I had a miscarriage with my only pregnancy about 10 months ago and I'm still hurt and depressed about it because I wanted a baby so bad do you think that's too long to be upset about it?
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amanda_0517
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No the samething happened to my sister she is trying to get pregnant again. I think until you go through the experience of actually having a baby it will still be something you think about daily. Not to mention the depression you may want to talk to your doctor about that because it may be postpartum depression which can get serious!! At least for me it was!!!
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Absolutly not. My mum had 2 misscarriages, one 25 years ago, one 17 years ago, and it still reduces her to tears, even now. She said the best way to get through it is knowing that you have a second chance. It still hurts though, and I'm so sorry for your loss (I know thats annoying, saying that, but I am)
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Not at all. The memory of what happened will be with you forever, it's not going to go away. You have every right to be sad and hurt about what happened. However, if the depression is such that it affects your day-to-day life and activities, then you may need to see a doctor about it. Where it is perfectly normal to be sad and hurt, it should not restrict you from continuing your life.
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There is no time limit on grieving. I had a miscarriage with twins, and took me well over a year to stop thinking about them, and I remember feeling so empty. Then I got pregnant and gave birth to a healthy baby boy. This will pass honest!
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No,it isnt. You will probably grieve in some sense foreer. I lost a baby at 18 wks 20 months ago, and since then I gave birth to my daughter Grace. I still grieve for my lost baby and I still miss it. Another baby will not replace your loss,so dont tell yourself it will, that will only cause you more pain. I hope you do have the child you are wanting so badly and I hope you will enjoy that child to the fullest, and after your loss I am sure it will make you appreciate it even more.Grieve in your own way and as long as you need. Maybe find a support group and just hope for the best and stay positive if at all possible. Lean on God and pray. I wish you the best, God Bless.
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i have had an etopic pregnancy and a miscarriage before i had two beautiful girls. everyone takes there own time in grieving. it gets easier. but i will still think of them because i never got to meet them.
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Healing takes time. A miscarriage is a death. people grieve at their own rate. and perhaps a part of you will always grieve for the child that could have been. if you are severly depressed about it and you feel that it is effecting your daily life perhaps you should seek grief counceling.
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Absolutely not, The loss of a baby like that is something that you will always grieve over to some extent. Don't give up.
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There is never a time limit on things like that,every one is different,get your head right and try again,because it's no need to get sick over that situation.
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Hi, Amanda. I agree with everyone who has told you to take your time about grieving. I don't think ten months is too long. You will probably grieve every time you think about this, even fifty years from now. (You'll just think of it lots less often fifty years from now.) All I can add in my answers, looking at your own comments, is: ---I think seeing a doctor or counselor is a great idea. It helps you grieve, and it helps you make clearer, better choices. ---You say your fiance doesn't want children "for five years." It would be wrong to force him to change his plans. If you want children before then, find a different fiance. It is NOT always true that men "will love the baby once it's here" and it is VERY true that your relationship will be harmed if you trick him. There are many, many men who would love to have kids right now; settle down with one of those. An unwilling father is an unhappy father, and that means an unhappy marriage and unhappy kids. You need to look around for someone who will love kids (on your schedule) as much as he loves you. :)
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Hi there i to had a misscarriage 10 months ago and i am desperate to get pregnant again ...I cant help feeling like it will never ever happen ..Im 37 this year am i to old :-( :-( ..i still get very upset about it and when i talk about it i do end up in tears ....Im so so sad I think the worse thing is people that havent experienced a misscarriage brush you off because alot of people are fairly ignorant about misscarriage ..example ..i have had various things said to me ranging from " oh well it wasnt meant to be " to ..." its natures way of getting rid of something that obviously wasnt right " which absolutely infuriates me as i already have a 11 yr old Autistic son which makes me think " oh maybe u think i should of misscarried him to " ...you get a whirlwind of thoughts and emotions ...i understand completly your grief i wish i could give you a big hug xxxxxxxxx dont give up ...im not XXXXXXXXXX
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No, it's definately not too long, I had the same experience. It took me a long time to get over it. I still think about them today and it was over 30 years ago. Since then though I've had 4 children and 8 grands.
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