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  • Yes, but they would be wrong to change their behavior for that reason. Many heterosexuals confuse sexual identification with gender identification. They are not the same thing. There are male-to-female transgendered individuals that are straight (preferring men) as well as homosexual (preferring other females) just as there are men who are not transgendered that are both straight and gay. The fact is, when we force people into black and white categories we do a disservice to the human race. People exist on a distribution from more feminine to more masculine. Just because somebody has a Y chromosome doesn't mean they should think and behave a certain way. If you believe that you might as well live in George Orwell's 1984 where the government dictates not only behavior but how people should think.
  • As a gay man, I can tell you that we're not all like that. And yes, sometimes people like that do bother us. And unfortunately, I do believe it's what makes it so difficult for society to accept us. HOWEVER, I don't think that it should have an affect on how we're treated. You don't take away black people's right to marriage just because some are "ghetto", "thugs", whatever. Jeez, even illegal immigrants have a chance to get married here!
  • if they didnt flame, how would you know that they are gay... personaly i dont mind gay people, as long as they keep it to themselfs, just like bible thumpers, polititions making me sign something everytime i go to the store. yes, yes its a freedomg of speech, but to me its more hurtful than helpful to you people.
  • short answer. Yes. I sometimes hang out with a group of gays, and even they make fun of flamers.
  • Yeah, I have a large group of heterosexual male friends, there are 7 of us. I'm out, and every single one of them is completely comfortable with me being gay. They're even more open now that I've told them. They don't even mind if I bring my boyfriend around to our gatherings etc... they're really cool. As soon as I see a 'flaming' gay person, it makes me uncomfortable because I'm afraid it'll change their perception of me. I can tell they're also really uncomfortable coz I know they're annoyed by the flamer, but I feel that they don't want to say anything because it might offend me. I'm not out to my family yet, and the other day while I was watching TV, a stereotypical flamer came on. My dad said, "Look at the way he acts. Someone should explain to him he's a man. Disgusting.". I felt like burying my face in my hands and saying "WE'RE NOT ALL LIKE THAT". That flamer pretty much ruined my chance of coming out safely. Flamers ruin it for all the other gay men in my opinion. And then they complain about the way they're treated. I just find it all really annoying and frustrating.
  • I've often heard other gays making fun of them. The "Flamers" I've met seem to force it, its not natural for them but I'm under the impression it makes them feel more "gay", liek no one else would know if they didnt tell you (as if going to a gay bar and making out and having sex with other guys wouldnt hint which way you lean). Honestly, I dont feel like they should change if thats who they truly are, while it may fit into the sterotype they should be free to act the wya they want. By the way, there are a select few who feel more transgendered than gay, if thats the case, I feel it changes the whole situation (although girls dont really atc liek that either).
  • When you are a minority sexually or race you never be accpected by what is considered normal, my advice to people is live your own life do not live it for others because society is not doing nothing for you it is you that is doing for you. A effeminate man is gonna be girly that is just the way that it is, Masculine male is gonna be manly. My advice is just turn the other cheek pay people no mind.

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