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  • I think you are going to need a lot of 'luck' - but who among us is qualified to make any more dogmatic prognostication? Personally, I could not and would not do it (I'm 47) but thats,
  • Congratulations, I hope you're happy together. He's a lucky guy. I don't believe it's morally wrong or that he's a bad guy. I DO however think that 18 is too young to be jumping into a marriage. Doesn't matter if it's to another 18 year old or to a 57 year old.
  • I wish you well. I do understand, a few years ago I dated a girl much younger than I, and I did love her, but it didn t last on her part, and this broke my heart, best of luck to you both.
  • There nothing "morally" wrong as you are of the age of consent. Consider carefully whether you are willing and able to care for the health problems he may experience in the next 10 years. Some of us are in decline, or even die by our mid 60s. Alzheimer's, incontinence, stroke... just know that it could happen, and think about what you'll do. I wish you well.
  • Alright...there's nothing really morally wrong here, since age really isn't anything but a number, but I do hope you've thought about this, and I mean REALLY thought about this. You might be in love, but you two really aren't at the same stages in your life. You're (probably) starting college, and really just starting your life, and he's thinking about retirement and settling down for the last phase of his life. I know everyone says this, but he IS going to get older too. I mean, by the time he's say, 75 or 80 (and you're 36 or 41), are you really going to want that? And are you really ready to see the man you love die when you're barely halfway there? I hope you think about this a lot, especially because eighteen is so young anyway to be getting married. There's nothing wrong; it's just a big commitment for someone so young.
  • Each case is different and I can't pass judgement on you or him. I will say however, he's only a couple years older than I. I've known many guys my age and my belief is that there are only two reasons why any man in his 50's would have anything to do with an 18 year old and that's sex and having someone fit enough to take care of him when he's elderly. I cannot possibly imagine that you have any meaningfull thing in-common. You come from a different age in time. If you were my daughter I would tell you to find someone else closer to your age. I don't want to hurt you, but that's as truthful and honest as it gets.
  • Nothing morally wrong there. Be happy, both of you.
  • Sure, go ahead and marry him. However, brace yourself for the worst. I know it's hard to think about, but he doesn't have more than 20 to 30 years left. Make sure that you go to college to prepare for YOUR future.
  • Everyone has wished you luck, and so do I because I think you are going to need it to be honest. You are 18, with your whole life infront of you, 18 is too young to be rushing into marriage, too anyone, yet alone someone 39 years older than you, you say you know the difficulties to come, you may do, but feeling them and being there is different. Its not morally wrong no, its your life and I hope it works for you, but I think you are making a mistake.
  • I wish you luck! There is nothing morally wrong here, although I am wondering how long you have been in this relationship. Even if you are turning 19 tomorrow and you met when you turned 18, that is a short relationship to lead to marriage. I'm not judging you. However, 18 is a young age to be getting married, and I'm hoping that your relationship started after you turned 18, in which case, I would suggest giving things a little more time before you get married. Also, remember that he will reach an age soon where he will be more likely to come down with diseases associated with age as well as possibly die while you are still quite young, which is a heartbreaking thing. Please make sure you go to college! Overall, I do want to wish you the utmost happiness with whatever you do choose to do.
  • It is your choice and your life. You have to make your own life happy. If this is what you want then do it. There is no right or wrong in this situation. Take what pleasures you can get from life.
  • There are already so many great answers here, but I will add this: It is not morally wrong, but it may not be appropriate. It depends on you and he, both, as individuals. In general, however, it is extremely rare for a marriage with this disparity in age to work out happily ever after. As others have said, you two are not in the same stages of life. While you may have things in common, likes and dislikes, your manner of living, your lifestyle, your choices in career, home, sex, money, family, how you spend your time etc will likely differ. If not now, they will sooner than later. My biggest concern for you would be, as Highlander asked, what does a 57 yo want with an 18yo? No offense, but I would take caution. What will happen if you decide that it is not going to work out? What are his expectations of you? What are YOUR expectations of HIM? Before *anyone* of *any age* enters in to marriage, it is important to learn about each other - what are your beliefs? Your desires for the future? Who will do the dishes? Do you have the same or compatible religious or spiritual views? How will money be handled? How will arguements be handled? He may not be a *bad* guy, but he may not be the *right* guy or a *good* guy for you. At age 57, if he *really* loves you, he should know by now that loving someone means wanting the very best for them. Marrying at age 18 is (usually) not the best idea for anyone. He should want you to learn and grow and flourish, as we all need to do in our late teens and early 20's. Is he really thinking about what is best for you? Why the rush to marry?
  • There's nothing inherently wrong with age-differences in a relationship. I'm much younger than my own boyfriend, so I know it can work. Let me tell you from (another) experience, though: beware of grown men who want to date teenage girls/young adults. Their motives are suspect, like others here have said. If they're not just in it for the sex and for having all the power in a relationship, they tend to be very immature and can't relate to women their own age. I'm not saying he IS like this, just remember to watch out. Also, 18 is very young to get married to ANYBODY and I would advise anyone to wait. How long have you been dating? Because I can't imagine marrying somebody I hadn't been dating for several years.. but that would mean that you were dating him when you were underage, and that would make me think much much less of him. Couldn't you just hold off on the marriage part? I know it doesn't seem like it now, but it could be a serious mistake to marry this man, and you don't want to do something you'll regret later.
  • Good luck!
  • My honest opinion? Run like hell. Whatever you two have in common right now, will NOT last long. He's done growing up and becoming his own person... you have just begun. When I was 18 I dated a guy that was 37. It only lasted 2 months, but the last time I saw him I was 28, and now at only 15, my SON is more mature than he was. Don't rush into anything. Getting out is much more complicated than getting in.
  • look, there is nothing wrong with it but i can almost promise u that u will regret it. maybe not tomarrow or enven 10 years from now, but u will regret it. i am just looking out for yah!
  • The real issue is that you are two people at diffrent phases of your life. That is why marrying someone much older or younger than you is bad. You have to look at the reality that he'll be dead long before you and if you have kids, they won't have a dad around, and you will be a widow before you are 40. It is not the healthiest situation for you and you will see it later on in life whether you marry him or not. You should be with people your own age. What does your dad say? You might ask his advice.
  • Yesterday there was an excellent Dr. Phil episode on this topic. I would go onto his website and link into that episode. I am not a particular fan of Dr. Phil...but this episode addressed exactly the issue you are asking about.
  • You seem almost pleading for approval. Well, you might find yourself repeating those last few lines of your question rather often to skeptics, after your marriage. If you can live with your decision, then you don't have to make these justifications to anyone.
  • It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, your the only one who has to live & sleep with your decision everyday & every night. Its not for anyone to judge you but they will try to advise you especially when they've been there & done that & know that at 18 you've got alot of things your going to want to do but a man that age usually don't want to get out much & do things but you'll find that out soon enough. Good luck
  • It would help if one could hear the full story. I will share a little of my own personal experience with you. Twice I have married out of my age group. I will be truthful with you. True when they say "an old mans darling or a young mans slave" Even if you really get along well, DONT MARRY HIM!!!! Even going out for a romantic dinner becomes an issue. People stare, make cruel comments. Doesnt matter how thick skinned you are, eventually you will start feeling uncomfortable. People actually come up to you and ask if your dad needs anything etc Its gets seriously impossible! You havent mentioned if he has an ex wife, kids.... All this plays a very important role in YOUR future happiness. He might trully love you. Im not disputing that. But you are very young to be thinking about settling down. Dont you have dreams? Perhaps a carreer, a family of your own? If you have children with him, u realise that you will most likely have to raise them on your own. Theirs no growing old together etc The list is long! Theirs far more con's than pro's in this situation. Im a stranger, totally impartial. Im telling you the way it is and the way people will ALWAYS be talking behind your back! If you realy must, live with him, but dont go and get married.
  • If you have to ask, if it's morally wrong or if he's a bad guy...then you shouldn't be marrying him.
  • In my opinion, he is not a bad guy just a dirty old man.You are too young and inexperienced to make these sort of decisions. Mark my words it won't last, you will be wondering what you are missing out there. Live your life for 5 years then revisit the idea of marriage.
  • ODVIUOSLY THERS NOTHING MORALLY WORNG WITH IT. BUT HE IS AN OLD ONE I KNOW YOU LOVE HIM BUT REMEMBER MARIAGE IS FOR LIFE DONT THINK ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL NOW THINK ABOUT HOW YOU'LL FEEL IN 15-20 YEARS DOWN THE ROAD YOU MAY STILL BE HAPPY IF SO I'D BE GLAD FOR YOU. I ONLY WANT THE BEST FOR EVERYONE SO IF YOU'VE THOUGHT ABOUT IT AND DONT CARE THAT AT 30 YOU'LL BE TAKING CARE OF HIM : DIAPERS, BATHING HIM, GIVINGHIM HIS MEDICINE AND ALL THAT GOODSTUFF THEN GO FOR IT TO EACH ITS OWN. BUT DONT BE ONE OF THOSE GIRLS THAT MARY A GUY BUT WHEN IT REALLY COUNTS YOU CANT HANDLE IT AND CHEAT BEACSUE THATS IMMORAL. YOU COULD WORK OUT TOGETHER MAKE SURE HE TAKES HIS VITAMINS SERIUOSLY TO ENSURE YOU'LL DO YOUR PART TO ASSIST HIM HAVING A LONG AND HEALTHY LIFE NOW ADAYS PEOPLE ARE LIVING LONGER AND MAINTAINING AN ACTIVE LIFE AT AN OLDER AGE. LIVE LIFE THE WAY YOU WANT TO BUT HAVE FUN DOING IT. GOOOD LUUUCK AND CONGRADULATIONS
  • he's just taking advantage of you. At 18, no one truly understands what love is yet. Everyone thinks they do at that age, but they really don't. Sounds like you have found a guy, who knows that and is using it to his advantage to get someone young to be with him. Because of the age difference, it is doomed, either because he dies within 20 years, or you get tired of people calling you " gold-digger", " anna-nicole" or something like that. A marriage with that big of a gap is not even close to a good idea.
  • All I can say is it's YOUR life. You can do whatever you want to do. People learn best from the choices they make in life. Hopefully everything turns out well in the future. If not...lesson learned.
  • In 20 years you're going to realize just how young 38 is and how old 77 is.
  • Be serious? I think the age gap is massive. I dont think its morally wrong though. I dont know if he is a bad guy, is he? How long have you known him for?
  • 18's too young to get married to anyone. And, how long have you been seeing this guy? You're legal now, but I can't imagine you're ready to marry someone you've been with less than a year. That tells me that he was seeing you when you were not of age, and that's dangerous.
  • Geez, let me ask this... why would you want to take care of this old geezer, when your not into the primetime of your life?! You should be thinking about college, fun, and a future career...not denture cream, shaving some old farts back hair, or making jello for him. Use your common sense, unless this man is Hugh Hefner with a set up checking/saving account for you, there's no reason to be with him. What good could come of this...don't ruin yourself with an ole timer. Do some good things in life for yourself, go to college meet people your own age, prepare for your future..and after 10 years if you still like him fine...him being alive might be another issue.
  • since you are asking us if its right or wrong, i have a pretty good feeling you already know the answer. you appearantly have doubt or you wouldn't be seeking the advice of others.
  • I spent the last four years with a man 30 years older than I. I was deeply in love with him. Nothing MADE me leave him. I had to decide for myself that wasn't the future I wanted. He loved me. A lot. He even told me we could have the family I always wanted. But did I seriously want my kids being MAYBE 25 when their father died, if he lasted that long. Did I really want to be in my 40's and widowed? Did I really want to him to resent me for him not being able to enjoy his retirement the way most people do (traveling, fruitless hobbies, freedom...)? No. I wanted more. Not just for myself, but for both of us.
  • In general, and in my experience (my father is 18 yrs older than my mom), much older men that go after much younger women (or girls in this case) are skeevy perverts for lack of a more fitting term. Please don't get offensive and not listen to a word I say, because obviously you have a soft spot for this particular pervert. Think about what kind of guy needs to date someone so much younger than himself. What's wrong with him that makes women his own age not interested in him? My own boyfriend is a yr and a half younger than me, my grandfather was about 4 yrs younger than my grandmother. These are 2 of the best and most manly men to ever have walked the earth. They are everything a girl would want in a guy. They're protective over the people they love, they are respectful, honest, strong, brave, and amazing. My dirty old father on the other hand (and I'm not bitter for any reason, he's still with my mother-unfortunately-he didn't leave me when I was young or anything-unfortunately-I'm actually being pretty objective) he's the most wretched piece of garbage to ever call himself a man. He made my mother change the tire of the car once because he was too efeminate to know how, he is not considerate, he treats her like a workhorse, he's cheap and stingy with his money which he hides from her in a separate bank account (and he's a teacher, he doesn't even have much money), he looks at porn all the time which I know because my little brother caught him and told me about it, he drove my mother almost crazy and then tried to have her sent to a mental home (she's better now and stupidly still home with him), and he smells like he doesn't shower properly. Now I realize that there may be exceptions to every rule, but I wouldn't recommend gambling on exceptions. You said he isn't a sugar daddy, and the only good reason to be with a pig that would prey on an 18 yr old would be for the money and to teach him a lesson so he may stop and think twice before he tries to go after a younger girl again. You want to know if this is morally wrong? You have done absolutely nothing wrong except believe some garbage that this disgusting guy is feeding you. He's the one who should be ashamed and rot in hell for his behavior. what kind of guy has no respect for women, no thought that you are someone's child too. You are someone's daughter, someone's sister, cousin, grandchild. I wouldn't want any daughter of mine to be taken advantage of an treated with such disrespect and perversion. And if he isn't thinking that way too, there is something wrong with his mind, or he just doesn't care and is thinking only of himself. Leave him alone is my opinion.
  • im glad you know the difficulties and can anticipate some problems to come. and not t all saying your stupid but i have a few questions.... 1. why are you in such a rush at your age? in theory they say your identity isnt formed until late 20s. 2. if you are so confident about this why are you asking for support of strangers? the question of morally wrong and if hes a bad guy seem like doubt and and fear on your behalf. 3. are you sure you are ready?
  • hi there! wow we are almost in the same boat/ i am 22 and my man is 51. no there is nothing wrong. do he treat u right? do u fight with him? just remember he will be expecting things for u and u must pull through and always be clean and honest. the older they get the more jealous and insucure they are. but go for it! i am :)
  • Ok, honey, you need to seriously get your head outta the clouds and get into the real world. Why would he want to marry you? For the reasons OORAH said. Hon, he don't love you. HE'S FIFTY!!!! do you honestly want to get married to an old guy who will so much sooner than you?! He most likely IS a bad guy! And personally you should really hold off the marraige. Good luck..
  • You are 18, and YES, you ARE stupid! He is in LUST and you love the ATTENTION!
  • I am a similar age to you and my boyfriend is 18 years older than me. I have known him for nearly 2 years before we got together, and it has now been 6 months. HE has been incredibly good about it all, with no pressure and offers the perfect protection and love I've always wanted. He too has every quality I have ever wanted in a man. However, people do stare and it does make me uncomfortable. So9metimes I feel worried that I'm not doing the normal things average teenagers are doing, largely due to the fact that despite my efforts, my friends don't tend to go out much, which is a bugger. I have grown apart from my best friend who has let me down with a massive lack of support in the situation and have also hurt my good male friend, who is in love with me and my age. I do love him and in 5-10 years time he'd be the perfect man for me. But that's in 5-10 years when i'm out of uni and ready to settle down, although I don't want to give up someone so wonderful despite the things the relationship is stopping me doing certain things (us socialising with each others friends for example). He is also my best friend and I have nevber met someone so wonderful. Look at what is right for you in this prime stage of your life, is this really what you'd want in 20 years when you're 38 and he's 87? Sometimes you have to be selfish and think about yourself in this because everybody else does unfortunately. Will you be happy? If you meet someone great in a club or wherever how will you feel knowing you can't do anything with your boyfriend at home? How will he react to you going out, a jealousy issue may arise. Just don't make a rushed decision, and bear in mind how impressive it will look for HIM to be seeing someone of your age, it could also be a status thing. What we have to remember, however, that only you know about this situation and we have no right to cast judgements over it. He could may well be the love of your life and the heart wants what the heart wants, seeing as age is essentially just a numbeer and you are just two people. But think it through and think about how it will affect those you care about, it's a huge decision and don't rush into anything because you think you're in love, you may just be in love with the idea of being in love and nobody wants you or your boyfriend to get hurt either through the marriage or the limitations the marriage brings.
  • I see a lot of good answers here. 18 is a young age to jump in. I'm going on 25 and I just got engaged a year ago. What makes you ask these questions? Love is love. If you think there is no hidden intentions, than it's probably not a moral issue. However, there have been a lot of responses that bring up a good point. Your age difference is massive. You are both in completely different stages of your lives and it does seem a bit inappropriate. It's like black and white. But if you truly love him unconditionally and he returns 100%, then who is to question what has become? Good luck. I wish you happiness with your future and which road you travel on.
  • i think to marry with that big of gap in you ages is riddious..but im not you.. man hes old enough to be you grandfather..
  • No, I do not think it is morally wrong. I was 20 years old dating a 40 year man and I believed that we were truely in love. He gave me an engagement, talking about moving to Florida and our kids names and everything then later on I find out he is married but separate from his wife so I continued with the relationship because he sweared up and down that they were getting a divorce and then we would get married. And then time just keep going by and then I find out he never told his family about me like he said he did. I ended up calling his mom and that is when I found out that they were working things out again. I dated him for over 2 years and I realized that he done this to a couple of girls before. Even though he treats you good or even like a queen he could be hiding something. I got roses delivered to work and romantic nights with roses petals in the bath tub and on the bed and everything a girl can dream up but things ended up bad. I heard from him every day and basically every hour during the day and meet me for lunch everyday so just make sure u know everything about him. I still think about him because of how I felt about him but I realized that you can not always trust a man even though how much you are love with him. You boyfriend might be different then what I been through but you really need to ask yourself if you truely know everything about him. Just realize what I said since I have been through that how much u truely know about him. I hope things work out for the best for you.
  • I'll be serious. You are young and don't know what the hell is going on. You may not be stupid, but you are DOING something very stupid. It is not necessarily "morally" wrong on your part as much as it is just ill advised. If you have a real dad, he's doing something horribly wrong, and might not have supplied you with the affection you seem to need. The fact of the matter is your affection for this older man is based on some other deep seated issue have, end of story. It's not a matter of it just not being normal, it's not logical. If you two do identify with each other, then that can only mean he is INCREDIBLY immature for his age, because regardless of how smart you are, you're not as smart as you're going to be when you're his age. And you say you know the difficulties to come, but I don't think you do. If you do this, you're going to endure the death of your husband, there is no question about it. Given that you're only 18, I sincerely doubt you have any idea of what that is going to be like. And yes, he is a bad guy. He is exploiting and capitalizing on your youth and apparent need for affirmation that you are an adult. You seem to be pissed off that people still view you as a kid and want to be respected as a grown up, but what you're doing isnt grown up, it's VERY childish. That's the irony of it. If you're 18, and you're already going to marry a 57 year old man, then that can only mean one of two things: Either you two met and began a relationship BEFORE you were of legal age, 16 or 17, in which case he is a very sick and twisted individual, or you two met while you were 18 and you've only been together for less than a year, in which case is far too quick to marry ANYONE, senior citizen or not. Another thing I suggest you start thinking about is his preferences. If he's marrying you, its obvious he likes very young girls. Now, I'm not sure if you realize this, but you won't be a young girl forever, and he will most likely grow bored of you and once again seek another young girl to prey upon. I say prey because that's what it is, pure and simple. He is a predator and you are suffering from Stockholm syndrome.
  • Do you like live in a compound in Texas?
  • I won't comment on this as Highlander said it all. And he is right on. If he loved you,as you say he does,he would break-off the relationship, PDQ>
  • It might seem alright now but just think when you are his age he'll be in his 90's if he's still alive - assuming he is fit and healthy at the moment there will come a time when you are still in the prime of your life and he is slowing down. Do you really want to become your husband's carer? What about children - he is already old enough to be a grandfather; think carefully about the effect. You might recognise the difficulties to come but it is easy at this stage to accept them without question - I think you will wake up one morning and realise he has made you old before your time and find it is too late for regrets.....if you have to ask the question you must have some doubts. Think it through very seriously before you make a commitment - good luck
  • I don't believe it's wrong to marry a 57 year old when you are 18 but before you make a decision... think of yourself before him. then think of your family. i'm 18 also. and kinda in the same situation. my boyfriend is 45. i love him, his kids, and his family but i keep the relationship a secret because i dont want to upset my mom. some of my family found out about it and they are disgusted by me and some hate me. but if you go through that... just ask them what have you done to them to be treated the way they treat you. we are only human. we only live once. do whatever makes you happy. he isn't a bad guy, just give it a few more years to figure stuff out. i know you are probably scared that if you leave him, you won't find someone else that will treat you the same or you won't have someone that has money or a great future ahead because your boyfriend already had a great future. cherish the moments you have with him and every other person you may be with. good luck.
  • I see nothing morally wrong with it, as long as you're marrying him for love and not just to leech any money you think he has out of him.
  • I don't think there's anything wrong with it.
  • The fact that you're questioning your motives gives you some sense of "what am I getting into." Just so you know, the odds of you having at least one child where he would live long enough to see him through high school are remote. That's not my call but the stats say most guys are living to their mid 70s. Give that some thought and if you're just looking for a whirlwind committment from a guy who can provide you more than most guys you're age, you're golden and Mr. Senior guy sounds ready. Have fun and don't give the guy a heart-attack. :D
  • you may love this guy very much ,but i will not marry him. older guys will tie you down .when you get in your prime years and want to travel and do things he can not . you will not get a lot of sex from him because as he age his sex drive will not be the same ,and that is miserable. what about children he maynot be around to see his kids grow up no continue to love him but dont marry him a big mistake.
  • Why do you want to get married? Marriage can really suck, period. Go have fun for a while.
  • Seriously - it aint right . . .
  • Hay! Sweet Heart: Go with your Heart, Don't worry what the Hell others have to say. It's your life not theirs. And enjoy your lives together.
  • Nothing morally wrong but if you want children, will he be there to see the grandchildren.
  • I got married when I was 23, and it was the single greatest mistake of my life. I was too young. Now that's not saying everyone is the same, but at 18, are you really ready to make a decision that will lock you into a situation for the REST OF YOUR LIFE? People have a tendancy to view their lives in stages. "Oh, I'm 15, I want to be 18 to be an adult. Now I'm 18, I'm an adult, I have to do the grown-up things. I have to find someone and get married and pop out some kids." Don't rush into anything. He's got more life behind him than in front, and to spend the rest of his time falling asleep next to a girl (cuz you're still a girl) who's almost 40 years younger than him is a dream come true. You've got a LOT OF TIME IN FRONT OF YOU. Plus, he's got to be all wrinkly and stuff. Not to mention in 20 years, you'll be 38, and he'll probably be in diapers drooling on himself. And who wants that at dinnertime?
  • Being in love as a teenager is often very intense, but it does not mean you're making the right choice. I wouldn't recommend marriage so young period, no matter what age your partner is. At his age, your boyfriend should realise this, and therefore not insist on marriage or kids, since it's practically irreverable and nails you down. Unless ofcourse, he wants to nail you down. Tell him you want to enjoy the moment, but not marry yet. If you still love him after 3 years, go ahead. People who truly love each other don't need vows and signed contracts to officially obligate their partners into loving them and sticking to them.
  • He is a bad guy and has manipulated you. You should see the movie "Very Young Girls" to see how older men manipulate young girls into "loving" them. They are such Svengali's that later on these girls will put up with physical and psychological abuse and still come back to these men. I'm sure you do "love" him, but I'm equally sure that this is a horrible situation for you and that he doesn't really love you. You are being used. I wish you better than this. You deserve it.
  • its not wrong but its questionable. people could see him as a pedophile. don't be in such a rush to get married. you're still a teen!
  • Sorry, but I think it is just plain CREEPY...
  • How do they say it in America? Viagra?
  • I gotta wonder how you can be serious. 57 - when your 28 67 - when your 38 77 - when your 48 87 - got the math yet. Sorry but it can't be real - way too much age difference.
  • I say, go for it... When I was 55 I met an 18 year old girl...long dark hair, big brown eyes, big boobs, completely unhibited. She had only had sex once and that summer Ipretty much taught her everything she wanted to know about sex....and she was without doubt the most responsive woman I ever had. People were outraged and called me all manner of names....pervert and child molestor being among the more kind....that was nine years ago...we have now been married for a bit over eight years and have three beautiful kids....7, 3, and 20 months. I put her through college where she graduated third in her class.people say we have the perct marriage and I have a better sex life than guys in their twenties....yes I am shallow enough that I really get off on having a trophy wife...but she is also my best friend and I would lay down my life for her in an instant if it was necessary....sometimes things DO work out.
  • think about it real hard because its not going to be what you think it is.he is 39 years older than you.when you are thirty years old he wil be almost 70.i think you better get someone in your own age range.marring someone your age makes him feel younger but the fact is when your 30 years old your going to want to get out and be with your friends and do things like someone your age would normally want to do.take some good advise and let him go.he should hopefully understand and not try to hold you back.i'm sure he has probably given it some thought that he might be too old for you and he needs to step up to the plate and let you go and enjoy your life.i hope you haven't based your whole life on one man especially a 57 year old man.what happens let say when your thirty and you accidently meet someone around your age and you become attracted to him ,what will you do then? i don't mean any disrespect towards your man but it makes no sense at all.please give it a lot of thought before you jump into the deep end.see a priest or minister and explain it to them and see what they say.i wish you all the luck in the world and i mean that with all sincerety...pete

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