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by Phillip on August 21st, 2007

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Did you almost become gay, but chose not to?

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  • by Phillip on August 21st, 2007

    Phillip

    Here is my story.

    I did not choose the gay lifestyle, but I could have. When I was school age, I was a loner. I didnt have many friends. Especially male friends. (Im a guy)

    Growing up, I never had anything in common with other guys. They liked cars and working on cars, sports and playing sports, and girls.

    I didnt like any of the above, so I had nothing to talk to guys about. Because of this, gay guys just assumed that I must be gay and approached me and wanted to do things.

    I was afraid of saying anything to anyone, so I even played along a little bit. Oh, I never let any of them do anything, but I also was too afraid to run away.

    So for several years, I was labeled in school as gay. Rumors abounded about me.

    I say this because it would have been very very easy to give into this. I could have just assumed that I was indeed gay.

    But I was not. I was a late bloomer. About 1 year of so after I gradguated, I finally began to see women as attractive. I didnt even kiss my first girl until was 26, but it did happen.

    So the moral of the story is that just because I might have had some sort of homosexual tendacies or something that made me a target for gays, and had nothing in common with guys, I did not becomes gay.

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    • Even if you'd gone along with those people it wouldn't have made you homosexual. You don't suddenly become gay from spending time with homosexual people or even having sex with the same gender. Sexuality isn't a choice in the way you make it out to be.

      Tom

      by Tom on August 21st, 2007

    • Phillip, you have a very confused concept of what homosexuality is. It's not some club that people can recruit you into, nor is it about traits like not liking cars or sports.
       
      It's about liking MEN.
       
      Rock-hard sweaty sexy men.
       
      At any point during this little ordeal of yours did you find yourself looking at men with lustful intent? Did you ever find yourself fantasizing about the captain of the football team, or that hot guy three seats in front of you in Math class- the one with the big brown eyes and strong jaw with a slight cleft chin?
       
      No? Really? Wow.
       
      Then guess what- you were not gay, and it was impossible for you to "choose" to become gay! You were just a straight boy woefully uneducated in human sexuality.
       
      Even at the height of your confusion you would have known exactly what your sexual orientation was the first time an erect penis was heading your way.

      Magenta

      by Magenta on August 21st, 2007

    • Phillip, take a look at the man in the advertisement in the right-hand column. "Real Jock- Great Guys, Workouts and More".
      How do you feel while looking at that guy's body?
      If you have absolutely no desire for that man, you are NOT gay, and no club membership will make you gay.

      Magenta

      by Magenta on August 21st, 2007

    • problem here is, you cannot "become" or "choose" to be gay, nor can you be "recruited" to be gay. it doesn't happen that way. it's genetic. we are all born pre-disposed to one orientation or another. most of us don't have any kind of attraction to anyone until puberty.
      if you were never attracted to men in the first place, you never would have "become" gay.

      redcatt63 is around here somewhere......

      by redcatt63 is around here somewhere...... on October 6th, 2007

    • redcatt-"Genetic?" where does it say that?then why are people straight for many years and then they become gay?even though they never had those thoughts before?

      Bart

      by Bart on May 25th, 2008

    • Bart...I know this for a fact from personal experience. Many of us are raised being taught that being gay is wrong/sinful..something that we should be ashamed of (or something that would bring "shame" to the family. So, there are many who "try" to live a straight life. They live in denial and try to supress those feelings. But many later realize they can't live a lie and be miserable, so they come out later. This is "turning" or "choosing" to be gay, it's choosing to be honest. My partner and ex-husband (and his partner) are examples of this...as well as many other people we know

      redcatt63 is around here somewhere......

      by redcatt63 is around here somewhere...... on May 25th, 2008

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