I'm 21 and my father overdosed and died when i was 10, and im still feeling the anger, hurt, sadness ect. Mostly im mad at him for leaving me and hate myself for that, and i still cry myself to sleep..... is this normal what should i do :(
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Yes. I was 9 when my father died. I am 37 now. And I'm a guy and I have to admit I still shed tears. My wife gave birth to our first child last week and I am happy but sad because he is not here. What you can do is talk to a therapist or couselor to help you deal with this anger. It is there and it is real and it is normal. You are not crazy to get help. There are things you need to let out including some unsaid things to your dad. You need to get this out or it will eat you up and cause you problems. My thoughts are with you.
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Yes, I think it is normal to run the gamut of emtions over something like this. Both my parents were killed on my 8th birthday and I am married with grown children, it still hurts and I still get angry.I lived in many homes and not all were great if you know what I mean. I try to always let my husband and children know how much I love them.
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since it's been 11 yrs and you are still having such intense feelings perhaps you should talk to a grief counselor. hospice organizations offer free grief therapy even years after a loss. you will always feel some grief in connection with your loss, absolutely, but if you feel it is more than you are willing to live with, seek help. peace.
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After ten years you are still wallowing in grief - no, that is not normal. It's understandable to feel loss at the absence of a parent and perfectly normal to grieve, but ultimately life goes on. You could profit from some counseling to come to terms with your loss and move on with your life.
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Yes this is normal. You should talk to a suicide bereavement counselor. My fiance committed suicide and left behind two little boys that he loved more than life itself. A person who can commit suicide is not a well person. When Jeff committed suicide, I asked a friend of mine (who attempted suicide) how could he do this and still love me and his boys. My friend told me that he loved his exwife and kids soooo much, but that he thought he was doing them a favour, that they would be better off without him. But either way, an overdose is suicide and you need proper counselling being left behind by suicide is far different than any other kind of death. xo take care of yourself.
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