He was obviously not thinking clearly, as I know this is no excuse....ill just get to the point...YEs you can have a normal relationship IF and ONLY IF he receives help for his drinking problem. And if he says "I dont have a drinking problem" then he is obviously to stupid to recognize that he hurt you and could possibly be losing a great girl(assuming you are great ;) )

The answer depends on you. Do you love him? Do you think that in time you can truly forgive and forget and not hold this over his head for the rest of his life? Do you believe you can learn to trust him again? These are all questions you should be asking yourself and being brutally honest with your answers to them. If you can honestly say yes to all of them then by all means kiss and make up. If however there is any doubt as to if you can honestly do all that it is better to end the relationship now than put him and yourself through more heartache and misery when you find yourself doubting his honesty or you get into a fight and dig up the past. There is absolutely no excuse in the world for what your b/f did to you. Don't let him use being drunk as an excuse because unless he was stone cold passed out (in which case it would be rape) there is no way that he didn't have some knowledge of what he was doing and you don't convienently forget you have a g/f when your drunk and some other hot chick is looking good and coming on to you. If you want my honest opinion your b/f is a pig who has no respect for you otherwise he would't have hurt you the way he did by cheating. I will not however tell you to stay or leave. This is a choice you have to make on your own. I wish you much luck.

your call, being drunk is not a valid excuse just a lame one

What do you want with a drunk that can't keep his pants on? He wasn't thinking of you, now was he?

He managed an erection while drunk?

It's highly unlikely. Even if you forgave him (and that's very difficult for anyone to do), you can never truly trust him again. And, just the fact that you won't be able to do that, will keep the relationship from continuing for very long.

nope. you can try but no matter how much you try to forget its still there. and every arguement it will be bought up. dont waste the next few years trying to forget something that will eventually be the end anyway.

ok...i've been around guys that have been drunk(real drunk)and all the could get up was what they had for dinner. quite honestly, if he was as drunk as he's claiming to be then he wouldn't have been able to cheat. maybe he was drinking and had a little to much but he knew what he was doing when he slept with the other person.....cheezy co-out.....don't fall for it.

I wouldn't be able to. i also think the "I was drunk" excuse is a lame way to avoid taking responsibility for ones actions.

I wouldnt be able to!!! I think that drinking or any other kind of substance is just an excuse to have just in case they should happen to do something wrong AND get caught. Its always easier to blame it on something other than your self. I dont know about anyone else but ive been pretty drunk and i ALWAYS know somewhere in my brain what im doing, so i have a very hard time thinking otherwise

I think the damage is done. Personally I wouldn't be able to forget it and that would mean living with the thought in the back of my mind, which means me suffering. BS, CYA. But, that's me

I think when one cheats and they are drunk, it's just a way of letting the truth out. They really dont care, about the consequences, hurting your feelings. Just like when somebody's drunk they will tell you all the truth. This isn't the case for every single person, but their is never a good excuse for cheating no matter what. Alcohol is just trying to make an excuse for something you know is wrong. You must let go, it will only be continuous pain from here on. Almost never can this be fixed, I might be wrong. Anyways you must forgive him no matter what you do, because you can only cause pain to yourself by holding a grudge. Forgive,Forget, and let go.

No, dump him and find a guy who doesn't need to drink, he gets high on your love...seriously.

Yes, of course you can have a "normal" relaitionship. My guess is there will be new "ground rules" though! ;-) For example: No getting drunk when you're not there, springs to mind! The "worth forgiving him" is up to you. Is the relationship fine except for this situation? Is this a "last straw" moment for you? If the answer to the former is YES and the answer to the latter is NO, then I would say, "yes". If not, then no matter what we say here, will change that. All I can say is it IS possible to get past infidelities. People do it all the time. It's when the behavior continues or someone's been hurt before by it, that it becomes more difficult. Even then, it CAN be accomplished if both parties are willing to change things, and compromise. Good luck. ;-)

you wont have a normal relationship.... things will never be the same.. you could forgive but it will be incredibly hard to forget.. it could help your relationship grow closer... but personally, he was being immature and he was aware he was drinking too much.. being drunk is not an excuse to cheat. He'd be gone in my book...

he got drunk and cheated on you....depending on how much you love him is the answer to your question...i personally would thats because the truth is aired when you are drunk...sometimes thats Gods way of getting the bad people out of your life making room for the great one that will be coming..

ya i was with my boyfriend for 2 years and last month he had sex with his best friends ex girlfriend AT HIS OWN HOUSe when he was drunk I hate drinking and NEver have done it myself he confessed to me the same nite after he did her it torments me but i really dont know what to do i am in the same shoes as u its just weird because ive seen him drunk once and he acts really messed up but he was cheating on me before he got fully drunk he started grinding up with her when he was tipsy and then him and her went to HIS room after he locked the door but he keeps saying it was the fact that HE WAS DRUNK and the alcohol was pushing it it was soo random that he did this because he is the stiffest guy I know and he would never do this to anyone but me but he was mad at me that night for not coming to HIS stupid party because i dont come out much with his friends I want to forget him but at the same time I know that isnt something he would normally do, I really dont know how to make sense out of this situation

Yeah, it can be possible, I had some what the same thing happen to me, but mine was mad at me, (we were only together 5 years at that time) and he was working 150 miles away from where we lived,(our home town where we grew up) and just my luck his x girlfriend (who at the time was married, she wanted to get even with her husband, being he had cheated on her) but anyways she knew my boyfriend was in town and went to him, he had a lot of time to say no to her, but didn't. So when he came back home, he was acting different, then later on the night he came out and told me, I was so pissed, I left him & took our daughter and moved back home w/parents. He apologized so many times, then about 2 month later we got back together but it did take me awhile to forgive him, but now it's been 8 years since that had happened, and he felt really bad for what he did, he is also a different person, a very honest person, and now the relationship has been better then ever, He understood on what he was losing over something that was so stupid. We now have 3 kids, and are very happy, (but still I wonder that what if, that what if I make him so mad again, would he do it!!) But if that was the case he will lose his 3 kids and me, & I know he can't live with out us. I just hope things can work out for you, and if they do, I know you'll have a hard time trusting him when he's drinking. So you'll have to think about what's going to make you happy.

I haven't had this happen to me and I've never cheated. But I don't think I could stay with the person. This is just because I've already got my own trust issues so I think that would be too thin a line to walk on after that and it wouldn't be fair to that person.

Oh good God. Hon, he drank himself into oblivion and then nailed another chick? Did you catch him? Or were you informed? Either way, it's decietful. You can forgive (forgetting is another level to feat), and do your best to rebuild the trust. Just have it in mind, that some cheaters believe if they can "get away with it" once and be taken back, they can do it again, but be smart enough not to get caught the second go around. This is your call as to whether or not you can keep him after this and believe he can be trusted, just don't be a pushover! Good luck : )

its not an excuse that he wes drunk when he cheated on you... i think you should dump him.. if you forgive him he will keep doing this... he don't respect you...

I think it is possible to have a normal relationship after this. I have been cheated on before. and yes you should dump him. When it comes to cheating, you should give no second chances. Even when you are drunk you know what your doing.

its just really messed up that he cheated on me, like we had alot of issues we came from TWO different worlds his culture was TOO loose and ppl from his country DRINK WAYYY TOO MUCH eventhough we're both the same race, my culture is conpletely the opposite...anti drinking and even me personally i have VERY strong values i know its messed up BUT i never LOST It to him because I do believe that if a guy loves u he should WAIT. and Me and him were BOTH virgins and he lost IT to a RANDOM SLUT girl AT HIS house for a ONE nite stand wen he was drunk, is that excusable, like if i take that as ok, i m putting down my own values and beliefs, i really do love him but this is something so hard to move past and i know he will never even see her or talk to that slut, and its so sad cause he said he knew he could get it easily from her and she was showing him she was interestd n for him to just give in, it kills me. its just so hurtful becasue we practically grew up with each other being with each other for 2 years and we were friends before that. I feel like ive lost trust in men because he used to be the guy who i could trust 100% and even now i can say i do because he did tell me the truth after he cheated...but then How can someone do something like that and cheat on a girlfriend and want her back right after. He also thinks its not that big of a deal because HES A GUY and guys do this and he also blames his loss of virginity and dusnt think its a big deal

Being drunk causes people to make poor choices. That's the truth. Everyone knows this. In this case, the poor choice was to cheat. We are tempted with things all our lives. Being a good person is about saying "no" in the face of temptation. But, when you add alcohol to the situation, temptation becomes harder. Bad choices result in different consequences depending on what happened. For example, if you lose your temper with your boss, you might lose your job. When you get drunk and murder someone in an act of passion, you go to jail. In this case, the consequences for your boyfriend are guilt, weakening the relationship, but its up to you what the final consequence is. Ask yourself: If he got drunk and made a different mistake (like spent your savings), would the fact that he was drunk matter? Would you say, "well, he was drunk." My point is that "being drunk" is not the deciding factor in overlooking it. You have to consider how you feel about this person as a part of your future. The issue is- do you trust he will not allow it to happen again? Will he be a repeat offender?

They say a drunk mans words are a sober mans thoughts right? So maybe being drunk is just an excuse and he would have done it eventually anyway sober. I can't tell you is he is worth forgiving I don't know him, that is something you are going to have to decide. Good luck.

no i dont think so , you shouldn't

Does wedding vows say to "love, honor and forsake all others unless your drunk". No. I know you are not married, but he did make a comittment to you. Being drunk is no excuse. People do make bad DECISIONS and CHOICES when drunk, but they still made the DECISION or CHOICE. He is trying to make himself into the VICTIM in an attempt to control you. He CHOSE to drink. He CHOSE to have sex with the other woman. He is CHOOSING to control you to avoid 'sleeping in the bed he CHOSE to make'. If you CHOOSE to keep him, bend over and kiss your butt goodbye. He will have complete control and own you 'lock, stock, and barrel'. So, now you have to make a CHOICE. The CHOICE you make is yourss and yours alone. You will be responsible for the outcome of the CHOICE you make so, make it wisely. I hope and pray it will be one you can live with.

i had the same situation with my bf. i came to his house to wake him up and i found a necklace and panties in his bed. he was wasted that nite said he was drunk and didn't remember much. i am still with my boyfriend but it hurts sometimes. i cant trust him and i snoop through all his stuff. i think sometimes men are men . they have a golden oppurtunity to cheat and think they wont get caught and they take it. maybe ur bf was drunk. was this the first time he cheated? do some investigating. find out if there is more cheating and lies. it may work and it may not between the both of you it all depends how much ur heart can take and if he's worth it.

Toss him to the curb, girl!! Drunk, sober, high, whatever - is he worth getting an STD or AIDS?? There are plenty of fish in the sea, go find you a new one and leave his cheatin' butt behind!!

Would he forgive me if I got drunk and cheated..and caught. Most likely I wouldn't because even when I'm drunk, I still know a little of what's going on.