ANSWERS: 54
  • y did u have to marry your partner if it was loveless in the first place...that's the real question that i'm eager to know the answer of...
  • I have no children but my parents stayed together and I prayed every day they would divorce. They are harming the children more than they will ever know.
  • Nope. You're not doing the children any favors. Only providing a very poor model of what marriage should be that they'll carry with them for the rest of their lives. They'll have no idea what love in an adult relationship should look like- and no preparation for entering that world. Then you also have the damage done to children when they see their parents unhappy. Children have a knack for making that their fault. Better to be happy apart than miserable together.
  • No I would not. Think of the children, what would they base their relationships on? They wouldn't know what true love was :(
  • umm no i wouldn't stay in a loveless anything. whether it be relationship or marriage.
  • for my children yes i would luckily i have no need to +5
  • My friends parents did and he thanks them all the time now for the sacrifice they made for him when he was younger and couldn't have coped with their split. It upset him as an adult when they eventually divorced but not half as much as it would have when he was younger and now he is also old enough that he can support them through their newly single lives too.
  • No. That would be setting a very bad example. Children know when there is love in a home and they also know when there isn't. I would not subject my child(ren) to living a lie. Happy Tuesday! :)
  • I kinda think if you stayed together the Children might grow up with a twisted view of what real love is.. if they see their parents not showing affection or even arguing all the time... Having said that I personally think it's quite important for a child to have both a mother and a father figure. Single Moms are fine.. But a single mom raising a boy, is fine until the boy becomes a teenager, then who is REALLY in control of the household? And a single Dad would be just as bad.. but for different reasons! Both parents bring something different to the table and Both are important. Having said that.. The parents can still bring their individual qualities into the childs life without living together... a Rather rambelling and undecided answer.. sorry, I'm sure it confused more than helped.. But i tried.
  • i will stay in a loveless marriage for sake of children, children deserve the love of parents, atleast i can love my children if not marriage.
  • Considering the damage done to the children, as a result of a divorce is so great, how you feel carries little importance. Stanford University - Divorce, Nontraditional Families, and Its Consequences For Children "We know that children of divorced parents have more emotional and behavioral problems and do less well in school than children who live with both their Parent." http://www.stanford.edu/~rmahony/Divorce.html Stay Married And Save The Planet http://www.reuters.com/article/oddlyEnoughNews/idUSTRE51N4ST20090224
  • I would LEAVE a loveless marriage for the sake of the children.
  • Ideally - no. But realistically? I think I would probably do this. It would take a little more than a not-great ongoing situation to get me to change my circumstances. Maybe if it turned abusive, or I found some new possibility (eg found love outside the marriage) that I would have to venture out to get...
  • No, given that every psychological study states that staying together for the children actually ends up damaging them, I'd be off.
  • No ... by doing so, the children can suffer far more emotional damage by the constant arguing or worse ... which can severely impact their own lives later. Peace
  • No no no. Children pick up on what is happening in their parents' relationship. They may be young, but not stupid. My philosophy is that it is better for a child to be happy with one parent than to be unhappy with two parents. Leave the marriage for the sake of your children.
  • I have. This is my view on this... If it's amicable and the parents both want to I see no reason why not. As parents we constantly make sacrifices for our children. It's part of parenting. On the other hand, if the relationship is turbulent and the parents are truly unhappy together, it would be the right thing to do to end the marriage. The kids will be OK if the parents are reasonable. I hate seeing vicious divorces that struggle for control of the kids. Divorcees often have themselves in mind, not the welfare of the children.
  • I would leave for the sake of the children.
  • No way.
  • im in a loveless marriage just because I love him, it is absolutely not requited. I just havent left his cheating ass yet.
  • been there. done that, wouldnt do it again. Finances meant that the children in college would have had to leave. It wasnt loveless when they were smaller just at the end. The memories they have of their childhood are in general good. (we do talk about it)
  • no i wouldn't, it would teach the children the wrong values...
  • It depends, is it devoid of romantic love or is there a familiar love. Is he abusive then definately get out. Does he love you or do you not love him.. is there anything to save.. how would you be without him...?
  • I honestly can't say until I'm put in that situation.
  • I know a lot of ppl that do
  • Before I did that, I'd do my level best to make it a loving marriage again.
  • No, I'd work at keeping love in the marriage for the sake of everyone.
  • its a bad way to showcase an unhealthy relationship
  • Been there, done that and I let her stay until the kids turned 18 then I kicked both her and the drug problem she has out the door.
  • NO! My parents did that when i was a kid and it was the worst experience of my life. My life got much better when they got divorced
  • HELL.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • Did that, bad idea. You lose yourself and that becomes hard to get back.
  • Thank you so much for sending that to me, I really felt it and really felt that mans pain. I know that women abuse too, I think your doing a wonderful thing helping men they really do need it.
  • No, no, no, no. As a child of one of those situations, NO! As much as people believe divorce screws up the children, so does living with parents in that sort of situation. You think the children don't notice? They do.
  • Yes i am already there, we have four kids and met in highschool, i love her but no longer in love. We fight constantly and can't even agree on what to watch on tv. But i love my kids more than anything and it is worth the hell to be near them.
  • No I wouldn't and I didn't. As Dr. phil says it is best to come from a broken home than to live in one.
  • no because I would not want to suffer or drag my kids through it.
  • If itr is a loveless but neutral marriage in the sense that there is no abuse, I would definetly stay for the sake of the children. They trump almost everything. Children are a responsibility that is taken on when they are conceived. There is no justification for abrogating that responsibility.
  • I made a big mistake and stayed many years in a loveless marrage for my kids. They saw their mom treat me like crap and knew I was unhappy. When I finally got fed up and did leave both my kids asked why I put up with her all those years. I am now seperated over two years and have been the happiest I have been in twenty five years. My kids love me just the same and we are all less stressed out. Its not good for kids to see a crappy marrage. I know this now.
  • I tried to both times and at some point I realized that I was more miserable than I could control. I really didn't want my children to think that this is what marriage was about or what it was supposed to look like. I didn't want them to think the mom has to be miserable. I didn't want them to see me give up. So as hard as it is to be a single mom (mostly financially), I'm glad that they are watching me be independent, strong and focused.
  • Yes there are many couples who are staying in loveless marriage for the sake of the children,beause they love their children and as soon as the children grow they file for divorce.
  • at the end of the day when you do have kids , even tho your marriage is in disaster mode, the most wonderful thing is to wake up next to my child, i,ll take a crappy marriage anytime for that privalage
  • I am not married, but i stayed in a loveless, or should I say fearful relationship for over four years for my son's sake, but it got out of hands when our lives were threatened. I had to leave because as much as i love my son and would love for him to have his dad and I around him all the time, it is my responsibility to remove him and myself form an environment that has become life threatening.
  • Loveless? I would probably NOT stay in a marriage like that....because, there would probably also be exhibitions of hate, or disdain. If it were only a lack of ROMANCE...yes, I would stay then for the children.
  • No,I wouldn't.
  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iHjfDZDvPmk
  • My first thought was, "No way! You’re not doing your children any favors raising them in a house without love. What kind of example are you setting?" And while I really believe this to be true, it’s seldom as simple as that, and we don’t always have the luxury of standing on our principles--especially when the well-being of children is involved.I’m looking at the question from a woman’s point of view, and unfortunately, finances would have to play an important part in any decision I made. Upon divorce, a woman’s average income drops some 70% from pre-divorce levels. How many children do I have? How old are they? What is the likelihood of the father continuing to contribute to their upbringing? Who is the primary breadwinner in the family? Does my husband hold a steady job or is his inability to find work one of the major stressors on our marriage? In the unlikely circumstance that I make substantially more than my husband, I might find him suing for spousal support. What are the circumstances of my loveless marriage? Is my husband abusive? Would staying together as a family endanger me or the kids? Or is there still respect and consideration even if there’s no longer love? Can we stick it out? Perhaps the kids are close to graduating high school. In that case, it might be worth it. Ideally, we’d make this decision together, and once we decided that the marriage is over, we could both take steps to dissolve it and make the transition as painless for us and the kids as possible. Unfortunately, it’s very seldom that civilized. Here's a link to a do-it-yourself divorce website: http://www.mydivorcedocuments.com/index.asp?src=google&gclid=CIGcvYzf4Y4CFQQvYQod4jcdVg
  • hell no!
  • Maybe. I think I would try but I might not be able to keep it up for too long. +5
  • I divorced my first EX in a loveless marriage. My daughter was two and I am certain she is much happier now then she would have been if I had remained in a totally miserable marriage. Kelly
  • I did, but looking back, it was a mistake.
  • Unless my husband was cheating on me or couldn't provide for me I would try to make it work.
  • That depends on so many other things. Is it civil? Is it just loveless and not hateful? Is there constant fighting? Would it really be a better environment for the children? How old are the children? Is the love just temporarily lost and could possibly be rebuilt? Would staying in the situation REALLY be better for the children?
  • Yes we are, since 21 years of marriage life, me and my husband are staying in a loveless marriage for the sake of our children, now my kids are 17 and 19 years teenage boys. I'm 42 and he's 48, We still living together, because we can't trust and believe on anything and anybody.

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