First, not all ex-wives ARE hateful bitches. Mine isn't, and I've heard enough stories to know it's not all of them. Second, it's not only SOME ex-wives, but SOME ex-husbands, too. And in many cases, it's ex-s/os when all they did was date or become committed relationships. Now, If kids are involved, then it's BOTH of the party's fault and problem. But, true... The custodial parent can be nasty about child support. The court decides on the money. The s/o, sometimes uses that money for themselves, and not the kids. Remember, though, that if it's used for rent/mortgage, food, vehicle (unless it's a sports car, don't you want the kids to ride in a safe vehicle that won't break down?) clothing (for the kids), entertainment (for the kids), school, doctors (for the kids), etc., they're doing NOTHING wrong with it. THAT would require the courts or CPS to decide if the $$ aren't being used for the kids. But there can be plenty of nastiness... I know of a guy, who, every year when he got a raise (or she didn't make as much), the ex-wife would take him to court to get the child support adjusted. Why can't they move on? Usually, it's kids, but sometimes it's because they were hurt, in some way, by the s/o's actions - cheating, partying, etc. It can take some time to get over something like that. The other reason they get nasty during the divorce? Usually the man makes more money. The lawyers know this. The lawyer makes money every time the wife takes the child to court, or calls to ask about something, or... They want to keep the couple sparring for the "residual income". AND, there are those people who don't pay what the court said they should pay, if they give the exes ANYTHING. When it's child support, then the custodial parent may suffer, but so do the children. There are plenty of stories about kids living in small, cheap, unsafe apartments or houses, wearing ratty clothes, eating one meal (if that) a day, because the s/o who is SUPPOSED to pay child support doesn't. Don't blame the ex-wives (or husbands) for being bitches or bastards, until you know ALL of the facts of the issue. Remember, too, that if kids are involved, THEY are the #1 most important thing for the COUPLE to think about. ;-)

I LOVE your question. I never dealt with or even heard many stories of divorce until the guy I was dating was going thru his. He only wanted what was best for their kids. He offered her the family home free and clear. Was willing to pay whatever was required in child support. All he wanted was to see his kids half the time. She fought him tooth and nail. Refused any offer. Spent over $30,000, making him in turn, spend the same to defend himself and keep fighting to see his kids. The kids didn't even want to go home to her when they would visit him. They cried that they didnt want to go back to Mumma's house. (because she was being unstable with them). So she refuses to let him see his kids, but she has the whole summer off(she is a freakin teacher) and puts her 3yr old son in daycare because she only feels like watching the 8 yr old daughter. She is a hateful bitch and I could go on and on but I think I just have..... (sorry!)

No, never, I had several friends that did though. It was a bad situation. Stay strong, just don't lose it.

lol. bitterness is one answer.

they havent dealt with it full stop thats why any1 would waste their time bn spitefull etc

There's a very fine line between love and hate.

The best revenge is to be happy. So start getting revenge.

It depends on who left who. You screw over someone, then expect to get screwed back. There are consequences to each action taken.

I've experienced the same. This bitch is totally amazing!! They've been divorced almost 5 years in may and i met him about 6mths after his divorce. Things were really unstable for us at first, i know he was missing his wife and family, I figured that out from all the fights and then he would break down and cry and say that no one loved him, he was also addicted to drugs and making life really miserable for me and my children. I ended up leaving him after about 3 years into the relationship because of his drug problem. He begged me to stay and work it out, that he would change. I left anyway. To make a long story short, After dating several men and not really being happy, i gave him a chance after about a 7 month separation period. He came back, we worked on some very serious issues like drug addiction, verbal and physical abuse, and potential marriage. Joined a church and he was really doing well. No drugs, no fighting and lots and lots of love. I thought he was happy. The ex-wife began calling and using the kids as pawns. Once, his thirteen year old ran away and when the ex called all she could ask him was about me and his relationship and he wanted to find out about his child. We prayed all night for his daughter and she finally came home and she said she ran away because her mother told her that daddy doesn't love them anymore and he would never come home. When he was on drugs and homeless those years immediately following his divorce, no ex-wife shit, but as soon as she found out about me, she began to be a real witch. He left my home after an argument on Sat. night really upset. Foung out 4 days later he was with her and when i called she was really nasty to me and he began to yell because i don't think he really wanted me to know he was there, (i called her number out of intuition) she told him "don't yell at me, yell at that bitch!" I've never done anything to her but love the father of her kids and she tells him to tell me to never call her home again and that we are done and he is with his wife and children, I was literally hurting so badly that i said okay and fell to the freaking floor. I don't understand.