DO NOT bring your baby to her, she's says bad things about her own son? why would you want your baby around that? you don't. Just because she's blood related doesn't mean anything, don't feel obligated to visit people if they're assholes.

Sometimes people get mean when they're old, and you have to decide whether you are going to look the other way and forgive them, or whether you think it's worth it to challenge them (and potentially end your relationship over it). How you decide can depend on all sorts of factors, so that decision is up to you. What I recommend, though, is not letting your father bring the baby to your nana if you're not present. If you want your baby to see your nana, you bring the baby yourself. If you can't handle seeing your nana because she's so mean, don't subject your baby to her. If you think your baby ought to see your nana, then you ought to see her, too. You ought to supervise this situation so that you can do damage control (like, so that your baby will get your explanation of why nana is mean and the reasons for different people's responses to her). If you let the baby go without you, how will you know what kind of impact it has on it? The baby isn't just a family member: it's YOUR baby, do you know what I mean? Your question got cut off, but I suspect you were about to say, your dad says your nana has the right to see your baby. Well, I disagree. It's YOU who has the right in this case: and that is, to keep your baby from meeting whomever you wish. There's no innate right to meet your descendants with no regard for how you treat them. That's not a right, but a privilege. And it sounds to me that she's abused that privilege.

It sound like your nana is realy upset with your dad about something. Normally time heals. But not in your case. I say you without your dad go see nana with the baby. If she let you in. Try not to have any conversation about you dad. Talk about the baby and whats been going on in your life. But if she insist on talking about your dad. Just say nana I'm not dad and I want you in my childs life. If she treats your child bad than thats a relationship you don't need. Some people you can't change their thought or ways. Especially if she's from a older generation. If the visit turns sour, you can kill a person with kindness. Just get up and leave and say I still love you nana and any time you want to talk call me. And your welcome to come see me and my family anytime. She might act like she don't care but believe me, she will be feeling bad, if she's human. Good Luck.

Your nana obviously has issues that maybe you are unaware of, if I were you I would go visit her with the baby as like you said she is getting old, and one day soon you wont have the choice. Go, and if she is still mean about everyone at least you knew you made the effort and when she is no longer around at least it wont play on your mind. Good luck.

I figured it had something to do with your dad marrying your mom. She probably felt your mom got pregnant so your dad would marry her. But your nana don't realize your dad loved your mom and would have married her anyway. Your nana most likely controlled a lot of your dads life decisions. She mad because no matter how she felt about your mother, he did what he wanted to do. Nana fills your mom took him away from her. I seen this many of times. You won't be able to change how she feels. The important thing is for you not to be like her with your child. Your nana cant get to your dads emotions so she takes it out on you. As I said before go see her and kill her with kindness. But if she mistreats your child all bets are off. LEAVE AND GIVE HER A PIECE OF YOUR MIND IN A RESPECTABLE WAY.