• Both. Usually if you are giving the correct kind of attention, then you are giving the correct kind of discipline. The attention reduces, but does not eliminate, the need for discipline.
  • It is lazy parenting.
  • Maybe a little bit of both. My child is just starting to need discipline-I try to be careful to determine if she is just trying to get attention or if she is just being naughty on purpose. I don't punish cries for attention-I just change the situation into something more fun and interactive. My child is very small and we are both learning. I'm sure my answer will be different after years of parenting.
  • A little bit of both. Although we are reaching a more enlightened, and thus less barbaric, society, somehow a smack on the ass is abuse. I'm 16 and can personally say that while I was not smacked nearly as much as my father was, the few that got landed were extremely effective in teaching me how to act. I can also say that while my parents are in no way perfect, they have done an impressive job in molding me into a polite, well-behaved young man. This is likely due to the fact that I am an only child and spent a great deal of time with them as a child. Unfortunately this has put me into the mindset that I am just chilling with friends, and they see this as a lack of respect. While we don't get along flawlessly at this time, the lesons that they have taught me still hold, and will likely do so for a very long time.
  • When not caused by medical issues, I believe it is caused by a continued lack of consistent and compassionate parenting skills.
  • Lack of consistent discipline...........both parents work so lack of attention is also a variable.
  • yeah, likely both,.. I've observed that too much of either creates misbehacving children. I despise people who believe all bad children just need attention(and basically spoiling) or believe the vice versa; that bad children only need discipline. Really, we are all humans who need balance in everything, and I mean EVERYTHING
  • That's kind of like, which has more influence on your personality, nature vs nurture. I think it takes a metered amount of both for well adjusted kids. Too much of either can also cause undesired personality traits. Or in my case, our soon to be daughter will be half of my genetic make up. I'm so screwed...
  • I think some of both. It is hard to raise kids in the world today. I am strict on my kids, but I also spend lots of time with them just having fun. Life is all about balance. My parents taught me how NOT to raise my children! I just do the best I can, and hope that is good enough to for them to grow into wonderfully, loved adults.
  • I think lack of discipline IS a lack of attention. You have to bother to pay attention to your kids in order to discipline them properly. I also echo the chorus that is both, together, that make the difference. I sat in a hospital waiting room last week for an hour watching a mother repeatedly yell at her son to stop that, sit down and behave, but she never did anything. She did not get out of her chair, she did not act upon her idle threats to punish him, nor did she praise him when, after he spilled his pretzels all over the chair, he went and cleaned it himself. She did not interact with him, she just stared at the TV and played with her cell phone. The little boy wandered over to another mother nearby who was reading to her daughter (they were close in age) and he sat with them, well-behaved, and listened to the story. It was the perfect illustration of lack of discipline AND lack of attention.
  • The former
  • Lazy parents and just plain BAD and INCOMPETENT parents. STUPID MORONS who think BEATING children is anything resembling discipline. Discipline isn't beating your kids into submission (or "spanking"as some pansies who are too chicken or too stupid or in too much denial to admit they are abusive parents call it). It includes rewarding good behavior. All hitting your kids teaches them is to hit when they're mad or scared. You can discipline children without hitting them. And it's time people realize it. There are many things people can do to discipline children that don't involve putting hands on them. The problem is that people keep rewarding the wrong behavior types. No one does anything without a payoff for it. And if children have to act up to get attention, that's what they'll do. The bottom line is that bad parents are the reason for so many bad children.
  • It could be an overdose of discipline, or attention that does it. You never know with kids. The surest way is to give them guidelines to abide by, and show them in your own actions the way you want them to be. Kids will be kids though, and don't forget, in today's day and age, the influence of your house, isn't the only influence in that kids life anymore.
  • Both. It's a lack of consistent consequences that self teach a child that bad behavior isn't acceptable.
  • a lack of training of proper behaviour and to avoid bad behaviour creates badly behaved kids
  • if a lack of discipline and alot of attention happens then i think kids will be fine....but a lack of attention and inconsistent behavior from adults will create very poorly behaved kids
  • Sometime it's a little of both but sometime if you discipline to much then they just figure what the sence of being good I'm going to get discplined anyway.
  • Inconsistent disciplining. But it's hard, especially when you have a child who is always testing the limits. I really do think outside factors influence children to misbehave badly as well. In other words, there's so much parents have to deal with and outside influences are not making parenting any easier.
  • it depends. if the mom comes home drunk every night and her husbands in jail id have to go with lack of attention. its usual the parents falt.
  • a combination of those two things.... and genes (i personally think)
  • I think it is the lack of correct attention and wrong discipline that creates badly behaved kids
  • Both, if they are not being paid attention then they probably aren't being disciplined.

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