He'll have the best answer. Ask him. Maybe he doesn't feel like he'll be able to handle the distance and job while trying to keep in touch with you.

Prolly the fact that you two will bee apart for three months and it will be hard on him after being so close right before he leaves..

I would do the same thing if I were him. IN boot camp you won't have time to be writing letters and thinking about your loved ones you do what your supposed to do and that keeps you busy 24-7. But ther is a very good chance that he will be thining about you as often as he can. just remember If your ment to be togeather u will be and this will be a very good test to see if you are. You 2 are lucky youve found one another and hopefully yourll end up togeather. just keep waiting and believeing everything will turnout allright in the end.

Recruits are advised to pull back on relationships, so that if their girlfriend back home does start dating again, and doesn't wait, she won't be "cheating", and he won't have to worry about will she or won't she, and if she remains true to him in spite of it all, you KNOW it is real.

Joining the military is a HUGE change in responsibilities, expectations, and lifestyle. Separation not only happens, it's a way of life in itself due to the nature of the beast. . Some people can handle such changes and separation. Some can't. Personally, I think any relationship succeeds or fails on it's own merits. One guy I knew in the Navy once said that the Navy acts as an 'accelerator' on relationships. The Navy doesn't CAUSE a failure, it merely accelerates the pre-existing conditions and faults in any given marriage or relationship to it's final result. In otherwords, if a marriage was weak and likely to fail, it would have anyway. The Navy just made it happen faster. For the most part I've found this to be true, in my observations. Your boyfriend seems relatively wise and compassionate in this respect. He knows separation can be painful, and in fact may serve to break up a relationship. If he cares for you, which it would seem evident that he does, he certainly wouldn't want you to suffer any undue pain over a broken relationship. Himself either. He is going away for an extended period, perhaps for the first time in his life. Away from family and friends, from the lifestyle he grew up in and understands. You are also going to be affected by this separation. It is the first extended separation the two of you have had, I would guess. And if he chooses to stay in, and the two of you decide to stay together, this separation will only be the least of what you'll go through in the future. It is probably not that he doesn't want to be together, it's more likely that he realizes that the two of you CANNOT be physically together during this time. And this is scary. Apart. No physical presence to re-enforce the relationship. Him 'alone' at boot camp, you 'alone' back in the civilian world. So, if you really think you love him and you think the two of you would be wonderful together, then simply stand by him and be there for him while he's away. Let him know you're there. No more, no less. Keep the lines of communication open. Show up for his graduation. Give him a hug and a kiss afterwards. And ask him then what he thinks about the two of you. Good luck!

Join the Navy! Waiting on nothing! Keep life rolling! You will see the world. Then, you will understand why.

I too am in this very situation. Know that you're boyfriend obviously cares and that in the end he just doesn't want to hurt you or himself. Although it is hard just hang in there and enjoy you're time with him until he leaves. You'll miss him but life moves on and you'll always remember the times you spent together while he was still here.