Does seeming uninterested and aloof actually work when it comes to guys? Or is an upfront approach better?
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pinky866
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If its a ploy, it's a ploy. What I would recommend is not playing "the game" of trying to anticipate what someone else is going to want...because that is disingenuous. The reason that people get stuck unsuspectingly in terrible relationships is because both partners are pretending to be something or someone they're not. I would recommend being genuine. If you are upfront, be upfront. If you're aloof, be aloof. At least you will be real.
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If you don't just let things happen naturally and not worry about how you act, you're gonna have a lot of problems.
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No, women play hard to get and generally do not aggressively pursue someone who is uninterested and aloof.
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If a woman does not give me a glance, I will reciprocate by completely ignoring her. It doesn't work on me, but then I am very patient and do not need to score. (married) lol. Since I got married I have noticed women trying harder toward me than before I married, a woman friend of mine told me this is because women are evil and base, they will go after the satisfied and experienced rather than the lonely and needy. But what do I know, I'm not a woman.
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I can only speak for myself on this, but I tend to interpret that as a lack of interest ... being aloof, that is.
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that makes us wonder but too much of it and we'll think your not interested at all.
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you cant generalise - different actions cause different reactions - some might find you a challenge, some might think youre not interested - its horses for courses
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I've never understood why people think this works. Why would someone genuinely be interested in someone who didn't seem to like them or care about them? I think if you really like someone, how much better to be honest instead of playing games and showing the other person you are sincere.
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I've found that being straight forward and honest always works better...I'm pretty laid back and it's too much work to keep the front up all the time
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guys are not mind readers. if you act uninterested, they will think you're uninterested. i think the sexiest trait in another person (for both sexes) is when someone finds you attractive. that magnetism and their appreciation of you is a total turn-on. however, it's not a sure-fire technique ~ it won't work if they aren't attracted to you physically. but overall, letting him know you're into him is the best way to get his attention. be subtle at first, then turn it on hotter as soon as he picks up your signal. just don't overdo it...
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No, it doesn't work. Not. At. All. If a woman becomes aloof, I walk away. If a woman pulls that kind of nonsense with me, she's blown it utterly. I have no time for a woman who plays games... after all, if she plays games before you're even dating, how bad will the head games be if things get serious? What I do have time for is a woman who comes across as honest, genuine, and interested. There's nothing sexier than a woman who asks a guy out.
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Some guys are interested in the chase, some guys get turned off by it, and some guys just aren't good at it. It's a mixed bag to say the least.
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A guy will truly like you if he is persistent. A uninterested or aloof approach will more likely tell him that you're not interested, but it can work when it comes to guys. A guy will ignore you if you seem aloof and uninterested, but some guys are interested in getting to know you. You should be a little more upfront to show interest in the guy that you're interested in.
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Look, when women "act" like they are not interested in you but yet they really it because they're a little embarrassed. Often times, beforehand, they've already dropped "I'm interested hints" and you've reciprocated. If it's in the workplace be careful. After you've found out their little secret they start to become 'hot and cold' with you, which is very odd. They want to play it safe and wait it out so they "pretend" that the hints that they dropped really weren't real. What is that? My advice is to play it cool as well. Hell, if they're into you, what's the hold-up?????
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