This is a question that begs a question in response: what does it matter?
If you have met someone that you would like to have as a friend, it does not matter whether they are male or female. Neither does their sexual orientation matter, whether it is hetero-, homo-, bi-sexual, or celibate.
If you currently have a close friend with whom you would like to form an intimate relationship, there are only two issues to consider. First, does this person want to form such a relationship with you? Second, is this person of compatible sexual orientation? A male trying to form an intimate relationship with a heterosexual male, a homosexual female, or a celibate of either sex would run into difficulties. However, this type of information tends to be exposed naturally through the course of a good friendship..
Just about the only place where a question like this would have any relevance, would be if you were interested in marrying or establishing a common-law relationship with this person AND you want her to be the biological mother of your mutual children. Since a transgendered male-to-female is infertile, this could put a hitch in your plans. However, many couples are unable to have children because one or both of them is infertile. The reason for their infertility is unimportant, unless it is a health-related condition that can be reversed by a lifestyle change (e.g., nutrition). There are many paths around fertility barriers, with adoption being probably the best.
At that stage, it is also important to know what your both want with respect to a family. If one of you wants children and the other doesn't, there would be friction in the relationship. If one of you adamantly wants one or two children and the other definitely wants three, four, or more... again friction. This type of conflict has contributed to the breakup of more than one marriage in history.
However, since this is 'Relationships / Dating / Early Stages', checking out your mutual breeding capabilities and desires just might be a tad premature.
Reply: A transgendered male-to-female is female. Therefore, a male having a relation with such a person would be having a 'straight' relationship.
Further: Traditionally, sexual assignment has been viewed as dependent on pairings of the X and Y chromosomes. An XY person is considered male and a YY person, female. However, other combinations exist that muddy this interpretation (i.e., XXY, XYY, and XO). These cases are more ambiguous, but it is generally accepted today, medically and legally, that the presence of an X chromosome does not automatically make a person male. Other supporting evidence is required.
Sexual assignment is partially dependent on other parameters, including genetic factors that are independent of the sex chromosomes and conditions such as prenatal / postnatal hormonal changes. There is also a significant role played by community preferences.
Gender assignment surgery has frequency been performed at birth in ambiguous cases. In some cases, the assignments have been proven incorrect or inappropriate. The choice of sex may be based on frivolous factors, such as selecting an ‘easier’ surgical procedure or by sexual-cultural bias. Assignments and reassignments are also performed at puberty, sometimes to correct mistaken assumptions from the birth assignment.
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Well folks, I don't make it a habit to assess every person I meet for their potential in the sack at the instant we meet. There are other, more interesting things to hold my attention. I think it unutterable rude if someone who I met casually were to ask personal questions about my sexual orientation and preferences. Such questions tell me that the only thing on their mind is sex and that's no foundation on which to build a friendship. As I stated, as a friendship progresses one learns quite a bit about the other person. One does not need to ask, as the information eventually will flow of its own accord. And I am not intolerant enough to reject people I meet based on thier visible or assumed sexuality.
Comments
Being that I'm straight, it matters a great deal to me that my partner is female!!!
by HungryGuy on October 10th, 2005
Agree with Hungry Guy. A *REAL* female, not a male surgically-altered to appear female.
by Anonymous on October 22nd, 2005
This is a good answer - I wouldn't date someone for their chromosomes, but for their personality
by Grandma Roses - my avatar is my real dog on October 25th, 2005
GR: Being willing to date someone for their personality, regardless of their gender, makes you gay (or at least bisexual). Nothing wrong with that--live and let live, I say. But some of us aren't gay, which is also our prerogative.
by HungryGuy on August 29th, 2006
Grandma Roses: I don't object to your right to be gay/bi. So please grant me the right to be straight even if you can't understand it.
And wow! I actually agree with Bob Blaylock on something...
by HungryGuy on March 18th, 2011