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Don't say anything, if you were unintentional then you shouldn't need to say anything.
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Yikes.
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I am so sorry. It sounds like a horrible situation! In my opinion, your best option is to walk away. I am not saying that walking away will not be sad and painful, but it seems to me that you do not need this guy, and you do not need to get in between him and the girl he now lives with. It would be easy to justify in your mind that you are doing it for her sake, but I would advise you not to. Chalk the affair up to experience and do your best to move on.
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Would you want to know? I mean, treat others the way you want to be treated, right?
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If it makes you feel better, then yes, do it!
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only because im in somewhat of the same situation (they arent together but they still talk) i would tell her, only to rub it in her face. HA! i only say that bc thats what i want to do, now it may not be the best way but hey at least you'll get it off your chest. if you do tell her, tell her as if you are concerned for her relationship and that you just found out and havent been thinking about it for this long. :D another thing, just leave him. if he doesnt want to end another relationship with someone else for you then he doesnt want you for more than a friend with benefits. get out while you still can!
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Ok heres what will happen....you tell the gf he's dating, that you are having an affair with him. She breaks up with him and now is free to be with you. However the ex doesnt want to be with you on an exclusive basis. He wants to be with other women and only keeping you around as a piece on the side. I would drop this guy and move on. He's not being straight with anyone in this whole scene.
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I think she has a right to know. At the same time I think that since you now know he was playing both of you, you need to get as far away from him as possible.
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He is an ex - as in no longer your problem. For all you know, she might have been in on it the whole time. Cut your losses and move on, it sounds like they deserve each other.
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Thank you for all your good advice. I probably will not make a concerted effort to contact this live in girlfriend. I feel from a Karmic level the truth will come out some way. I also need to tell everyone that I will never speak to this man again. I am so mad at his pathological lying that the anger will force me to never contact him again. I am sure he is scared out of his mind and doing everything in his power to make his relationship with this girl right. He won't be contacting me either. He will continue to cheat and lie with other ex girlfriends and than spin the story in his mind. The interesting thing is that I never wanted to get back with this guy. I must have known that he always was a bad guy.
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Yes. Tell.
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If it were me I would want to know. You do need to walk away from this guy, because it appears he has no intentions of being committed or faithful to anyone at this point. But, yes she does need to know. It's unfair to her if she is devoting time to this relationship thinking he is committed to only to her.... Also keep in mind.... You are probably not the only one he has been with. Most likely there are others...maybe one night stands maybe more.... So be careful!!!!
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