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Well, considering the state of our economy, I'd say putting the house up for sale ain't the best idea in the world. I can't speculate what should or shouldn't be done- I moved out of my husbands home and into another man's house. I wasn't dating the guy, but it sure didn't look good. I think she is moving a little fast. But you know she's not going to listen because she's in a haze of a new relationship. I just hope when she comes off the cloud she's still happy, and not stuck in a bad situation. What do you think of the guy?
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she could be moving a bit fast but sometimes you just know. I would stay with him a little longer and do the whole exchange keys and practically live with him for a while first before I sold my house.
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she's goin way too fast but you probably won't be able to stop her. Is her house paid for? If so then there's a lot of money involved and she should protect herself.He shouldn't have full access to her bank accounts, etc. NO MATTER WHAT. What do you know about him? Does he have a stable job? How long has he lived there? Does he own the home or is just renting? She should consider all the financial arrangements. I would be scared, depending on the circumstances. The guy may or may not be a "con artist". Sometimes you can get through to people when it comes to their money.
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If the guy comes from "old money" I'm sure he knows how to protect himself. If you think that's what she's after either he or his family will figure it out. Just because the family has money doesn't mean he's going to get it...especially if he "displeases' them. I would still caution her about having a "backup" plan.
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Wooo!That's crazy!It's doubtful that she'll listen to any advice you have for her.
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Well, if she wants to move in with him, tell her great, but keep the house until she's sure it's all gonna work out. Would suck to sell out and be homeless if it goes sour. Also, if she just bought the house, she probably got it at just the right time and she probably could make a lot more on it later if she can afford to hold onto it right now.
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selling a house for any reason right now is likely to be a mistake and as for the relationship side - who knows, though it looks risky
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I am all for moving fast, he who hesitates is lost... however this early things are likely to not work out so she needs to not sell it... plus property is one of the most sound investments, she needs to rent it out rather than sell it.
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Big mistake.
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Most of the time friends will always choose the "other" in a relationship over a friend. Dont rock the boat, if its a friend that doesnt take too well to this suggestion. You have voiced you're opinion and she looked the other way. My advice to her would be to have the guy sell his house and move in with her... see how serious he is. Its a HUGE mistake on her part, but theres nothing you can do about it.
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I think you're on the right track. Its a HUGE mistake. Everything's great if it works out...if not, she is S.O.L.
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Huge mistake indeed! Especially in this economy - hold on to whatever major assets you have - but anyway 2 months is no time to make a life-changing decision or committmnet like this - financially or personally.
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I moved in with my fiance after only two weeks of dating (it has now been 5+ yrs). That is a completely different situation though. I was staying with relatives at the time and wasnt getting rid of major assets like your friend. I think she could stand to wait awhile longer. maybe even rent the house out on a month to month basis so that if it doesnt work out, she still has her home.
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You can offer her your opinion but it's her decision. Although you may have been friends much longer, the quickest way to foul your relationship is to assume that you have some say in the matter. You don't and once you offer your opinion, IF it's asked and ONLY if it's asked, then leave it be. If the relationship tanks you'll always be able to give her the "I told you so" look... Just for your perspective sake, I knew my wife four days before getting married. We met on a Monday and were married that Thursday. We've been married for over 10 years now.
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