ANSWERS: 57
  • Certainly. Gender shouldn't really have much of a bearing on friendship. I can't say I know from personal experience. But I've seen many an example, and I know it's more than possible.
  • Only if one or both of them is a homosexual. I think it's a high ideal, but one of the two eventually develops feelings for the other, and that is a destructive force in a friendship when the other party can't or won't reciprocate. Even if kept hidden, it will manifest itself by sabotaging the other's romantic interests. This sort of thing is almost destined for failure.
  • I have a male friend, about 7 years younger than me, who was guitarist in a band I was in. We have the same crazy personalities, same interests. When he comes over with his family, his wife and my husband talk sensible things, while we two are all hyped up about crazy stuff. Once I was asked if he was my husband and we both burst out laughing. I said :If that happened, the universe would implode. That aside, I do not know of many friendships between men and women which do not have the danger of becoming something else, and it can happen out of the blue. But it is possible.
  • Yes , most of my best friends have been men and there has never been anything sexual involved . Love of a friend but that is all
  • Absolutely, yes. In fact, sometimes it's easier to be best friends with the opposite gender, because it doubles the insight you get into people's thinking and values. My best friends, with one exception, have always been of the opposite sex. My now-wife was my best friend when we first started our relationship, but of course that did evolve into other aspects, but the premise is still solid.
  • Yes one of my good friends is called damian, my partner was a bit miffed by it at first, after they met each other my partner realised that i could not want anything more than friendship from him lol
  • No. Check out www.laddertheory.com. As much as everyone hates to admit it, guys can NOT have platonic relationships with females (unless they are gay of course)
  • My husband has had a best female friend for over 20 years and the only feelings shared those of brother and sister. And I don't believe that all men are horn dogs! I have had a male friend for 33 years and there are no "feelings" for one another. We are just friends!
  • only if they are siblings, or both are gay...or one is gay.....or one is really good-looking and the other looks like the elephant man. Or if there is absolutely NO possible attraction between the two. (But if you spend a lot of time with someone, the odds of that are slim.) I have found myself to be attracted to men who did not attract me physically, but due to constant exposure to them at the office, I often found myself attracted to them because of a great sense of humor, pesonality, a kind heart or just some kind of connection we made. So, it's possible, but when both people are reasonably attractive, enjoy each others company and spend a lot of time together, romantic feelings are going to develop.
  • If you were best friends you would have feelings for each other.
  • Oh, yeah, easily. People don't have to have romantic feelings toward each other at all to be friends. It's entirely possible. In fact, I think most of the people I'd consider my really good friends now are males and I'm a female.
  • Yes there are plenty of male/female friendships but that doesn't mean there isn't an enevitable attraction between the two of them. They can choose to ignore it or take it as a step in their relationship
  • Girls have guy friends. Guys have girls they haven't slept with, yet. In a word, no
  • Friendship IS a feeling!!!
  • Absutively!!! my best friend is a girl. and we don't have any feelings for one another. we tell each oter everything, i've never had a friend like her.
  • Yes totally. Even in adolescents with hormones being crazy I've had a best male friend for just over 16 years now and we've gone through a lot together but our relationship has never gone there. He's like my brother.
  • No, In my experience the fella always has an ulterior motive, no matter how much he tries to hide it even to himself, unless he is gay. Sorry girls but us blokey types are mostly the same.
  • i thought you could but my bestfriend which is a girl ..i have fallen in love with i can tell becuase the way i look at her and everything its weird..becuase my girlfriend is friends with her so now im in an akward posistion
  • yes they can. i have tons of guy friends and i dont even have feelings for them.
  • Yes I do believe you can have a best guy or girl friend and not have THOSE kinds of feelings towards them. Actually I think you can be closer to the oposite sex than to the same sex. It all depends on your hormones too, and if you are mature enough or not. I guess it just depends on the person really. But my answer is yes.
  • SURE!!...if one of them was gay.
  • SURE!!...if one of them was gay.
  • I really don't think so, I mean both of you are eventually going to feel something for each other. You are obviously very compatible with them, so it is only natural that you will eventually feel attracted to that person. It is most likely to occur when your friend gets in a relationship. From personal experience I can say that when my best friend got in a serious relationship, I felt hurt and betrayed, like I just wasn't good enough for him. There are just too many emotions between men and women for it to be possible to be "best" friends. Eventually someone will get hurt, whether it is you, your friend, or their significant other (and trust me I have been on that end of the spectrum too and it is really not fair to them).
  • absoulutly.
  • I honestly feel you can. I have male friends that I would never look at in a romantic manner. I love them as friends but that's it.
  • yes. definitely. one of my best friends is a guy that i've known since birth, and we have no "feelings" for each other.
  • My BEST FRIEND in the whole world is a guy!!! He was my cousin's fiance at one time, they split, we stayed bf's. Luckily he married a WONDERFUL chik who understands our relatioship completely and who has become just as close to me as he is.
  • After they've had sex few times.
  • After reading all the answers above, I am really not sure if you can or cannot. First off, is a best friend someone that you love and care about, I would say yes. But just because a male and female are best friends, doesn't mean that they are going to get sexually attatched to each other and cause dispruption. But how many of these friendships between the male and female that really know if the other best friends wants that more than they are willing to say. So I think that they think that If I cannot have her/him than at least I can be close to her/him by being around her/him as a friend. Think that over.
  • yes they sure can - though many people seem compelled to question friendships like these.
  • I believe it's possible, but it depends upon the age differences between them and the level of sexual attraction each has for the other. Can a 25 year old man be friends with a 75 year old women? Absolutely. Can a unattached 25 year old man be 'friends' with an attractive 25 year old woman? Unlikely, unless there are extenuating circumstances.
  • I insist that it's theoretically possible, though I can no longer point to myself as an example. I used to trumpet my male best friend as proof that men and women can be best friends without going further, and then out of the blue he announced that he was in love with me. :- But I still think it can happen.
  • I don't see why not. I grew up with older brothers and I never had a girl best friend that 'stuck' or 'worked' at least, which proves to me that I just have a certain attraction to friending guys, not necessarily because I understand them better, but just that I relate to them (growing up alongside boys and all). My best friend and I have been friends for seven years ongoing, and although I've moved to a different country, we're still close and he's like a brother to me. I don't see us going in that direction - ever. It's possible, you don't have to stereotype or be negative about it.
  • With me impossible. With some women its all on how she presents herself and the kinda voice she has. And my favorite, the way she smells. If u want a guanteed way for me to be friends witn u, Be ooogly, sound like a dude and stink and i mean hot ass crack stinky.
  • I believe they can be best friends! But no matter what they will have some sort of feelings maybe not of the sexual type though!
  • Yes, my best friend for the last 33 years (since age 2) is female, I am male, and we will never have sex... we have gone skinny dipping, but it was like, hey, the lake is here, and it's only you, I am going swimming... we hug each other all the time, but never will we have sex, that would cause the immediate end of the universe and all life... and worse still, my wife has met her and they get along well... I have nowhere to hide...
  • Most definitely. My best friend is female. I have known her for 10 years and to my knowledge she has never had any romantic feelings for me. I know I have never had any for her. we still talk and hang out from time to time and are best of friends.
  • Most likely not. Usually the guy always has sex in the back of his mind and that type of situation is unnatural. If you are a woman in this situation, realize that the man in the "friendship" is looking to have sex with you no matter what he says, unless he is gay, and if you are man, quit kidding yourself, having a female friend is only trouble, especially when you start dating another woman. Either way the situation is not realistic.
  • I think that guys and gals can be good friends without "feelings" beyond friendship. I work with a bunch of guys - no romantic feelings for them whatsoever. However, I will be honest and point out that each and every one of them is MARRIED! :) (No...not gay....) So that may/may not have something to do with it.
  • Yep. My best friend is a Girl.
  • I have had many guy friends in my past that were just that, friends. One friend I would go over to his house all the time and his dad said hey why dont you to date, and he was like oh yeah I guess we could, it never even entered his mind, until his dad mentioned it.
  • yes, i am in one right now :)
  • of course
  • Yes. I have 3 of my best friends that are guys! I've known them all for years, and nothing but friends. But, I also had one friend who started to like me... it DID send things out of whack, and I haven't talked to him in about a year. So, I'd say go for it! If they're a TRUE best friend, then yeah. And maybe they'll be the best boyfriend/girlfriend you could have, in a while. ;)
  • I found this site looking for the answer to that question due to the situation I am in currently. I have always had better luck with male friends than female friends. Males are just so much more relaxed and less dramatic than women. I can never keep a female friend. I think I maybe have 2 I'm super close to. I've been in a developing relationship with this guy I know for about 3 months. We are friends, in fact I consider him my best friend and the feeling is reciprocated. We do everything together and very rarely will a day go by when we don't talk. He's like a male me I guess. We are both attractive people and unfortunately it is safe to say that I am falling for him. I think he likes me to but does not want a romantic relationship with anyone. We have been intimate, yet we still feel the same way about eachother. So I don't really know. I have a bunch of male friends that I adore and alot of attractive ones for that matter and we are successfully just friends. But this one. My true honest to god best friend....I am developing feelings for. So in conclusion my answer is yes, but severely rarely. A male and a female spending as much time together as we do enjoying eachothers company will eventually fall for eachother.
  • Of course. Though if one is married, it may still be inappropriate.
  • In my day, 1970, it was unusual for guys and girls to be best friends. If a girl liked a guy they became a couple. However, nowadays, it seems that guys and girls can be "just friends" without any romantic attachment.
  • I have 3 guy best friends and we've worked through any unreturned attraction by being honest and seeing the humor in it :) We'll be best buds forever!
  • One of my best friends is a female. She's married and I was. We've been friends for about 23 years. Never anything between us except friendship.....and she's kind of hot too.
  • I've always ended up with a little crush on most of my guy friends. It might have only been a day or two crush, then I got over it. But that's just me. Not everyone is like that.
  • No, I have a few guy friends, and I have nothing more than friendship feelings for them. Maybe once upon a time, some romantic feelings, but they disappeared quickly. If you do feel for your guy friend, that's normal and it's okay. You are possibly attracted to him. Because all relationships should be based on mutual friendship.
  • People say that their are no feelings between them, yea you might think that about the guy your friends with but you dont know what hes thinking, cuz i know i have chilled with girls and we was friends to her friends she might of felt that way about me but in my mind the whole time i just wanna have sex with her thats the only reason im chillen with her. The only girl (friend) i have now are ones that i use to be with or messed around with. Reason why im on this site now is cuz my girl for 3 months who i aint seen in 15 days will rather go to dinner with her guy bestfriend then come see me and this so called guy bestfriend who i have never met suppose to be her bestfriend since a baby and im suppose to be the love her life but how come we never met each other.
  • totally. I m best friends with a couple of guys and I don't liek him in that way at all. He told me he was really hurt when this girl he really liekd didn't liek him back and I felt SO BAD I was really mad at the girl but there I was just being a friend, not wanting to see my friend get hurt. so yes, it's possible
  • i don't know if they can. i have had a guy best friend for 10 years. i might like him... i have had other boy friends that have started off as just friends... but i have never had the same feeling as i have had around him. he is just a total sweetheart and he has always been there for me. but i hardly ever see him anymore because we go to different schools. but i talk to him every day...idk I'm so confused...
  • My boyfriend is my best friend. I do think that it is possible for a guy and a girl to be best friends without being romantically interested in each other. I also think it's possible that a lot of people do actually have strong feelings for their best friend, but are afraid of getting together with them because they don't want to lose them. It happened to me once. I gave my best friend at the time a chance. Where is he now? Gone. We hardly talk anymore. That is what a lot of people are afraid of happening.
  • i deffinetly think they can. i have a guy best friend and when im fighting with my boyfriend he gives me amazing advice to help me out. it depends on the person though. some guys just want to be a friend, and want to look out for you.

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