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  • take it from this point, take something you love very much, and take it's opposite, for example, chocolate and kidney beans. were you born loving chocolate, or do you really just prefer it over the kidney beans? Admittedly, I'm female, and I am only bi, however I do understand the thought process behind not wanting to deal with the opposite sex and finding the same sex all the more appealing because of it.
  • yes, thank Boy George for your reformation!! i knew that chameleon song served a purpose in life!! wassup dawg!!!!
  • I disagree.........I think some people are wired......For me...I don't think I developed liking women. It's something thats just in me........
  • At 4 most kids don't even realize what their "thing" was for, let alone develop feelings for another person "that way". Let me put it this way, when you started to actually notice girls, did you decide that you thought that girl made you feel kindof funny? Did you think to yourself "Hmm, there's a blonde girl and a brunette girl, but I think that I should like the blonde girl"? No, you just saw a girl and liked her. It's the same way with gay people. We didn't just decide to "go gay", when it was time for crushes, and posters on our walls, we just happened to like our same sex. Sexuality is innate. You don't choose it. Please note that this is not to be confused with choosing ACTIONS. Who you are truly attracted to cannot be changed. Choosing to sleep with the redhead instead of the blonde is a choice. Choosing to wear pants instead of a skirt is a choice. Who gives you that funny, cutesy feeling, isn't.
  • How do you not have a choice on who you are attracted to? That make absolutely no sense what so ever- if I am an adult attracted to children all my life does that make it ok? OF COURSE NOT- same with homosexuality- just because someone likes the same sex doesn't make you "born without a choice" if just makes you attracted to something other than the norm- it has nothing to do with birth- that's an excuse that homosexuals have made up in order to make the choice sound reasonable to everyone else...
  • People are not born gay. Some try to blame some kind of genetics or something out of fear or self-willed attitudes. If we pretend evolution is true, then if peole were born gay, how did they develop into male and female, almost equally in numbers, too. If people evolved male female parts, it is therefore literally "normal" for people to be heterosexual, NOT homosexual. This, then, means by definition that being "gay" is not normal, or "abnormal", contrary to the opinions many try to force upon society. this "abnormal" behavior, or tendancy, is then not genetic. If not genetic, what is it? Well, I have worked with lots of children over the years and found that may so-called ADHD & ODD kids are not that at all. Some matters are related to how they are raised, the foods they eat & don't eat, their environment -- even things we don't always notice right away, or a combination of things. You may have read about scientific study on various colors affects on people, therefore people use certain colors in prisons & hospitals, other colors as warning signs, etc. Soft blankets comfort. If a person has suffered or been treated harshly, do they respond more to one thing or another as a comfort? The problem can sometimes be that good options are withheld or kept from people. Also, the spiritual realm is very real, and the evil spirits do try to get people to take comfort in ways that displease God, attempting to alienate people from God. this can hinder their prayers, faith & their effectiveness as christians. Would you want to cuddle up to a smelly skunk? The evil spirits try to harm our consciences in various ways to try to keep us from being close with God, the only one Who can really save us.
  • Mate, you are born gay or straight but your sexuality doesnt appear until around puberty. Im gay and instead of becoming aware of girls i became aware of boys. Its a totally natural process and thier certainly isnt choice involved. Gay people did not choose homosexuality any more than straight people choose hetrosexuality. And in answer to an unasked question, if parental influence makes us gay how come all our parents are hetrosexual. So a gay couple raising a child will not increase the childs chance of becoming gay, cos if that was true, all us gay people would be straight having been raised by straight parents.
  • No, 'course not. I think we are born of all sexualities, but for some people what they have is just not what they want.
  • No one is born gay. Besides God not making us that way scientists from APA has just backed what God created us to be. http://www.onenewsnow.com/Culture/Default.aspx?id=528376
  • I reckon you're born with the preference but that it doesnt 'show' until puberty.
  • Genetics and DNA are so complex it is mind boggling. Why do you think we have defects in our bodies and DNA. Homosexuality could just be another one of the many things that comes from DNA or genetics or whatever it is. There are people that are born with two different colored eyes, don't you think people thought that was abnormal at one point and most likely thought it could never happen?
  • I do believe that some people are predisposed to being gay. I heard somewhere that there was a gay gene found and scientists had proved that being gay is a part of DNA but...I wanted to check it out and I found mayn articles debunking this statement. Here are some quotes from one article that explained in great detail that there is no specific 'gay gene'. What the majority of respected scientists now believe is that homosexuality is attributable to a combination of psychological, social, and biological factors. From the American Psychological Association "[M]any scientists share the view that sexual orientation is shaped for most people at an early age through complex interactions of biological, psychological and social factors."{6} From "Gay Brain" Researcher Simon LeVay "At this point, the most widely held opinion [on causation of homosexuality] is that multiple factors play a role."{7} From Dennis McFadden, University of Texas neuroscientist: "Any human behavior is going to be the result of complex intermingling of genetics and environment. It would be astonishing if it were not true for homosexuality."{8} From Sociologist Steven Goldberg "I know of no one in the field who argues that homosexuality can be explained without reference to environmental factors."{9} As we have seen, there is no evidence that homosexuality is simply "genetic"--and none of the research itself claims there is. Only the press and certain researchers do, when speaking in sound bites to the public.
  • I don't believe people are born gay. The foundations of our personalities develop over the first five years of our lives, and I believe sexuality is one aspect of that. Of course your personality can continue to develop and change over your lifetime, sexuality included, but after your first 5 years the foundation is there. Maybe there are genetic traits that can influence how a person's sexuality develops, but I don't believe anyone is born gay or straight or bisexual: it's "nurture" more than "nature," in my opinion.
  • what a good point, im sure there must be some truth in what you say and that there is an appropriate study
  • Honestly I believe it has more to do along the lines of the environmental influences that makes one into a homosexual. There could be many influences as well. Most common one that I know of between my lesbian friends and family it's mostly due to some type of abuse males had done to them in their lives rather it be physical abuse, mental, or emotional. My gay brother, I've asked him before why did he become a homosexual, at an earlier age he didn't seem interested in males at all. He explained to me that basically he looked up to our mother so much that he began to take on her role once she passed.
  • I have Klinefelter's Syndrome 47xxy. I have an extra X chromosome. I'm not gay; so it probably isn't genetic. I have friends that are gay, straight, bisexual, and transgendered. I know other people who also have Klinefelter's Syndrome 47xxy and they are Straight, Bisexaul and Gay. I have asked what it means to have a Sexual Orientation. I was told by several people (in the GLBT Community) that without a sex drive (active libido) Sexual Orientation becomes moot. I asked again for clarity and I was told that without a sexual interest, Sexual Orientation was meaningless because "sexual" orientation has everything to do with who one is "sexually" attracted to. Therefore, when there is no longer any sexual desire due to life factors and the sex drive wanes or becomes non-existent; Sexual Orientation loses its meaning.
  • Twin studies have proven that sexual orientation is at least partially innate. Whether it is genetic or hormonal or caused by something else is still unknown. If genetic, it's likely to be affected by more than one gene. There are certainly environmental influences that affect how likely one is to be "out" and comfortable with being gay, and humans are the only species who actually care what others think about that.
  • I'll be completely honest to help you draw your own personal conclusions. I used to be straight for a while. I just recently completely crossed over after dealing with situations of lies, assholeness and rape from men. Men frighten me. I don't feel safe with them. And I seem to only attract men who just want sex as well and will do anything to get it. I've been used as just 'that hot girl' on someone's arm many times. I find that I feel safer and more comfortable with a female. They're gentler and appreciate their partners more. I wasn't born that way. It stemmed from certain occurances. It makes my skin crawl to think I'd ever be with a man again. Sad I know, but I'm learning to accept that being with a woman is what is right for me. I'll be safer in my opinion. And happier. Much happier.
  • Homosexuality is a mental illness. If I said I wanted to have sex with trees, everyone would think I was mad, in fact, they'd think I had some form of mental illness, since having sex with trees is as unnatural as you can get. But if I got together a huge group of people who also wanted to shag trees, every year, and we all held a street party with upbeat music playing, proclaiming how proud we were to be shagging trees, then got gullible, brain-dead women to believe that having a tree-shagging best friend was trendy, it would just be a matter of a few years before we were taken as normal, that's how gays done it. The fact is, it's not normal, it's completely unnatural, and there isn't one gay man who has never questioned this fact. Cue the sad attempts to shame me into silence by saying "You're in the closet", or something to that effect.
  • Both. Some people are born with the capability to be gay, but certain enviromental factors have to be around for a person to become gay. Even the scientists that were looking for the "gay gene" said this. But no one really cared. It's like height, you can be born with the capability to be 6 foot 9, but if you are malnourished your entire life, you won't grow to that height.
  • born genetically.
  • I'm sorry but i do not think that people are born gay
  • I don't believe that people are born gay. I believe there are a number of factors why people turn gay. I think it is because all of us are capable of sin, and God doesn't like homosexuality. He also doesn't like it when I get attitudy with my mother. I am just trying to make the point that we are all sinners and we all trespass against God. Environmentally, people are affected, like Vleigh. She had bad experiences with men, so she turned to women, and it most definitely can do with relatives that are gay or lesbian. It is a number of things.
  • ever action is a combination of inborn inclination and choice. I have the inborn inclination to spread my seed... however my future ex is the only woman I have ever been with and I intend to only have one more mate who I doubt I have met yet. I am inclined to be attracted to illegaly young women but I choose not to act on it. every action is choice... most things are also inclination. can't say I didn't see the DRs comming.... talk about tollerance of differing opinions :) anyone who says anything which does not praise gays for being gay is a hate monger. ROFL.
  • I know that people will hate this answer, BUT I think it's absolutely STUPID to think that you can be MADE gay. Does someone MAKE you straight? No. You're born that way and there's really nothing that can be done to change that. Even people who have bad experiences with one gender and CHOOSE to be with their own gender aren't really GAY. I absolutely do NOT believe that anyone who chooses to be with a gender for easiness or is abused and thus goes over to the other side is truly gay. Those are personal choices. Sexuality is not a choice, it's an innate part of a person. There's no influence about it, you are or you're not gay or straight. I do not CHOOSE to like who I like. My sister and I had the same family and community influences, yet she feels completely different about her sexual orientation than mine, and every gay person I know has siblings who are straight. There's even been research done suggesting that gay male brains are more like female brains in some ways and lesbian brains are more like male ones. It is something that is already inside you when you're born and no amount of social influence can TRULY change you.
  • I personally don't think they are born that way. God never meant for men to be with men, that's why He made women. I think it's just an excuse that they use.
  • This question has been beat to death here on Answer Bag ... You'd think people would just look it up in the archives ... Scientist have PROVEN that being Homosexual is thru a gene that Hetrosexual people do NOT have ... Now; with that said .. there are those who live a Homosexual lifestyle for whatever their reasoning ... Don't forget ; that Kinisey says that we are all born Bi-Sexual ..and depending on our genes and environment etc ... react accordingly ... to our sexuality becoming Gay, Str-8, or remaining Bi-Sexual ... However; I prefer to say that we are all Human Sexual Beings .... Being sexual with whoever we are attracted to , be it male, female , or whatever ... and it is NO ONE else's Business .. Even when I entered the Military; I put down "Human Sexual Being" .... WHY is it so important to have LABELS ....
  • I do not believe in the gay gene, I can compare that to someone being born with a foot fetish, or someone being born a masochist.As far as sexuality and preferences are concerned I don't believe we're born with them at all. I believe that everyone is gay/straight to some extent, and that our sexuality is just a result of our development as we grow.
  • I believe it's genetic or something that happened inside the womb with it not changing. In elementry school I was all for being with girls but in middle school right when puberty hit I looked down and saw some dudes legs and my heart raced and I knew what that meant . I remember thinking immediatly "OMG WTF this sux" cause I knew that card I was givin wasn't gonna be easy to live with. Striaght ppl the world is your oyster, I'd love to bring home my date to my parents and they'll be rpoud and happy not embarassed ashamed and dissapointed.
  • People are born predisposed to a certain sexual orientation. It's more nature than nurture. Call the "gay gene" a birth defect if you will, like webbed toes or color blindness. I'm sure most homosexuals choose to be the way they are because the lifestyle suits them - because they were just built to find it attractive to them. And some smaller percentage are gay because they liked the idea regardless of their "inner programming".
  • This is going to be long but it's worth reading. My story is interesting, to say the least. I can say with almost certainty that I was born straight. Being a young boy I don't recall ever having a crush on other boys. I only had crushes on girls. At a very young age I was already a hopeless romantic. I lost my virginity when I was 14, everything went well. Then when I was 16, I had a traumatic incident with an ex-girlfriend that haunts me to this day. Basically I lost my hard on while she had her hand down there, and she freaked out about it. The next day over the phone she suggested I might be gay. I hadn't previously thought about guys, but she got my curiosity going... and I had my first experience with a guy 6 months later. I enjoyed it, but after it I felt at peace that I wasn't gay... I had just been curious, and the incident with my ex-girlfriend was a normal ocurrence that I should brush aside. Besides, I had no romantic feelings for men whatsoever, I had never thought about sex with men growing up, so it was easy for me to decide to continue on dating women. To that day I had always been aroused by sexual contact with women, but from then on the fear of not performing completely overtook me. I got dumped several more times in high school before I met one girl and fell in love with her. Only problem was, it was one month before the end of senior year and then we'd have a long distance relationship. We made it last 6 more months, but it couldn't go further. Towards the very end of the relationship I was finally starting to get over my performance anxiety. I still wonder what could have been, to this day. I should point out also the very important facts that throughout my childhood and teenage years I was incessantly bullied at school and later in my hockey team. I also had a very bad relationship with my dad. My parents approached sexuality in a very strict manner. I was taught never to think of women too sexually, for I was supposed to save myself for the one. I even missed sex education in school because of having moved overseas when I was young. And in high school I lived in a very rich, snobby town... it was difficult to make friends, I never had a group of confident male friends. Add to that all the failures with women and the performance anxiety... From then on it was all downhill... I had many opportunities with women but my anxiety was too much and before I could even start a relationship, they sensed something was odd and fled. This has been the case for the past four years. In that span of time, after every failure with a woman, I found myself increasingly thinking about men. My confidence and self esteem had hit rock bottom and I started realizing that it might be best if I admitted to myself that I had become... not necessarily gay, but at least developed a huge 'gay problem'. I didn't have much more of a choice anymore... I had way too big a mountain to climb if I desired to be with a woman. And the idea of finally letting go and not having to be 'the man' overtook my mind and I began fantasizing about guys more and more. But the problem was that I don't desire a gay man, because I've never really known the affection of a man, so I can't accept it. Instead I go to the only place I go... one where I'm submissive to a man with no emotions involved, which is to say that I need a straight guy, because he's in it just for the sex like me. I've now been hooking up regularly with a straight guy for the past 6 months and I can tell you that in my case, I have irreversibly become homosexually submissive. That's the best way I can define myself. It comes with its pains and thrills. I am sexually beyond satisfied, it's intoxicating... but I still feel like a dart has pierced my heart because I don't wake up next to a woman every day. So are we born gay or is it a matter of choice? I believe that some people are born gay, but for others bad breaks in life can lead to homosexuality, and it should be noted that it's not the same kind of homosexuality... it's the submissive side of it. And it's NOT a matter of choice either... I didn't choose the environment that surrounded me. I did my best in my reaction to it, but ultimately I was dragged into this part of the sexuality spectrum. It was against my will because in my heart I truly desire to spend my life with a woman, but the lust I developed for men combined with past events are just too strong emotions to overcome. So, in my opinion I didn't have a choice. I certainly could have gone the other way under better circumstances, but I've accepted the cards I was dealt. I'm stuck in a land of lust without love, but it's better than nothing.
  • This is going to be long but it's worth reading. My story is interesting, to say the least. I can say with almost certainty that I was born straight. Being a young boy I don't recall ever having a crush on other boys. I only had crushes on girls. At a very young age I was already a hopeless romantic. I lost my virginity when I was 14, everything went well. Then when I was 16, I had a traumatic incident with an ex-girlfriend that haunts me to this day. Basically I lost my hard on while she had her hand down there, and she freaked out about it. The next day over the phone she suggested I might be gay. I hadn't previously thought about guys, but she got my curiosity going... and I had my first experience with a guy 6 months later. I enjoyed it, but after it I felt at peace that I wasn't gay... I had just been curious, and the incident with my ex-girlfriend was a normal ocurrence that I should brush aside. Besides, I had no romantic feelings for men whatsoever, I had never thought about sex with men growing up, so it was easy for me to decide to continue on dating women. To that day I had always been aroused by sexual contact with women, but from then on the fear of not performing completely overtook me. I got dumped several more times in high school before I met one girl and fell in love with her. Only problem was, it was one month before the end of senior year and then we'd have a long distance relationship. We made it last 6 more months, but it couldn't go further. Towards the very end of the relationship I was finally starting to get over my performance anxiety. I still wonder what could have been, to this day. I should point out also the very important facts that throughout my childhood and teenage years I was incessantly bullied at school and later in my hockey team. I also had a very bad relationship with my dad. My parents approached sexuality in a very strict manner. I was taught never to think of women too sexually, for I was supposed to save myself for the one. I even missed sex education in school because of having moved overseas when I was young. And in high school I lived in a very rich, snobby town... it was difficult to make friends, I never had a group of confident male friends. Add to that all the failures with women and the performance anxiety... From then on it was all downhill... I had many opportunities with women but my anxiety was too much and before I could even start a relationship, they sensed something was odd and fled. This has been the case for the past four years. In that span of time, after every failure with a woman, I found myself increasingly thinking about men. My confidence and self esteem had hit rock bottom and I started realizing that it might be best if I admitted to myself that I had become... not necessarily gay, but at least developed a huge 'gay problem'. I didn't have much more of a choice anymore... I had way too big a mountain to climb if I desired to be with a woman. And the idea of finally letting go and not having to be 'the man' overtook my mind and I began fantasizing about guys more and more. But the problem was that I don't desire a gay man, because I've never really known the affection of a man, so I can't accept it. Instead I go to the only place I go... one where I'm submissive to a man with no emotions involved, which is to say that I need a straight guy, because he's in it just for the sex like me. I've now been hooking up regularly with a straight guy for the past 6 months and I can tell you that in my case, I have irreversibly become homosexually submissive. That's the best way I can define myself. It comes with its pains and thrills. I am sexually beyond satisfied, it's intoxicating... but I still feel like a dart has pierced my heart because I don't wake up next to a woman every day. So are we born gay or is it a matter of choice? I believe that some people are born gay, but for others bad breaks in life can lead to homosexuality, and it should be noted that it's not the same kind of homosexuality... it's the submissive side of it. And it's NOT a matter of choice either... I didn't choose the environment that surrounded me. I did my best in my reaction to it, but ultimately I was dragged into this part of the sexuality spectrum. It was against my will because in my heart I truly desire to spend my life with a woman, but the lust I developed for men combined with past events are just too strong emotions to overcome. So, in my opinion I didn't have a choice. I certainly could have gone the other way under better circumstances, but I've accepted the cards I was dealt. I'm stuck in a land of lust without love, but it's better than nothing.
  • this is called a "false dichotomy"...which means that it is neither nature or nurture.......at a time when the embryo is the fetus, a surge of hormone's determines whether the baby wil be feminine or masculine.....take care....brian....

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