Whenever he's hurting

Whenever he feels like it.

As his emotions make him feel. For happiness, when sad, for showing empathy, as his heart moves him.

Whenever he feels like he needs to. Crying is physically healthy for you in more than one way. Not only does it provide a release for pent up emotions, but the actual process of crying excretes poisons from our bodies.

When he goes to make a sandwich and realizes there is no bread.

When his heart hurts from sadness.

Any time he feels the need to do so.

Whenever there is a need to cry, he should.

It is acceptable when he has the need.....

Thank you all for your answers! We have gotten alot of opinions on this, TYVM!

Whenever he feels the need, really.

1) Here the traditional view: "Oli, it's weakness because no one really cares how anyone else feels generally. The only people who really care, your mother, maybe your best friend, but the majority of the people on planet earth don't care about you or how you feel. The world is cold and ruthless, and only a select group of people care about strangers, the majority either does not care, or hates you. The goal for you, is to find/meet the select few who care about you. It's a jungle, if you show weakness you get attacked. Look at prison, the rules of prison mirror the rules of the outside world. In prison if you cry, you get labeled a "bitch" and you lose respect points. Crying is consider a show of weakness, and weakness is hated by the majority. Look at everyone on earth that is treated like crap, and then notice they all have some sorta weakness to attract that treatment. If you want to know the laws of manhood, ask a man. If you don't have a man to ask, observe the rules of the street and the rules of prison. 1. Don't be a snitch 2. Keep your word 3. Don't cry or show weakness 4. Maintain a good yet strong image. These are just 4, there are hundreds of rules for all sorts of possible situations, such as how to go through a divorce, how to be a good father, how to be responsible, how to deal with women, the rules of dating, all that stuff that your father told you, and his father told him." Source: "Is it ever okay for men to cry in public?" http://www.sciforums.com/showthread.php?t=56929 (Thread contains many other views about this) "It is very much in style today to urge men to feel. However this urging is partially reminiscent of taunting a crippled man to run. It is unlikely that a mere act of will on his part can unlock the hurricane of repressed feelings within him. Today's man is the product of massive, defensive operations against feelings. These defenses are geared to protect him for survival's sake by transforming the host of powerful, socially taboo impulses, needs and feelings into acceptable male behavior." "There are some unique circumstances under which American men are actually expected to cry, but few of these apply to the college man's culture." Source: http://www.everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=1540760 "Top 39 Times When It Is Acceptable For A Man To Cry" (not to be taken seriously...) http://www.keepersoflists.org/index.php?ldate=2006-07-28;dir=prev 2) The Times They Are A-Changin... "Paradoxically, while men have been released from tearlessness, it is increasingly expected of women. ''While male figures of authority have been given more latitude, in recent years,'' Mr. Lutz said, ''women in authority are under stricter sanctions not to cry and to show the kind of stoicism we used to expect from men as a sign of their leadership abilities.''" Source and further information: http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?res=9803E6D61E31F93BA15753C1A9679C8B63 "Long gone is the "No Tears -- We're British" era when emotion was considered distinctly bad form." http://soundingcircle.com/newslog2.php/__show_article/_a000195-000627.htm "Men are not too macho to cry" http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/3860845.stm 4) I think it is very important for men - as women - to really experience their emotions. Unfortunately, there still are some situations where it could not be a good idea to do it in public, for several reasons. If you can, chose the way where you will harm yourself less.

Whenever he feels like it.

we were made with tear ducts, so they were made to be used! so yes whenever they feel like sheeding a tear about anything they want!

A bereavement/birth of a loved one, when totally drunk & sentimental or after seeing his favourite team win a league/trophy/world class event other than that it's just not cool:) lol

When I'm holding his testicles in my fist!

death of a friend or family member

sorry, screwed up and answered instead of commenting.

Whenever he feels the need.

Whenever a long time girlfriend is lost, parents or siblings die, supa best buddy dies, or when you lose a halo match to a pre pubescent child.

When is it not acceptable?

When he gets kicked in the sack.

after talking to an AB member last night.. he cried when he sent his five year old daughter off to her first day of school... this is a legitimate time to show emotion....

whenever they hear any sad news that cuts to their heart.

when his mom dies

Acceptable and accepted are different things. I believe that a man can cry, but it will change the "general population"'s opinion. Crying is accepted as an expression of emotion. At the same time, it is looked at strangely if it does not fit into a man's normal persona. I don't know if that was very useful.

I don't understand acceptable... A man can cry anytime he wants. What difference does it make. They are human beings...LOL...just like women. They have the same hurts, loss and sad times as women do.

Crying is not a gender issue. It is perfectly acceptable for men and women to cry as and when they see fit.

Anytime I think. Men should be strong, but I think that an aspect of strength that's been lost in our culture is that of vulnerability.

I hope and believe men are liberated enough in this society to cry any time they want!

Anytime he needs to , it makes us all stronger to release pain

In short, I think it's normal for anybody to cry, including males. Crying is a natural reaction (yet still unexplained) to extreme emotion, such as sadness or joy. Just because men seem to want to give themselves this image that they're tough cookies that don't cry, don't be fooled, they do, even if it's hard to imagine. From experience, men usually cry over deaths, injuries, severe fall outs, and break ups, though mostly in private. They'd cry about finding their wife is pregant too, but I can't relate :). Asking when it is acceptable for a man to cry is like asking when is it acceptable for any normal human to cry.

When someone important in his life is hurt badly or dies

what is wrong about a man expressing his self? personally i do not have a problem with it once it is not at everything, nobody likes a cry baby.

When I hit him. :D Seriously, it's ok to cry whenever the mood strikes. In line at McDonald's will raise some eyebrows, but it's your tears, your feelings.

When he wants to!

Anytime he feels the need to...what makes a man to me is a man that is not afraid to cry!

whenever the situation really calls for it, although nobody likes a cry baby

Whenever he feels like it.

Whenever!!

Its is allways exceptable for a man to cry, whenever he needs... Forget genders.. we are people with emotions. Exceptions to this, is crying over bamby, once reached the age of manhood!)

Anytime! They sometimes cry for no reason at all and sometimes it for a common reason...

after a golf shoe to th nuts

Anytime they feel the need to cry is acceptable.

yes because if any man or woman suppresses their emotions is a sign of biterness or whatever rage ?

Whenever he feels like it.

Whenever he feels the need to...

When his ex wife smashes his 14 Led Zeppellin albums, and kicks over his beer in the process.

When he spills his beer *weeps*

Whenever the hell they need to. It's a dream of mine, that one day men will not feel the need to refrain from doing completely natural things because they are "womanly".

My husband doesn't cry. I mean he DOES NOT cry. EVER. It's not because he holds it in or anything, he just never does. But he cried on our wedding day. It was the best present he could have given me. He has allowed himself to believe that I'm the only one who noticed, and I have made my mother and sister promise never to mention it to him.

At his wedding, when someone close to him dies etc etc. BUT NOT AT A FOOTBALL GAME!!!!;)

when he feels like it.

No, but in many social situations it would not be seen as an appropriate action for a man to take. Be it tradition or prejudice -- in most settings a crying man is inappropriate for many people.

Anytime. It should never be an issue rather or not he can cry.

When he is confronted by a bevy of beautiful naked women all wanting his attention and johnny is sleeping

When he's unhappy or very sad, depression, I find generally works.

When nobody can see him do so.

,in private?!? always ;)

When there is loss and pain, but it is just plain wrong for a forty-two year old man to cry about pudding or he didn't get what he wanted for Christmas or Hannuak.

Never. Real men don't cry.

Guys can cry anytime they want to. The way their trained not to drives me up the wall! It makes it so that when they do cry, others aren't sure how to react to it. (One of my guy friends was crying due to an almost fractured arm, and I wasn't too sure what to do about it. Being a female, first thing that came to my mind was to hug him; but guys don't always like that reaction towards them.) However, if its just immature crying, for example: a guy cried in my class once just because he was in a new school (all of us were new, it was 6th grade). He sobbed over it until the teacher got fed up and called his mother, who, in my opinion, made it worse. She put him into a private school where he would be with the same people until he graduated. To me, thats like putting him in a bubble so that he steps out into a huge, unknown, scary world one day and theres nothing anyone can do about it.

When ever they feel like it, but please don't do it near me, cuz if I see it, I'm gonna cry too.

yes its acceptable for a man to cry

Absolutely - happy or sad.

When he gets kicked in the crotch or at the end of 'Saving Private Ryan'. That's it. No other acceptable times.

Any time he feels the need to.

when you have erectile disfunction

Death of a child is one. The death of my child broke me in two, and I will always feel a longing her for her; however, I can't allow my sorrow to prevent me from taking care of the rest of the family that she loved so much. That's what she would want and expect me to do. So, have your cry but then get on with the business of life.

Whenever he feels the need to do so, i dont know why people think it is such a bad thing when a man cries we are all human and they have feelings too.

anytime anyone feels like it...

Whenever it's acceptable for a woman to cry.

Any time they feel the need

Whenever the hell he wants =]

Whenever he wants/feels the need to.

ANYTIME-God gave us the ability to cry as a "relief valve", b/c w/o it, we would bottle up all of our emotions & end up having a nervous breakdown. Crying is good for you, it cleanses the soul.

when it hurts!

Jesus wept so why can't we?

It's always acceptable.

Any time, I guess.

When their peepee is stuck in their zipper.