wow, i wish you all the best and hope she can fight her way through it. i was in a coma for 5 weeks and had to recover in a hospital for 4 months and the best thing my family could do is just BE there. They had to whatch and wait for me to heal myself. i know they wished they could save me but all they could do was wait. just be there for her ok? she needs you to be strong right now.

My best friend had stage 4 by the time she was brave enough to go get the constant bleeding checked. They did a radical hysterectomy and chemo also. By the time they operated though, she had a tumor the size of a large grapefruit pressing into her intestines. She is a survivor now, over 10 years. My boss was also had cervical cancer and had a hysterectomy with no chemo. She is fine - has just made the 5 year survivor mark I believe. Unfortunately in both their cases, it was due to straying husbands that had genital warts and didnt say anything and had unprotected sex with their spouses. I know you have gotten divorced but I still hope she is fine now - its a horrible thing to go through and you too, not just she, went through it.

Positive frame of mind, and treating the entire patient are two key things to keep in mind. I don't have personal experience with cervical cancer, however, when I was diagnosed with aggresive breast cancer at the age of 29, just as my mother had, my life expectancy was not very good. My mother passed at age 32. I will celebrate 17 years cancer free this September, so there is always hope, where there is faith! Keep a positive outlook, research the treatments available, and live each day to it's fullest! Good luck.

How are the two of you doing now? I remember how scared I was when I received a diagnosis of breast cancer. It was seven years ago, and I still worry from time to time that it might come back.

My mother had cervical cancer and after a hysterectomy and change in lifestyle, no drinking, healthy foods etc, she is just fine today. It's not a death sentence if you are worried. This was 10 years ago now. Good luck, have faith (they go hand in hand).

Wow, my wife went through this as well, she just hit her 1 year mark of being in remission. From my experience, it is probably the hardest thing I have had to go through in life. I never dreamed by the time I was 31 that I would have to help my wife with an IV because of dehydration and blood clotting while holding a newborn and trying to give him love and affection. Though the experience of going through the cancer with her was hard, the aftermath has been even harder. She has gained a lot of weight and is trying to shed the pounds, but is not having much luck due to the onset of menopause. She doesn't show affection towards me at all since it all happened and feels the need to carry guilt around because of it. She also uses the cancer diagnoses as a crutch. Before cancer, if there was something that was challenging or seemed impossible, she would go for it; now, she says she can't and if approached about it she often retaliates with "Don't you know I have cancer"... I guess it will just take time. She often senses my tension with the whole situation and says "I wish I wouldn't fought so hard to beat the cancer because that way you could live a normal life"...makes me feel like crap, but in a way, I understand where her mind is at and I just wish there was something I could do to fix the situation. I know this whole rant doesn't probably make too much sense but it is all I can seem to write at the moment. The only thing that keeps me here in the marriage is remembering who she used to be and hoping I can help her make it back to being that person again someday

I just had pre-cervical cancer removed, and it was very scary, they didn't knock me out, they just numbed my lower half and removed the cells. I am still recovering, but I guess with all of the technology advancements now this situation is easily resolved, without long term effects, just about a years worth of follow up exams and I should be in the clear. I'm sure there is a bit of a difference between the actual cancer and pre-cancer, I'm sure her Dr will help her as much as possible. good luck!