What would you do if you found out your husband was sexually abusing your kids? and you love your husband and had a good life..
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Sexyrabbit
ANSWERS: 44
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If my (hypothetical) s/o was abusing my (even more hypothetical) children, I would immediately seperate the two, as in that instant. Either, take the kids to the neighbor, or a trusted friend, or call the police to remove my s/o. I would then take the children to see a counselor. I would then tell my s/o to get counseling, and if my s/o didn't, I would gather evidence against my s/o, and press charges.
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I'm sorry love or not his ass is going to prison.
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Kick him out or grab the kids and leave. Press charges and send him to prison. Get counseling for yourself and your children. There is no happy ending when a child has been sexually abused, but do anything you can to minimize the damage. Most of all, don't wait.
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I feel very strongly towards sexual abuse. It's never ever okay to seuxally abuse anyone- but maybe psychologically he needs help? Maybe it happened to him as a child? He has to know that it's not right to sexually abuse your own child, but went along with it anyway- something is wrong? It's so hard- because it's wrong, immoral, disgusting, anything negative that you could possibly think of. But when I think of sexual abuse, I think someone needs serious help. Kids get sexually abused everyday, but the kids who are sexually abusing other kids were obviously sexually abused by someone else. Where did they learn those actions? You need to get your husband and child help.
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It is your responsibility to report this abuse to the authorities. Why do people think it will never happen in their home? Well, because many people are in denial and believe the line, "it will never happen to me", and then when they least expect it, it just might end up happening.
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I would leave my husband (with my children obvioulsy) and report him to the police. There is no doubt for a second about this, no matter how much of a loving relationship i thought we had.
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My children mean more to me than anyone or anything, and he wouldn't be breathing a second after I found out.
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If I found out my spouse was touching my kids, I'd castrate him and then call the cops. It goes without saying that our relationship would be over. People always think things won't happen to them. It's the feeling of immortality and invincibility. Unfortunately it takes something like this to get it through that it happens when you least expect it.
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I would immediately move out with my kids and file charges and divorce him. I would never tolerate such behavior. In fact, I am passionately against that type of crap.
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you should throw them out and report him to the police. no man including your husband should come before your children. the hardest thing for any child is admitting it is happening in the first place without having thier other parent take thier abusers side. the child has to live with the damage all thier lives. i know i have been there. sweeping it under the carpet so it doesnt ruin your life makes you as much a part of the abuse as they are.
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Get the kids out NOW! Watch Dr. phil from yesterday and conclusion today. It deals with sexual abuse and the Mother knew and didn't do anything, along with a lot of information about how your children might suffer in the long run with this. Having a GOOD life does not make it okay for him to abuse these children. If you let it happen you might as well have done it yourself. Get help NOW!
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If I found out, with proof- not just word-of-mouth, I would turn him in to the cops, take my kids and get as far away as possible. I don't care how good our life was or how much I may have loved him, I can not be with a man who would hurt his own children.
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I would EXECUTE him. No thought, no hind-sight.
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If he lived long enough for the cops to get there, I would have his ass arrested. That would be the end of any love I had felt for him and as for a good life...I had rather live in a tent or a cardboard box than with a child molester.
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I agree with the rest of the answers I would just get the crap out of there and put my children first regardless. Of course this would be if I were gay or a girl..
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I could no longer love someone who was sexually abusing anyone but specifically children. I would take the children, leave and report him.
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I'm sorry, it sounds creepy to me to love a man who molests your children. ewwwwww. Maybe you need some counseling to find out why. As far as a good life, what could possibly be good knowing this man is ruining your children's lives, possibly forever. I don't get it.
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I'd be straight up honest. I'd kill the bastard. There is no excuse for a parent doing that to a child nor any reason for the innocent parent to excuse it.
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You will go to jail, too, if you do not report him to the police, as you will be seen as aiding and abetting, as well as withholding evidence and obstructing justice. You MUST be brave and report him and explain to your children that what he did is WRONG for anyone to do what he did to someone else. You will need more counseling than anyone, probably, because you are going to have to take care of this situation for the sake of your children. I'm so sorry you are facing this, but you must handle this in a mature, motherly, adult manner.
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You're always going to love your kids more then you will ever love your husband, it's an unconditional love that can never be broken. I would kick him out of my house and press charges, if I didn't kill him first. There's no excuse for doing stuff like that.
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How could you continue to love them when they are hurting your babies(I DON'T CARE HOW OLD THEY R THEY WILL ALWAYS BE YOUR BABIES!)? Personaly he'd better turn himself in before I get anywhere close to him.Or he'll leave this world hard. And for "having a good life"BULLSHIT!! Your life was a lie and would you really say your kids led a good life?I really hope not for them!
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protect my kids and get as far away from him as possible and report him to the police and make sure he was put in jail for a very very long time, and while they were under my watch he would never see the children again. i personally feel that any love i felt would evaporate as soon as i knew he had hurt my children, and would replaced by pute hatred and disgust. I feel deeply sorry for anyone who has to endure this situation, that includes the mother and the children.
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id kick him straight out no matter how good a life i had, ive been sexually abused by my uncle, and the one thing i was thankful for was that my aunt believed me and kicked him out straight away. what those people do to you can never be erased. nobody is worth my children suffering what i did.
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what do you mean you love your husband and have a good life? what about your child???? how the hell can you even look at that evil b**tard??? he is a predator, HE has messed your kid up for the whole of their life, you cant EVER get over abuse 100% some mother you are just give your kid up for adoption, im against ppl giving their kids away but at the end of the day any child near you is in danger hope you enjoy your happy life
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Kick the disgusting bastard out. I'd never be able to look at him the same, love would instantly disinigrate. I would make sure he got the maximum penalty by law, and make sure my children were protected. I don't have kids, but that's the closest I can imagine how I'd react.
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Fuck that.... any abuse of my children will be delt with unilaterally. My children will receive justice... that's all I've got to say about that.
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Realize that my life wasn't all that wonderful after all and castrate the asshole....then turn him in after hiring someone to beat the shit out of him while we watched and joined in.
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unfortunatly i would not be able to love my husband, nor pretend i had a good life anymore if i found that out. i would have to take my children away from the abuse that they were receiving. they are more important. (hypothetically speaking if i had children)
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He would be divorced and jailed. No child deserves to be put through that kind of sh*t even if everything else is going great.
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good life for you, but obviously not for your kids. dont be selfish, its your job to make sure things like that dont happen to you kids.
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send him to jail..how would your kids feel if you took his side..you had them and its your responsibility to keep them safe no matter what.he could also go on to ruin the lives of more kids.
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Tell and explain it to him, this is not morally good.
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I'd fix him his favorite diner (with a little something extra added) and he would wake up in a wooden crate with a scuba divers air tank slowly releasing air, buried under a fresh patch of cement in the basement, with bloody bandages between his legs.
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I would report him, send him to jail and get psychological help for my kids. Once in jail, it would be even easier to get a divorce and rip him off. My kids come before anyone or anything in this world and that includes my job. I have had good job and still have always accomodate my kids first. This did not stop me from promotion. I think they admired the well stable life that I gave my kids who are now grownup and great kids. You can always replace your husband but you can never replace your kids innocence. This shatter a child as their role model destroyed their ability to trust people and may later have problems establishing a good relationship/marriage.
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finished.
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Kill the monster that harmed my kids. You can love the person that you married, but you can't love the monster that harmed your kids.
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Honestly, there would be no question as to what I would do. Your kids are your number one priority. Period.
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I don't think you can have both - a good life with an abusive (any type of abuse) husband. Having said that, to be blunt, I'd kill him...ok, maybe that's a bit extreem. But I'd at the very least I'd turn him into the police and divorce the SOB.
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Well who do you love more? Your children or sexual abusive husbad?? I am hoping you would say your children! They don't deserve that, and as far as your husband what a sick pervert he needs to be locked up and kept away from those children. If you chose your husband, let somebody who loves them raise them and won't allow that shit to happen.
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Those are your babies and you as the mother that carried them and had them and should protect them against anyone even the father, so if it were me as much as I love their soon to be stepfather I would have to say first I would knock the **** out of him call the cops have every charge possible against him and make sure he gets as many years of hard time for it and then I would know my kids life was good because they are now away from this situation NO money or things would ever let me be in a situation where my kids or I were being harmed
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Firstly if I found out that my husband harmed my kids , I wouldnt need to ask this question. I would chop his dick off, then call the police and let the police deal with the dirty scum,I couldn't care less if i loved him or not, think about your kids lives and how bad theres is rather than you having a good life.
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Kill him and hide the body so well that no one would ever find it. Maybe I would make it look like an accident just so no one asked me any questions. I love kids and I know I will love my kids more than anything. Anything or anyone that hurts them will never do it again.
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If you have proof no matter how much you love your husband your childrens future and there mental state comes first not you. Even if you have a happy life abuse of your children is WRONG.annmac
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How on earth can you love a child abuser, let alone someone who abuses your own children? Whatever feelings you have for him are not love. Get your children away from him now and call in the police / child protection people.
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