. You have no idea whether or not that made me a better person. You probably would condemn my wife (girlfriend at the time of the incident) because she gave me another chance. I can tell you this; I have learned an awful lot about you from this conversation. You are very judgmental and rude.

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  by Aquatic Eagle on November 1st, 2009

• "You probably would condemn my wife (girlfriend at the time of the incident) because she gave me another chance." This stood out to me... a lot. I've personally been affected by something similar. I was treated like shit and like I was stupid and an idiot for staying with a guy who cheated on me. A lot of the time, the other people treated me worse than my boyfriend at the time ever did. It's very hurtful and thoughtless on their part, especially when the guy has made a commitment to change and especially when he made that commitment on his own. That relationship didn't last, but I definitely learned how cruel this world is. AE, you know that you've changed. You know that you're a better person because of this and that you know that you've learned your lesson. Nothing anyone says will change that. I really respect that you're honest and able to admit to your mistakes. It says a lot about your character. I know I don't "know" you, but your words here have said a lot about you.

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  by A on November 1st, 2009

• Words can mean a lot and say a lot about a person. That's why I don't understand how Anonymous can have such a negative opinion of me from what I've said here. She/he seems to be a very judgmental person. I appreciate what you've said. The relationship my wife and I have has only gotten stronger since that incident years ago. Everyone makes mistakes. It takes a great quality to be able to forgive them.

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  by Aquatic Eagle on November 1st, 2009

• I'm glad your marriage has grown stronger. It says a lot about your emotional strength as well as hers. It's also nice to know that you haven't lost respect for her and you actually speak very well of her. :)

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  by A on November 1st, 2009

• She's the best part of my life. :-)

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  by Aquatic Eagle on November 1st, 2009

• :)

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  by A on November 1st, 2009

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• Sure, if they would. How many cheaters have you seen change vs. the ones who don't?

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  by anon on October 31st, 2009

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• Thanks Catherine.

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  by keithold is a prodigal bagger on June 23rd, 2009

• your welcome

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  by Catherine on June 23rd, 2009

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• Good answer, love the avatar!

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  by Melissa on April 17th, 2009

• Skeletor is awesome! Brings back so many childhood memories :p

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  by Starson on April 17th, 2009

• Thank you

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  by Brittany on April 17th, 2009

• Good answer.

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  by A on July 7th, 2009

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• Thank you

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  by Brittany on April 17th, 2009

• Good answer.

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  by A on July 7th, 2009

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• I don't disagree with that butttttt..why do they not just tell the person they are with that they want something else and break it off with one before starting up with another? :)

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  by DreAnna on July 9th, 2008

• fear? payback? I don't know. All i know is that cheating is a symptom and not a disease. People are led or pushed to cheat. The guy/gal just needs to figure out what caused him/her to do it.

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  by Someguy on July 9th, 2008

• Ha DreAnna has a point, and I like it. She wins.

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  by kaceesab__ch on July 9th, 2008

• :P I win :) LOL

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  by DreAnna on July 9th, 2008

• dammit! I hate losing!

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  by Someguy on July 9th, 2008

• Good answer.

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  by A on July 7th, 2009

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• Thank you for your help. I agree.

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  by Anonymous on July 26th, 2007

• You're welcome. And thank you.

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  by P. W. Pasobrio loves Marines on July 26th, 2007

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• Thank you thays good info:)

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  by Brittany on April 17th, 2009

• Good answer.

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  by A on April 17th, 2009

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• Thanks for being honest

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  by Brittany on April 17th, 2009

• Welcome :)

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  by Firebrand on April 17th, 2009

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• Thank you

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  by Brittany on April 17th, 2009

• You're welcome! (I actually didn't mean to sound 'snarky' in my answer---hope it didn't come across that way.)

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  by Trissinger on April 17th, 2009

• That's ok that's what I'm looking for

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  by Brittany on April 17th, 2009

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• Once again good answer bud!

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  by kaceesab__ch on July 9th, 2008

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• Good Answer:)

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  by MOON_LIGHT_88 on April 3rd, 2008

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• I meant to say cheater..TY

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  by justme32 loves the weekends on January 8th, 2007

• Yeah, but it makes sense the way you said it too. I just meant I'd change the second half of the saying to not always but more likely.

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  by Drublic on January 8th, 2007

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• This is a good answer and I dont know why you were downrated..Sry but I already gave my 4.

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  by justme32 loves the weekends on January 8th, 2007

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• Thanks

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  by Brittany on April 17th, 2009

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• Thanks

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  by Brittany on April 17th, 2009

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• Wow thanks

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  by Brittany on April 17th, 2009

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• Thanks

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  by Brittany on April 17th, 2009

• welcome

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  by . on April 17th, 2009

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• LOL
  I'm the banker to.

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  by Brittany on April 17th, 2009

• LOL! I like this one.

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  by A on April 17th, 2009

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• Thank you

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  by Brittany on April 17th, 2009

• You're welcome :)

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  by Anonymous on April 18th, 2009

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• I would have to agree

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  by Brittany on April 17th, 2009

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• Thanks

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  by Brittany on April 17th, 2009

• Sure :)

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  by sawzaz on April 20th, 2009