My friend just came out as a bisexual and she is christain. but she constantly brings up how God won't accept her and she wishes she could change who she is. how do i help her?
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This is the truth about the situation. I am not trying to be a hard-nose, but at the same time, I will not compromise the truth. The only being that can change any person "for the good" is GOD. If that person will turn from whatever they are doing, seek HIM and only HIM, He will hear from heaven and come down and save that individual. It is only by a relationship with Jesus the Christ that a person can be saved. Simply saying that one is a "Christian" is not enough. WE have to have a daily relationship with HIM. THink about it this way, if you never spoke or related to someone, how well would you really "know" them? In order to know HIM, we have to spend time with Him. Otherwise, we really need to question whether or not we are really saved.
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I don't mean to be obtuse or sarcastic - I'm baffled. Why would anyone worship a god who won't accept her? How can your friend be anything but miserable in those circumstances? Your friend is bisexual. How can she possibly change that? Even if she chooses not to practice bisexuality, it doesn't change that fact that she is bisexual. It would be like trying to change her height or her skin color - it's just who she is. I understand there are some Christian denominations which accept all human beings as worshipers, and if your friend wishes to continue being Christian despite the Christian God's rejection, perhaps you can help your friend locate one of those denominations. She also has the option of rethinking her belief system. When someone has to choose between being true to herself and being a member of religion, in my opinion they have to let go of the religion. How can you be something you aren't? It would just be phony. Whatever you friend chooses to do, you can be supportive and a good listener while she thinks things through and makes her decisions.
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God will always love her. He loves everyone that he has created. However, what is difficult is your friend wants to do life her own way, and wants God to bless her as she goes her own way. God has created us to live in the world HE created. He has given us boundaries because he knows what is best for us. There are so many difficult issues a bi-sexual person has to deal with that they would not have to deal with if they followed God's plan for their life, in a married heterosexual relationship. God love your friend to not leave her where she is. She is obviously hurting, he wants to help her. This hurting is a way of getting her attention to help her focus on HIM, and see his amazing love for her! -Sarah, youth pastor, Atlanta, GA
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