He loves you and chose to be with you. He also loved his ex wife enough to marry her and part of him probably still cares for her but he sounds like he got hurt in the relationship, thus being angry at times. She will always be a part of his past, its just too bad he doesnt keep it "in the past". If there are kids involved and you didnt say there was, he will most likely be a part of her life for the rest of his kids life. Maybe when he mentions it you could say" that was in the past". He might need counseling to get past it.

I would be the ex and from my experiences I can tell you he's still in love with his ex-wife and the only reason he is not still with her is because SHE doesn't want him. If she ever changed her mind, he would leave you in a heartbeat. Hate to break it to you.

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While it is possible that you are a rebound, I don't think we can tell with the information given here. let me tell you my story. - I am divorced. I still love my ex-wife, I always will. There are a few ex-girlfriends that I still love. I am not with those women anymore, and I will never be again, but that does not stop me from loving them. However, it is a different kind of love. Perhaps affection is a better word, but it is different from the ove you have for someone when they are with them. - Secondly, he may be talking about her doo much, but is it really too much. Without knowing either of you, I feel I should point out that if it is something that really bothers you, it is possible that you would key in on the few times he mentions it. - I'm not sure this is really coherent (I should go to bed), but I think you need to really find out what he is feeling. Ask him, talk with him. If he won't open up, leave him.

It's possible you are a "rebound" relationship, but I've found that those CAN work... You both just have to be sure that your love is real, and is not a reaction to a prior relationship. My ex-wife left me because she fell out of love with me. We'd been together 15 years, married 13, and had two boys. Now, she still loves me (and I her), but not in the "marriage" or "relationship" way any more. For a time, while both of us were single, there were thoughts of sex, but doubts we would ever get back as a relationship. Some do, but most don't. Now, she met a guy, and I met a lady. We dated our respective partners for some time. Does that mean we no longer love each other? No. And I may be able to say it more because SHE left me, not the other way around. Also, we'd spent 15 years together. That last statement is the fact that for 15 years we'd been one. She knew everything about me, and vice versa. I always worried that I would talk too much about her (I don't think I did... I DID talk about her) or compare too much (I don't believe I did at all - well MUCH.) Again, SHE was my vast experience in love. How am I NOT to talk about her? Now, though, I'm married. After I reassured my wife that just because I mention her or other relationships I've had doesn't mean I WANT them any more, we've been able to move past that part, and now, when our past relationships are mentioned, no one gets jealous... no one gets (too) upset. So, remember that having been in a long-term relationship (obviously - he was married), so you have to expect that he will talk about things she did that you don't, or that she didn't that you do do. This doesn't mean he doesn't love you, but that things are different. In part, he may simply be trying to adjust. Remember, also, that he may still love her. If she left him, then it's more likely, but even if he left her (for whatever reason), he may still love her. Try to understand. We DO understand that when we talk too much about the ex that it bothers and confuses you, as far as OUR relationship goes. Early on, it's still confusing to us. (This - and my - situation kinda gives lie to that question I answered the other day asking why GUYS can get over relationships so much quicker than girls!) You have to discuss the situation with HIM. Tell him that it bothers you - you understand, but it feels like he's saying you're not good enough. He should be able to reassure you that this is not the case. If he can't, then you have a decision to make. Good luck. ;-)

It is very possible that you are the rebound GF. However, if you really care for him and it seems you do. I would let him know that his constant discussions about her bother you. Another option is to immediately change the topic anytime that he brings her up.

Its not like that . But if he talks with you about her then change the topic that time only. Ask him to talk something regarding he himself, his living style and whatsoever you want.

I have been having the same issue as you are, except he hasn't confessed that he still loves her. Almost every time we talk, he brings up something that they did together. I have to say its getting to me. He does say bad things about her too. But every time he talks about her, I can't help but think he needs to get of the past and move on since he has a new life now. I have an ex-husband too, but I don't reminisce the way he does. I constantly think about the future we may have together. I am not sure how to handle this.

Yes, he hasnt closed that chapter of his life, he still thks there might be a chance and until he does close it, you are just someone to spend time with.

That depends on his ability to properly gage things. He could just be honest, and in that case you need not find fault in him for that or he might stop trusting and or respecting you. Or, he is just REALLY selfish and a bit on the ignorant side for admitting something like that out loud to his present girlfriend. We don't know him or live with him, so only you can tell the difference. But I have the feeling that it should be easy if you remove paranoia and see it objectively.

Not wanting to pour cold water on your feelings and emotions, but does this question really belong in the "Songs & Lyrics" category? Unless you are looking for songs that either may help you pull yourself together, or even simply looking for songs that are about a similar theme. In that case ... Icehouse - "Jericho Bay" Swanee - "Temporary Heartache" The Beatles - "Anna (Go To Him)" The Beatles - "This Boy" 10cc - "I'm Not In Love" 1927 - "If I Could" Timi Yuro - "Only Love Can Break A Heart" Meatloaf - "Two Out Of Three Ain't Bad" The Who - "Substitute" Bryan Adams - "Do I Have To Say The Words" How's that for starters?

I just went through this. She never left us alone! I thought things were going to change and they didn't. He just broke up with me! You might not be the rebound girl but he isnt ready. He will leave you if she changes her mind and I don't want to see that happen to someone else it hurts too much.