There are always two sides to each story and to avoid a lot of drama I would suggest waiting to take it to the next level until the papers are at least filed.

You don't know that his marriage is horrible unless you are his wife's sister or something. Then that would be a whole different story. Anyways... you should not be a home wrecker leave this married man alone woman and if he is truly unhappy in his marriage then eventually he will be divorced and you can have him and figure out for yourself what his wife had to deal with. By your question you sound like you are about to have sex with him and that would be a big mistake. There are enough single guys why do want to sleep with one that is commited by law and in the eyes of God to another woman.

Run. I've heard this story more times than I can even tell you. It always ends the same. This is a man who lies and cheats on his wife and family. He's lying to you now. It can end 2 ways. Either he'll use you up with no intentions of ever walking out on his family, eventually crying to his wife how sorry he was that he let you seduce him OR you will pressure him enough so that he finally DOES leave his family and then you'll find yourself in the place of the evil, unreasonable wife as he cheats on you and tells the next girl what he has to tell her to get her in bed. Smarten up and run. He's no good and either way he will try to make you the bad guy.

If his marriage is so horrible and he has wanted out for so long, why is he still there? you should do exactly what you yourself said you should...ignore your feelings and walk away. As long as he is married, he is unavailable to be with you except on a part time basis and usually just for extra marital sex. Even if he does get a divorce, it may wise to remember that, all too often..if they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you. Of course, that is not always the case, but it happens often enough that it bears considering.

Keep your distance. If he really want's out he'll get out, then you can move ahead in a relationship with him.

Nothing good ever came from wrecking a marriage. It's bad karma. You hurt alot of people in the process and its not worth the hassle. If this married guy you are thinking of cheating with has kids you will have to deal with flucuating weekends when he has the kids. He will most likely be broke after a divorce cause half goes to the wife and a good percentage goes to child support. He will end up living in a cramped 1 bedroom apartment looking like a typical cliche. Do you really want to see this happen? Also, regardless if they get divorced there still are the kids to think about. How do you feel about playing the role of stepmom?. You dont live together with this guy yet and living together as a full-time couple reality will eventually set in (it's not all strawberry fields forever) - too much drama if you ask me...that ex is tied to him for the rest of his life like it or not. You will have to deal with her and her scrutiny on a regular basis. Do you really want to be the one who helped destroyed a relationship? It's between the wife and husband to work out their differences and problems. You arent helping the situation being in the picture. How about taking a hiatus from the guy for awhile? See how things play out. From the sounds of it, you are his backup plan when things go south with the wife... Smarten up... oh and one more thing...married guys talk a good game about leaving their wives. Trust me on this when I say to you...when guys find out how much it is going to cost them to walk they all adhere to the same guiding principle..."It's cheaper to keep her"...

ignore your feelings, and walk away. You can find someone else. There are millions out there.

You would do best to find a man that isn't in such a omplicated sitatuion. It usually takes "two to tango" and maybe he is contributing to this "horrible marriage".

I came back to read others answers on this and I have got to add this: You are still going to do him aren't you??

If he cheats WITH you, he will cheat ON you.

Talk to him about how you feel. If he feels the same way, tell him he has to end things with his wife before anything will happen between you, and let him make his own choices. If he doesn't feel the same way, let them be and move on. Don't involve yourself while he is still with someone. If he is not willing to take the necessary steps to end his marriage, and not willing to wait to be with you until he does, then he obviously does not really want to be with you. No matter how horrible his marriage may be, if he is not willing to end it before seeing if the two of you would work, then he cares more about his wife/kids/situation than he does about any potentials with you (or anyone else), and it is futile to persue it. In the end, it all boils down to being honest with him and being willing to face the consequences, whether they are what you are hoping for or not.

first of all, ALL married men who want to cheat claim that their marriage is aweful and she is such a...... I know, because I fell for it! In most cases, it turns out, the marriage is fine other than the cheating, and NO, he wont leave her! When you two get caught, he will tell everyone what a whore you are and how you pursued him beyond the point of reason. Ask any woman who has been there!

Oh God are you that naive that you believe his marriage is awful? Why, because he told you it is? Let me tell you something, a man can have a wonderful, caring, loving wife, she could be gorgeous, fulfilling all his needs, have wonderful kids, have all a man could ask for, and he would STILL cheat w/any girl that would let him, regardless of her looks or personality, to them p... is p..., not to sound crude but that's what it is. Then if SHE actualy smartens up and leaves him, he'll be kissing her a.. and begging her to come home. You will never be number one, she will always be. And he will never care for you as he does her, you'll be his side peice of a.. and karma is real so watch out.

your setting yourself up for trouble. He using you, he tells you his problems, you feel sorry for him, he's misunderstood by his wife and his unhappy etc. etc blah blah blah tell me did you ever asked him what did he do wrong in the mariage? why is he discussing his problems with you? why not his wife? He wants to see if you will feel sorry for him and take the bait. You have you pitty him and now you want to rescue him. He will use you it is obvious he is looking for a relationship thats secure than his marriage ...because if he was that miserable he would of left along time ago ..stop trying to heal your selfish needs it is obivious you are your lonely. your are setting yourself for a big fall.. Run Run run let him leave his wife first. then see if he can be fateful to you. lesson lerned.

Been there, done that, not once but twice. The truth is that most married men do not leave their wives for another woman. They say they will, they may even think they will but in the end they don't, especially if they have kids. Are you prepared to play second fiddle? Walk away now before you are in so deep you will have difficulty emotionally breaking the tie. If he leaves his wife, then you can re-evaluate your feelings. Good luck.

Tell him to call you one year after his divorce.

Walk away, the excuses just keep changing.

He tells you his marriage is horrible. Wonder what the wife thinks.

Ask yourself the following questions and you'll find your answer. 1. Do I deserve a man who ONLY wants to be with me? 2. Am I just lonely and need attention from a man even if he's married? 3. Am I desperate to find a man? 4. How would I feel if the man I loved did this to me? 5. What if he's just lying to me? And, he is. 6. Will this hurt innocent people? YES! 7. Is it worth it in the end? NEVER! 8. Why am I so willing to hurt innocent people? 9. Why do I believe he wouldn't do this to me? 10.What will I gain from destroying someone's marriage? Absolutely, nothing, but painful, unexpected, consequences.

One thing to understand. A married man telling you that his marriage is horrible and that he's wanted out for a long time, is one of the most common lies married men tell to woman, that they want to attract as a mistress. He is lying to you, just so he can use you. His chances of ever really leaving his wife are very slim. I say run, don't walk, away as fast as you can.

Now remember that you are the only one in this situation, so he will give up his wife for you, he will only think of you and YOU are the most important thing in his life. Does that sound like a crock - I hope you can see this, this man is a looser and you are going to be hurt, run, run far away and tell yourself that you will never fall for one of the oldest tricks in the book. Married men who cheat are not a good one to pick, honest!

He will never leave his wife.

How do you know what his marriage is like? If he's wanted out "for a long time," why hasn't gotten out yet?

It appears that you already KNOW the answer to the question as YOU posted it in your question ... " I know I should ignore my feelings for him and walk away......" How do you KNOW he is really in a "Horrible" marriage ? All you have is what HE tells you ; Right ? I'd be putting on those running shoes and get steppin'. Once a CHEAT ... he'll PROBABLY Cheat again , maybe on YOU. Just suppose his wife named you in a suit for "Alieniation of affection" ... ? Besides; Don't you want a man of your very own .. who comes HOME to YOU ?

Run, run, run away....never, ever look back and be glad you didn't stoop to having sex with the lying, cheating bastard! And stay away from married or otherwise attached people. Don't give them so much as the time of day. There are enough single people out there to find one who is yours and only yours. BTW...every man or woman I've ever known that cheated with a married man/woman were told the same thing; his/her marriage is horrible & he/she wanted out for a longtime! If they wanted out, they wouldn't still be MARRIED! Don't believe everything you hear!

Mostly men that cheat will tell you how bad the wife is, and usually it is nonsense. It is just a way to make you feel sorry for him. If he would leave his wife and come to you, bet me, several months/years down the road he would feed some other innocent lady the same line about you. How do I know this? My first husband was exactly like what you are describing. He told his dad I did not even cry a tear when his mom died and that was such B S! and after he got rid of me and went to the lady he had on the side, which I found out a few months later, and she didnt even know we were still married, he had been telling her we were split up and when she moved in our house and she saw my stuff still there she was like OMG what did I get myself into, yet she stayed til he did the same thing to her and he had even told me how bad of a wife she was and the wife #3 that he left for another woman was also so 'bad' to him, well let me tell you there is such a sad story with this one and she was NOT the bad one!! SO see my dear it goes on and on and on and they never change PLEASE take all of the advice you have been given and turn you back and walk away as fast as you can and find someone that will be true to you and love you completely!! Good luck!!!!

You can do better than a married man--just like he can do better than a single woman-- that's why he's married. Regardless of your feelings, get out of this relationship immediately. It will lead you nowhere fast. Your feelings are based on emotions--not love. You are using your feelings to justify your action because you know the action is wrong. Your decision should be according to what's right and what's wrong-- not on 'feelings'--which are totally unstable.

Of course he is going to tell you his marriage is horrible. How else would he be able to prime you to have a sexual encounter? If he was telling you how great his wife is etc...it wouldn't encourage you to think you have a chance with this guy. Let him work out his marriage and get a divorce before you make the mistake of thinking you are somehow going to be special. Look at it this way: There is no law that prevents him from getting a divorce, so his excuse of wanting out for a long time doesn't hold water. If this guy cheats with you (I know you said nothing has occured yet ) what is to prevent him from cheating on you if you two became a couple when he feels that his relationship with you is *horrible*?

I think you should remember true love never comes at the expense of someone else and not do or encourage anything. There is nothing special about winning someone over in a situation like this. It sounds like something with a storybook beginning but a big hollywood ending.

You only know what he tells you and wants you to know...of course he gonna say his marriage sucks and he wants out..if he wants out for so long and so badly why he still in it? he dont want out he just thinks the grass will be greener and he will do the same to you if you are ever together

You know may be its true that his married life sucks, but he won't leave his wife for you. But it may be his love for you is really true, and he has feelings for you.

What does it matter what we say? Adultery is against the law of God.

he tells you that his marriage is horrible........ do he gave you commitment if no then just move on with your life leaving him....... coz u dont worth him.........and dont involve physically with him.................if you love him then decide for your future plan something for both of you

Hi, I see already many of our friends have given very good advices. Please ignore your feelings for this man and live your own life. This guy married his wife and he is the best person to solve his problems. Please be away from all this not only with this guy, same with any other married man.

does he have kids .do u . if so dont stray aint fair on kids .

e is a cheater and once a cheater always a cheater. Save yourself heartache. kick his rear to the curve and do not get involved with the married guy. If he wanted out he could be out. He is lying to you. All he has to do id leave and there is not bull like I can't leave bacause of the kids, I can't leave cause she will take everything. He does not leave because he does not want to and he just wants to have a good time with you. do not be a fool ofr him.

fuch him hard and then see if he would leave tha horriable marriege

You must wait for him to end his marriage 100% before you proceed. Why would you want a man who can't give all of himself to you. You deserve better. (But, this is what usually happens when people mess with the married)

...And don't let anything sexual happen beteen you until he has sorted his own life out. If he cannot, leave him be and look elsewhere. As they say, there are plenty of fish in the sea.

............if his marriage is so horrible as he claims then why has he not ended it?

OK well before u start anything sexual i would suggest that he gets out of the marriage and starts the process of a divorce. Just because he is feeling unhappy does not mean he is in love with you, it could be that he is using you as an escape so be carefulPr

That will happen soon(sex ).

Innocent people includes, the wife, children, in-laws,and grandparents. It sounds like you're trying to blame the wife for this affair. And, if the wife did cheat, it still doesn't give her husband the right to cheat on her.

If he is not happily married and is wanting out, then you are doing no harm, you have nothing to feel guilty about, go ahead and enjoy!

un-fall in love with him. he's not yours to fall in love with.

I'd put the brakes on sex until he is free as he says he wants to be Being a side dish is not a life.

His story is to get your simphaty, he just want sex from you. Real man won't tell a bad thing about his marriage or their bad wife to other people.

Are you sure his marriage is horrible are you sure he has wanted out for a long time!!!!! i bet you his wife doesnt know this!!!!!! its crap when men say that! if he wanted to be with you and wanted his marriage to end it would be already! men say this crap so they can have their cake and eat it!!! and we silly girls fall for it everytime!!!!! Wake up!!!!

If his marriage is horrible enough he would have ended it. Obviously he's getting something out of it. So leave him alone and find someone that is free to love you in a way you deserve, someone who respects both you and himself, instead of someone who is flirting with disloyalty.

if he wanted out so long then why is he still with his wife!!!!!! Its a love triangle my dear once you entangle yourself it'll be very dificult to go out of it!!! better you change your way and leave him