I am not workign & I let my 4 y/o stay up late w/ me (midnight or 1 am). My hubby disagrees. Should I have her go to bed earlier even though we both sleep late?
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Meh. I think it's ok once in awhile. Sort of like a treat. But on a regular basis it could mess up her sleep pattern.
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You're gonna have trouble conditioning her for school hours in a year or so. You should start now. Pick one weekend night a week to let her stay up for a treat, but I think you'll find she drops off earlier anyway if she's doing it the other 6 nights a week.
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It's better to have the kids on a schedule. But it wont hurt the child to stay up once in a great while. But if your only reason was so that you could sleep late then maybe your husband has a point.
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Are you going to home school her or send her to a regular school? If regular school, she probably needs to get into a sleeping pattern more in line with getting up earlier for school.
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Children need guidelines, boundaries and routines and these things should take precedence over your desire to have the company of your 4 year old child until midnight or 1am, and in particular while you are watching scary movies. Establishing routine and good sleep patterns now will prove beneficial to both of you and as time goes by it will also help her adjust better to early morning rising for schooling purposes.
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you should be listening to your child's father on how to raise your child, not a bunch of stranger's on the net.
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Yes she needs an earlier schedule. She'll be going to school in a year. Better get her used to it now:)
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I agree with your husband. Being too lax with children results in a lack of structure and the development of unhealthy patterns. This may be temporary or convenient for you, right here and now, but this four year old is developing and needs to follow a healthy routine.
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We have always been on the "on demand" schedule in our household, and it works fine for us. However, if there is a conflict between you and Hubby, you need to resolve it. Talk it out and find out why he disagrees. No need to fight, just ask and see if there can't be a compromise of some sort. Do look at the future and decide how important a schedule is going to be for the child.
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My children have regular bedtime and it's ten a clock everyday and they are 3 yrs. and 15 months and I think children should have that fromm the tome they understand because they need a good night sleep. So yes I think she should go to bed earlier.
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My baby is nearly two and his bedtime is 7:30-8:00 on regular nights. And he usually sleeps till about 8-9 am. You need to help your child develop good habits, staying up late is not one of them. I remember getting 5 hours of sleep before school, it sucked.
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I think it's important for young children to have a stable routine, letting her stay up late with you is going to make things really hard, especially for her, when she starts going to school.
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What are your husband's objections exactly? Does he want more time with you alone perhaps? If his objections are valid, try to compromise. Otherwise, as long as your child is getting 11-12 hours of sleep each night and getting outside in the sunshine on a regular basis, raise your child in the way your heart tells you to and enjoy your quality time together. Kids grow up so fast. Oh...I might scratch the scary movies. Some kids are very visual and can't decern real from make believe at that age.
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I'm a night person because my parents were very laxed with a bed time, I really wish I were a morning person. I hate getting up work, I'm always tired, I'm afraid I'll over sleep....do her a favor and dont let her sleep in.
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I believe every child should be in bed by 8 or 9. she/he is going to soon be of school age and she should start getting use to having a schedule which allows her to be up and fresh for school.
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Put the kid to bed at a reasonable time for kids, not a reasonable time for you. You're not working, but next year your child will be in kindergarten and will need her rest. Practice now it comes much quicker than you think.
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As long as her schedule is pretty much the same every day and she is getting enough sleep, I think it's fine. People are saying that she sould get used to a school schedule now, but you don't need to worry about that. It will work it's self out. When school starts she won't have any choice but to get up early and go to bed early. (Bad news, neither will you! Enjoy this time with your daughter, before you know it she will grown.)
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i think that it is okay until your child starts going to school then they need there rest but if you dont get up early with your kid you might as well keep them up with you so that they sleep in late with you thats the way I do it I have a 4 year old 2 yr old and 3 month old.
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time of day is not the functional thing people think it is... if that is most convienient for your life then it is fine... however what does it cost your husband? does he miss out on anything because of this situation. if you are not working then the only time dependant schedule is his and as such his schedule is the important one to work with.
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Just because you stay up late doesn't mean you need to keep your son up so long! Of course kids will stay up if you let them, it's a treat! You need to get him into a routine, and maybe you should start going to bed earlier yourself so you can get up with yur son in the mornings.. at least do it for your son..
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