ANSWERS: 30
  • Probably not a popular answer and may get Drd but here is my answer. Should you..probably. Is it OK if you don't.. He** yes. If you, like me, come from an abusive background where your parents/family never cared about the child's needs then I think it's OK if you have problems loving them.
  • It's a possibility but, not a necessity.
  • No.Family often is the cause of your worst pain(For some).These kind of people do not deserve special people,because they will continue to harm and misuse if allowed.Only you can pick your friends,only genetics can pick your family.Remember that.*:)*+++++*
  • Absolutely not! Love has to be earned. It isn't there by accident of birth. Many people behave in ways that are not deserving of anyone's love - even their family's.
  • Hell no, they are worse than a normal enemy, they have more ammunition against you.
  • Hell no! I don't. B**tards put me in care and put me through hell, the people i love are the people who were simply there, blood means nothing. +3
  • no you should love them because they are your family
  • My family isn't related to me. I am actually in line to be the King of Siam; I was kidnapped at birth and placed in my current family at that time, and the "official" records were destroyed. But one of my "sisters" is okay, and I loved my "parents".
  • In this room, I'll probably get DR'ed for this, but yes, you should. Love is more than just a chemical or hormonal reaction. It's a decision. We need to learn how to love in this world, and family is often a case in point.
  • Just because they are your family does not mean you HAVE to love them. I love my family. I may not LOVE things they do or how they live, but i do love them.
  • No, not just based on them just being your family. Love, respect and trust should be earned by all (family or not) before you should feel obligated to return it.
  • No. Family love has to be earned. I have a 2nd cousin and he doesn't act like he's family at all. He's a backstabber and a hypocrite. I hate him.
  • certain people, I guess you should. I love my second brother JUST because he is my brother, no other reason. On the other hand, the discontent is mutual, and he does NOT feel anything toward me. so im gonna say, its subjective.
  • Should, no. Could, yes.
  • Maybe you should, but if they burn you enough times they are no different than anyone else
  • Family is a training ground for love. . To answer the question though, you should love your family if at all possible.
  • nope..you can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family!
  • My love to relatives is measured in miles. The further they are, the more I love them.
  • Well you can choose your friends but not your family or so they say......
  • Its not that easy sadly
  • No. Love is a seed which must be planted from the time one is a baby. It has to be nerture and care for. It has to be demonstrated with good deeds. My parents, as well as other relatives, did show me love every single day growing up. Even when I was punished (never physically), it was done with a sense of love and care. It was done for the purpose of showing me the distinction between right and wrong for me to be able to make better choices. No, they weren't (are) perfect, but that's inconsequential. We weren't rich, or even middle-class--that too is inconsequential. Love has nothing to do with those things. But because of their love, they made personal sacrifice for me to get the kind of education--and consequently the life--they never had. In other words, the foundation of my upbringing was an uncompromising love from my family. This is why I love my family and not just because we're related.
  • Not sure if I SHOULD, but I just do just because they are related to me. I don't always LIKE all relatives though. +5
  • yes!! but you don't have to like them!!
  • No. Should you like your neighbors just because you live next to them?
  • That is interesting question because in other astral world we are just friends, no regard on any relative relationship! And that is a way in which we came to this world so I think that you should love anyone no more that you love yourself!
  • Yes, family are people who are allways there for you. The fact you cant chose them makes everyone different. You can allways 'extend your family' with close friends.
  • Depends on if they abandoned/abused you. If not, you don't have to like somebody in order to love them.
  • Yeah... But I don't put much weight on that kind of love. I prefer the kind that is a choice. Not an obligation.
  • Yes but I definitely think it is ok to not let that love hurt you. If someone in your family is crossing the line and hurting you in any way, you have the right to walk away. I don't take shit from straangers, so why should I take it from the people that are supposed to back me up?
  • No you should love them because we're commanded to love everyone including our enemies. But that doesn't mean you have to be around them especially if they're toxic.

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