How can I get over it without breaking down completely? I really loved him and he has decided to try to reconcile with his exwife. He says he loves me, but owe her because they had been together 20 yrs
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Breaking down after breaking up with someone you really love it part of the natural process. Why avoid it? Yes, it hurts, but that hurt is as much a part of love as the pleasurable side of it. You cannot have the one without the other. Still, if you want to mitigate some of the behavioral swings, exercise is an extremely effective way to modulate your behavior. Getting into a work-out routine not only increases your self-confidence and self-image, but releases endorphins in your brain which help regulate your moods and in general calm you. Good luck.
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Ouch! This must be terrible, it sounds like you need to get those tears out, get all good looking and have some fun. Call your girlfriends and maybe go to your local bar. You should forgive and forget this man and move on with your life! Right now you are getting a great chance to acually starts a new, it can be very scary at first but believe me its for the best. For me to get over someone that was special to me is to remember all the things i hated about him, remember the times where i was hurt by him and all those little details make it easier to move one without having to lie to yourself, just remember the sick, sad trueth and you will feel better about yourself.Good luck!
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the only thing that will help you get over this is time. let enough time go by to let yourt heart fully heal.
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LISTEN, IJUST GOT OUT OF A REALTIONSHIP WITH A WOMAN WHO HAD NO DOUBT SHE WAS DIVORCING HER HUSBAND, WE ARE IN LOVE WITH EACH OTHER BUT HE PRESSURED HER INTO TRYING TO WORK IT OUT, IVE BEEN EMPTY AND LOST FOR 2 MONTHS NOW , NOTHING U CAN DO BUT CHALK IT UP TO EXPEREINCE AND IF THEY LOVE US THEY WILL BE BACK IF NOT OH WELL MOVE ON
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Look at it this way: You believe you're in love with a guy who is choosing to do what he thinks is right. If he were to stay with you, he'd be going against what he believes is right. I recommend you choose your next man more carefully, i.e., one who is not married or otherwise commited to another person.
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We never had any hard times. His divorce was final in a couple of months. She hadn't even talked to him until she found he was dating me. Then she pulled out all the stops. He swore they were over. In fact it was the marriage counselor that suggested he start dating again about a month before he met me. I had recently lost my soulmate to suicide and was a mess. Tim picked up the pieces and craddled my soul. He nursed me back to life, it took a few months before I fell in love with him. He was a god send. And now he's gone. And I'm feeling the pain from Jeff's suicide again and the loss of my brave strong man that saved me.
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Maybe he will have both of you? Perhaps his wife wouldn't mind another woman in the mix?
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the guy is a waffle. he was only into you while he thought it all out. you need to commit not to take him otherwise he will just go back to HER when she calls and invites. he owes her nothing. it must be great sex and good cooking. face it you were the other woman. its time to go clubbing and meet a new guy!
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I see it this way. If he choose his ex wife over me, I would definitely move on and keep moving forward (as in the Robertson movie). If my husband talks about his ex wife, I usually asked him if he wants to get back with her. I mean, they have been together for more than 18 years and he said no. I think a man will keep you if he knows that he will loose you. That doesn't make sense. But I make it a point that I can be with anyone I want if I really want to. Just move on and know that there is someone out there that is the very best and you will meet him in the right moment. God has a better plan for you.
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Here is what you do - you write him a letter - you express everything on paper - the hurt, the love - all the feelings you're experiencing - scream at him - cry - it may take days to be completely done with it. When you are finished - throw it away. You'll be surprised how much better you feel.
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God bless you.It sounds like you've been & are going through so much.I'm going through a divorce & I know how hard it is.Try to stay as busy as possible,pray,exercise,keep a routine,come on AB alot,.Try to look at the relationship as a blessing that he came along when you needed him most & reminded you that love & happiness were still possible.Just keep remembering that.Love & happiness are still possible.You will meet someone else wonderful.Pray that God will send you someone when you're ready.Who knows your boyfriend may come to his senses & you may reconcile down the road.God bless.
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I know it's really hard for you but believe me you will end up happiest.You should try to move on enjoy yourself as much as you can keep yourself as busy so you don't have chance to think too much about him.Tell you the truth he's done you a major favour so now you know what a no hoper you were with plus whats to say if he didn't go back that he wouldn't find someone els whislt he's with you! You're well rid!
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