I cried. Gave him some money (again) and said he had to leave. He had an alcohol problem. I hope he's ok. Think about it alot. In the end you have to take care of yourself, before you can effectively take care for others.

I had a very good high school friend, and we had a great relationship until she started sleeping around with all different men and would come to me for advice and not take any of it just continued to sleep with more and more men. It became a problem because my family at this time was jus=dging me and thinking I was just like her because I was hanging out with her, so I talked to her about it and we ended our friendship because she said that men gave her the attention she needed and I told her that she didnt need negative attention to feel loved but the ove and compassion of her family and friends. Anyway, we were very young say maybe 16-17 years old. She even went to my mother to help her and she continualli did not want to help herself so she and I ended our friendship. I decided you can only tell someone something so many times they ahve to want to help themselves.

I had a good friend for 13 years, who all of a suddent started talking about me and complaining about me to other people. She also started repeatedly saying to me and others (about me) "we're not that good of friends". I am not sure the purpose to saying that kind of thing to anyone ever. If you're not, then why say it - who cares? I believe that because her soon to be sister-in-law was jealous of the fact that years prior I had 2 dates with my friend's brother / this woman's fiance, as a result my "friend" who was also engaged decided that it would be best to convince herself and everyone else that there was no reason that she should have me as a bridesmaid in her wedding. Like I really was upset about it anyway. Several people just assumed that I would be, and that probably made her feel like she had to go around claiming that we weren't really that good of friends. I ignored this friend but after a few months of her continuing to be like this, I couldn't take it anymore. In the middle of all this, her mother passed away and I racked up extremely high phone bills consoling her. I would not have dreamed of holding her other immaturity against her during her time of grief. She never thanked me for being there for her, and never got past the talking about me, complaining about me, and saying "we're not that good of friends." I have had to grieve alone with no support for someone I lost, so I considered this very hurtful that y support did not mean anything at all. I also just couldn't continue to be friends with someone who didn't value me as a human being and value our friendship. I basically let her know all this, and then she sort of apologized but then I found out that she went back to the gossip and stories, so I severed all ties.

I had a good friend -- even the best man at my wedding. Problem was he drank...ALOT. He was an alcoholic. I liked his wit, his intelligence and generally he was a kind and fun man to be around, except for ocassional angry outbursts when he was really drunk. He was always wanting me to come over to his place. When I did, invariably I drank with him, and drank much more than if I was anywhere else. I knew that he was not going to quit and I also got feedback from my wife and others that he was not good for me because I was drinking too much when I was not with him also. Alcoholism was in my family abit, so I deided I simply could not be around him much and if I did I could not drink. Well, it was impossible to say no to him or he would get angry and take offense and that ruined the whole visit. I finally went to him and told him I loved him like a brother, but when I was around him, I did things that were really bad for me and dragging me down, especially the drinking. He got rageful and told me to either accept him and drink with him or leave and never come back. I left... I called him in 2-3 days to say hello and "test the waters," but he would not answer or return my calls. This went on for months. I held to my decision. One day I got a call from his mother saying he was dying in the hospital. I went to see him. He was dying of cancer of the liver and esophagus (he had drunk and smoked heavily for about 20 years). He was conscious but very sedated. I sat down and took his hand, and said hello. He looked at me and said "Please leave." I said I was sorry if he felt my decision to not drink with him meant I didn't care for him. He said "I know." Then his mother (in her 70's or so at that time I think) came in. She was an enabler, and she even would go to the liquor store and buy him liquor! She felt this would keep him close to her I suppose. She asked me to leave. She wanted to be with her son when he died, and she said she thought I was partially responsible for it! So I left. My friend died about three days later. The funeral was private and the mother refused my request to attend. I went to visit his grave alone a few days later and took some flowers. I felt guilty, I felt angry, I cried. I talked with a therapist 2-3 times. I still felt badly at the loss, but not guilty. What a waste of a life. He was an intelligent, creative, fun guy who had so much to offer the world when he was sober. I suppose I handled things as well as I could. Sometimes life and death seem to be so unfair. But I know if I had continued to drink with him, I would be dead or dying myself by now.

Yes, I had a very good friend in the Navy and when he was released from active duty, he stayed and went to work in close to the Navy base instead of going home. He asked if he could rent a bedroom from us while he worked and saved money to get his own house or apartment. I said yes, and he would not have to pay rent if he just would help with the groceries and do his own laundry. Well, that worked for about a month, then he started leaving his dirty clothes in our hamper for my wife to do. As if she didnt already have enough laundry to do, and when she would go buy groceries he would tell her what he wanted but never had the cash to repay. So I tried to work with him on it, but when he made a pass at my wife while I was at work one day that was the last straw. When my wife told me what happened, I went up to his room, told him he had five minutes to get himself and his s**t out of my house. I guess he could read the anger in my eyes and it took him about four minutes to do just that. Never saw him again.

i did have a very close relationship with one of my bestfriends. teh thing is i moved very far away where we could not meet at all. my life was horrible, i missed her soo much, i used to cry all the time. we promised to write everyday and we did for the first month. but after a while school started and we startedd having new friends. and now we don't talk at all. we forget bout ech other's birthdays and she doesn't cross my mind much at all. except for when i see one of her bracelets she gave me then i remember all the good times we had... Just be grateful for the good times you used to have and look forward to the good times to come. =]

I had someone I was friends with since I was 3. Sadly, "good" friends are often chose because of their interesting qualities rather than their loyalty and selflessness qualities. My friend used to be very heavy and seemed nice- but lied a lot as a child. As we got older, a family she was staying with helped her lose weight- this of course made her low self esteem shoot to too much self confidence. She was always saying she was better at this, then someone else, she looked better than so and so, etc. She ended up with this guy I hooked her up with, never thanked me and became obsessed with him, ignored me, constantly hung out with him, told me to go away so she could be with him, sometimes was nicer to more popular girls in school because since she looked better she wanted to be in the "in" crowd.... her selfish, conceited attitudes eventually got on my nerves, not to mention she was staying with my family and didn't respect my mom over time, and we had to kick her out. Her life went down hill from there and she gained weight again. I just kinda stopped talking to her. I confronted her about ignoring me, about taking advantage of me. I give her advice now and listen to her problems, but it gets old when they never take your advice. I never ended the friendship. I guess I'm too nice or something. I just distanced our friendship extremely. She's basically an old family friend now.

i had to let go of my best friend about six months ago (it was a five year friendship). it became obvious to me that she was very selfish and didn't take my feelings into consideration. she constantly criticized me. she always made me feel like i wasn't good enough to be her friend. she made excuses to justify the fact she always bailed on me when i needed her the most. she would blame me and make me feel guilty for expecting her to be supportive. it was a gradual relialization because i cared for her a lot and didn't want to see how toxic she was. there were things i couldn't do and people i couldn't talk to because she would get angry. she was very insecure and therefore very possesive of me. it got to a point were i would lie just not to have to deal with her. things blew up and the friendship ended in very bad terms. i took it very hard at first. i cried a lot because i felt like i had failed. although logically i knew i shouldn't miss her i did and i became angry at myself for being so stupid. i think time helps us gain perspective and slowly accept the fact that people don't change and that sometimes it's necessary to let someone go even if that person is your best friend. i know in my heart that if there would have been anything i could have done to save the friendship i would have but there wasn't. although i care for her i cared for myself more.

Yes, recently I ended a longtime relationship with a close friend after 2 years of growing apart. Actually, my best friend ended the exact relationship to. Long story short, there was 4 of us and 2 of us don't talk to her anymore and the other one still talks to her but they're not as close. Anywho, I ended my friendship with her because we basically grew apart and our conversations became less personal and more basic. She moved on to a different group of friends(emos)and slowly started pushing me away. My best friend and her ended their relationship when they got in their first big fight over something stupid and have not reconciled since and don't plan on it. I handled it by reassuring myself that I did the right thing and that I wasn't going to waste my energy holding onto something that she doesn't want. It was only stressing me out wondering how I could make her happy and why she didn't consider me her best friend anymore. And I've been more happy since. I still have my other 2 best friends, and I know these ones will stick.

I broke up with my best friend yesterday. I feel our friends reflect who we are and who we want to be, and over time she became more selfish and dramatic. I felt drained to speak to her, be around her or even think of her. She felt she was always being underappreciated, ignored or under the radar somehow. I was tired to hearing her victim stories even though she often said 'it won't change until you change it'. It was very frustrating. I admit I took the cowards way out, I texted her. Rude I know but I had spoken to her face to face and she just exploded. I decided I would choose a medium where I was in control for once and could organise my thoughts properly. I basically said she was a beautiful person but that we had grown apart. I told her I wished her love in her lifetime and that I felt not anger towards her, and finally good luck in her endeavours. Her reply was a final kick at me, blaming me for the situation. Then and there I knew I had made the right decision for me - I'm in a different place from her, which is perfectly fine. I thought about just ignoring the friendship but decided to nip it in the butt to save myself feeling guilty and tired. In the end I think she was more upset that she did not end the friendship as she is quite competitive that way. Its a shame, but that is her journey and I respect that. If we view our frienships from a higher perspective and accept that friends will enter and leave our lives the less attached we are to having the last word, or being the one that ended it. It will simply be natural and we will treasure the lessons learned. If you're thinking of ending a friendship, listen to your heart and follow it. Whether other people deem it right or wrong, you will know you made the right decision. It is YOUR life, live it FOR YOU.

A had a friend who was a bit of a shady character that I greatly admired. One day I woke up and realized how manipulating he was. I simply stopped answering his phone calls and opening my front door. He became "dead" to me.

Yes, it was a friend I had had for years. She got locked up for over a month and when she got out she accused me of stealing some money and a few of her posessions. She also "spread" the word of me being a thief to most of our mutual friends. Later she found out it wasn't me and tried to start being friends again and acting like it wasn't important. I told her I didnt think a friendship would work for her. If she drops something one day I dont want the fingers pointing at me again...

Yes. It happened 2 years ago, and i am very, very sorry because we were a great team and used to hang out a lot and were truly close friends.

i didnt have to , but i did. with a whole group of girls. sure it was fun to walk away and know they were "bitching" about me. but they weren't the kind of people i enjoyed spending time with. they never asked to hang out, always disagreed with me, and bye bye to them !

I have fallen out of touch with people after having some disagreements with them but I never bluntly said, "we are no longer friends" to anybody.

Yes i have i didnt take to kindly for my so-called best friend to stab me in the back one more than one occasion,so told her to sling her hook and i havnt seen her since.

yup...because, i noticed she wanted to break up with me..so to salvage some pride...i ended it...took me six months to get over it

Yes, twice. There was a guy at college who I got along really well with. Later on, we both took different courses, but remained friends. However, he started hanging with these people who were not in either of our classes, and they always made a big fuss over him and barely acknowledged me. So I thought "fuck it, he obviously appreciates them more than me" and refused his invitations to go out any where. Then there was another guy at university who I got along really well with. He was actually a teaching assistant, and he was one of the first people to appreciate the kind of work I do. I really thought he'd become one of my most important friends, but he started hanging with these students on a different course from me, and the kind of work they did was totally different from mine. I didn't have a problem with that, but if I tried to join in with their conversations, he would give me a sour look as if I didn't belong there. It was like I didn't exist when they were around, but if he was on his own, he'd be all polite and friendly with me. I got sick of his mood swings and multiple personalities, and decided to stay well away from him.

more than one. Now it was never what i wanted. it was just for the best. i got tired of being lied to.

No. I don't have many friends, in fact I only have 2 friends.

Yes, a couple of times.

Yes I have. I had a friend who got close to me because he wanted to be friends with my best friend. That was fine but he wanted to be as close to my best friend as I was and wanted me to tell him how hwe could be as good a friend with my friend as I was...sounds reallly weird. It was. He wanted to be my best friend's best friend and wanted me to show him how. I started to realize how unbalanced and jealous he was. What could I do? I can't force my friends to like him. I finally broke off contact with him. He was jealous of me on every level and I did nothing to encourage it either.

unfortunately, this happened with at least 3-4 "friends." I don't like lying, and there were a few friends I had that lied to me....a lot! maybe I was too trusting. one of them even used me as an alibi (without telling me) to go fooling around with some guy. and then her mother called looking for me. even when I asked her about it, she still lied. I don't know what's worse...being lied to...or, when they know you're aware that they are lying, and you call them on it...and they still lie. real friends don't do such things.

Yes...it was almost as painful as breaking up with someone. I will never forget it. Friends can be as important as boyfriends.

I ended a friendship with someone once. She was very needy. I always had to drive out of town to see her, she never came to me; everything was about her; she was basically a person who just "took, took, took" and never gave anything back in return. Friendship should be a give and take, and it just wasn't that way with her. My sister also ended her friendship with this girl for the same reason.

I had to end my friendships with many people, once i got to sixth grade.(some years back)Many of my friends got involved in rap music and started to try to act gangster. I just dont like the fact of getting involved. Though not everyone cares. That's what i think of those dang gangsters.(only my opinion)

I ended a friendship with someone who turned out to be a compulsive liar, in the clinical sense.

i was friends with an ex boyfriend of 2 years. When i started dating my current b/f he didn't like that so much and I can see why too. I had to stop talking to my ex and I was okay with that but he would call and get angry and talk crap to me about it all...it pretty much made it easy not to ever pick up the phone and then change my number. HA HA

Yes, I had a friend throughout high school and part of college who was very immature and possessive of me. He would get mad if I wasn't availiable to him and was quite petty, when I got a boyfriend he would be furious whenI would hang out with my boyfriend over him. When we hung out we had a blast but his attitude got quite tiresome and eventually I had to end the friendship.

Absolutely. Reasons include drug use, emotional and mental problems as well as being a manipulative user.

Yes, unfortunately. Someone who was a friend went into my email account without my knowledge or permission one night to snoop, as she called it, for confidential information about another friend. Information she had no right to know, but her obsessive curiosity won out over good judgment. In retrospect, I could have forgiven the snooping, given enough time. The thing that got me was how she handled the aftermath. She blabbed that confidential information to several other people. Why? I still don't know. Gossip sucks, I'll say that. To the person who gave this answer a -5: If you're a friend of the person in question here, you'd do well to take this answer as a heads up. People who gossip about one person will generally gossip about others, including you.

nope

Most friends you know from work, college or something you are not a part of anymore (e.g. a coke-snorting fraternity), it is easier to just forget people, move on, not contact them. If you happen to meet them, smile, ask about their children or love life (or anything to do with their life: "oh so how are you? Great to see you!"). It is best not to make plans to meet if you know it ain't going to happen. I have been in situations where I have met people whom I wanted to stay in touch with, but they had obviously moved on and it is painful. sometimes it is painful to find you have changed and are not as much fun as you used to be, but at other time, the other person was only a "contextual friend" - a new term? well, maybe not, but a contextual friend is someone who can have a rapport with you as long as you share the same circumstances (e.g. prison, or pilates classes!). Once life changes, people have little to share. In my case, I generally prefer not to end friendships as I don't have it in my heart to reject someone who is obviously fond of me (unless they are clearly obsessive psychopaths), but if someone lets me down constantly or I feel they are not reciprocating my commitment to the friendship or ignore me when I need them, these friends can cause a great deal of pain. If a friendship does end, try to let the other person be the one who makes last contact. If you feel you ditched them, rather than the other way around, it would be better for your self-esteem. If someone starts to ignore you, or it becomes quite clear that someone outgrew you, it would cause you much hurt, so don't chase people who are no longer interested. Their continuing ignorance will cause you a lot of pain. Be the one who moves on to bigger and better things. If you feel like the loser everyone ditched, it will do little for your self-confidence, and you may even end up clinging more to the friends you have, which may make them rethink their relationship with you. If they ditch you too, no agony aunt in the world could help. The moral of my long story is, let it fizzle out if it has to, don't look back, and don't ever worry about failed friendships. I have been in situations where I sincerely cared about people, helped them whenever they needed me, and sometimes went out of my way to make time for them when they needed someone to talk to. Recently, there were two friends for whom I care a great deal, and each time they have needed me in recent months I have always helped them. I was writing an MA Dissertation and had health problems, and having done several months worth of research, I had a nervous breakdown after I did not meet the original deadline and my health problems made it hard for me to write. During this time, and having heard of my incredible distress (as I sent them sms messages asking for their advice), neither even had time to even send a message saying 'pull together dude' or whatever. I mean, I telephoned them and they didn't answer, and neither of them worked and were obviously ignoring me, and even though I did not ditch them, it became quite clear to me that people are usually just selfish users, and it is foolish to expect much. As long as you have this knowledge and learn not to expect anything, you won't have any trouble. If you do become good friends with people and believe they genuinely care about you, someday you may learn something quite painful. I am not saying you should be impolite or insincere, just remember that peolpe do not always turn out to be what you hoped.

"I'm no good at being noble, but it doesn't take much to see that the problems of three little people don't amount to a hill of beans in this crazy world. Someday you'll understand that. Now, now... Here's looking at you kid. "

I guess. My "best friend" and i got into a fight and i guess she didn't really want 2 fix it like i did. i kind of forget what the fight was about and well idk how i handled it. ok i guess, my mom's a therapist so she offered really good advice but i basically cried every nigth and it sucked becuase it was during the first month or so of school.

I actually had to end a friendship with one of my best friend recently. It all start when she began dating this guy that I really didn't care for (he didn't like me either) because he had a rep. for being crazy and violent but i was ok with it as long a it was what was goint to make her happy. However, during the nine monthes they dated, she slowly stop calling or texting and never wanted to hang out. Well, one night she call me hystercal because he had hit her, and I rushed over to her house. But after a little while of being broke up with him, she met this really nice guy who treated her like a princess (which her psycho ex tracked down and beat up when he found out they were sort of dating). At this time I could hardly keep my phone charged because of her constantly calling and messaging me. Later when I went back to college after break, she just stopped. After a week, got worried and text her only to find out that she was back together with psycho. That was when I realized I was just a fill in until she either found something better to do or she got back with him. Needless to say I let her have it, which was probably not the best thing I could have done but that pushed me way over my limit. I was sick of being treated like I was second best and so I ended the friendship and never looked back (until now that is). There are a few things I wish I could have done differently but I handled it the best I could at the time. I have found out, though, if you look at the friendship for what it was, not what it became right before the end, that you'll be able to get through it. Sometimes I do wonder how she is, but after very tearful night and an ice cream cone :) I realized that I deserve to be treated like a friend and not like a substitute. And that it's sometimes better to let go of something old and familiar if all it causes you is pain.

Yep.

oh ya, a few

Yes, my girlfriend at the time confused our relationship as a mere friendship and tried to be my "friend" weeks after she left me for the guy she cheated on me with. So I ended that one.

i am the most easy going person. i hate drama and confrontation. but i have had to end more than one friendship. i want to say its the other person, that the things they do just arent things you do to friends but i am the common denominator in all the situations. :/ idk...