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Well, before I can help you with that answer, maybe you can tell me why it is going to be so awkward for you?
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Well, that mostly depends on you, and what you mean by akward. If you mean that you are an introverted person, and there will be many people at said party, there is only so much you can do. I'd recommend finding a group you feel comfortable with and sticking with them for as much of the night as possible. It's either that or wallflowering. If you mean that there will be a number of persons there who are not friendly to you, again, not a great deal to do. Either confront them and then forget about it, or avoid them and forget about it. If I'm way off target, please specify. The biggest thing to remember is that you are responsible for what you feel. If something starts to bother you that could lead to problems, count to twenty in your head, calm down, and think logically. Empower youself to not be ditressed.
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Why it will be awkward: -I am the only person going alone -They are all people from my past who know about my dad -I have lost around 2 stone of weight since they last saw me -I have a lot of scars they will ask questions about -They will all try and force me to be Christian AGAIN -Many of them are going to be middle-aged men who seem to lose all sense of the fact I am 15 when they get drunk -All my old 'friends' will be there
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Have a backup plan. Meaning: if things are not going well have an excuse planned ahead of time on why you need to leave early. Or have a friend call you after an hour and see how things are going. If they are going horribly then in some coded language tell your friend "oh my gosh! I can't believe that happened to you! Oh you poor thing! Of course I will come sit with you!" and then make up some excuse like your friend's dog was just hit by a car or something. (Yes, I know that is lying and that lying is wrong, but sometimes it is better than the alternative.) If leaving early is out of the question and everyone is ragging on you just tell them "well all of my answerbag friends think I am just wonderful the way I am and they all love me for my brilliant mind and they don't care about what happened in the past".
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Try wearing an Answerbag T-shirt to the party! A sure hit!
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My only really applicable suggestions, then, are to try and cover your scars and stick with some folks who are less unpleasant than the rest. If any middle-aged men look like they want to fondle you, find someplace where you will be safe. I'm sorry that's all I can help with: I hope things go well for you.
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Personally, there's is no way I would go to a party like that unless, for some reason, I had to go. Assuming that you do have to, just remember one valuable thing that will carry you through a lot of hard events in life; it is but a moment in a lifetime, and this too will pass. Good luck, bored. I'm just glad it's you, and not me.
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I'd suggest bringing some of us with you... but I don't think any of us live nearby enough for that. You'll have to go, because your mom is dragging you there...so you can't just beg off and stay home... I hope at least there is good food to eat? I know myself - I would just hang out and eat and drink until it was time to leave.
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you care too much about how you look. when it comes down to it people dont really care. its who you are
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go with the flow and dress how it would make you comfortable
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Ok honestly, if it were me i would refuse to go, nobody has that much control over me, but, if you really feel you have to go then: wear a jacket/shawl/chemise etc that covers your arms ( i presume thats where the scars are). I'm not really sure what you mean by 'know about your dad' but, if it's something bad hopefully they will have enough dignity to not mention it. If they comment on your weight say 'thankyou' tell them you will either a) think about Christianity or b) you have actually converted back to Christianity - Lying is sometimes justified. If the old men try any thing on then yell 'get your hands off me you dirty old pervert' - ok so it's not exactly perfect but i'm pretty sure if you do it once the rest won't bother to make such a spectical of you and themselves. As far as your 'old' friends go, if they are not nice then just steer clear, if you are close to your mum then just stick with her. As another though, would you be able to take a friend? One that you are close to and that is sympathetic of you'r situation and stuff. Just an idea?
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Get very drunk you'll fit right in
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dress like an avocado and carry a bullhorn. Shout "Vive el Matador" every ten seconds.
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Tell them all that you lost the 2 stones from being stressed out by too many people coming to your door trying to sell you on Christianity and that your doctor said you have developed an allergy to alcohol and cannot be around it or smell it on people's breath without getting sick on them. If that doesn't work, carry a mobile and keep it at your ear all night like you are in a conversation with someone and walk around into other rooms and outside. If you get interrupted tell them, "excuse me but this is a very important call. I'll come find you later."
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Talk to EVERYone. Talk, listen, and smile. If you think of it as a game, to make sure that you say at least 20 words to every attendee, you aren't focused on anything other than "the game."
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