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In many cases, it is just the same as moving in together. Since you don't need an extra bedroom, both go home to the home of the one with the largest bedroom. Buying a house rather than a flat comes later. If the couple are marrying from their parents homes, it is not uncommon to move in with one set of parents or the other. This used to be much more common - it is the moder habit of moving into flats that has broken this. The acquisition of the house was the prompt to start a family rather than to get married.
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Disclaimer: This answer is absolutely not considered acceptable by most religious people. That said, I don't think it's smart to wait to move in with someone until after you're married. Doesn't it make more sense to move in together and find out all of the intimate details you can only learn about the other person while living with them before you make the marriage commitment? What if you discover you are incompatible but are already married so now you not only have to move but also go through a divorce? Same thing goes for sex before marriage. Would you buy a new car without first taking it for a test drive?
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I have a friend who was in this situation and they bought the house before the wedding. He moved into it first while she lived with her parents until the wedding. After the honeymoon, she moved into the house.
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I think the wisest thing is to get married first and wait a couple of years before buying a house.
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I wouldn't be buying a home just because you are married. THings might change like family size :-) job situation, or a multitude of things. It is best to live in a rental together, maybe if one of you already lives somewhere, it could be okay at first. Or look for a new place together that will fulfill your current early marriage needs. After you get to know more about each other and really know where you are going, in life and goal/job wise, then maybe look for a house slowly. It may take a great deal of time to find just the right house you can afford and that you both like. And it is better to do this when you both know more about each others daily routines, likes and dislikes. Maybe you want a great bathroom, or two bathrooms but that 3wasn't something you realized till you tried getting dressed at the same time. Maybe you need a huge yard because you both love lots of pets. Maybe a large kitchen will be a need. Maybe you will be expecting a child sooner than you thought. Who knows?
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we got an apartment a month or two before the wedding. I didn't move in until our wedding night. We will be celebrating our 11th year wedding anniversary in August and our love life is going strong and is only getting better.
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