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by Angeleve on November 30th, 2006
The inability to be who they are and not who they think every woman wants.
I am going to answer with what I like and you can take it from there.
The ideal man for me... One that can be articulate in every aspect of life. One that can and will communicate through kind words. One that is not jealous of others but knows what he has. Alturism is important in a man, it shows his heart is in the right place. One that is well mannered but not pretentious. One that understands and sees when there is a problem without having to be told or reminded. He is funny and playful but strong. He is one that makes me feel safe and protected but at the same time respects my independance. Career minded and accepting of my career even if it is more desirable than his. Family oriented and spiritual, above all that loves and respects me as an equal no matter what!
If not here it is in short
Arrogance, disrespectful and uncaring are undesirable. For me if a man displays any or all of these behaviors with anyone I would not want to be with him. It is not how he treats me all the time, but how he treats humanity and life in general. After all they can only play it up for so long. But you can tell a lot about a person on how he treats the world around them. And this certainly applies to women also.
by AntigoneRising on November 30th, 2006
Disrespect - to me or others.
by jeaniefirst on November 29th, 2006
verbal negativity or down talking to spouses or family
by Geekette on November 29th, 2006
Think of your stereotypical teenage jock boy. It's a combination of arrogance, blatant and open pervertedness, and a dim-witted lack of creativity.
by WhyamIhere on December 1st, 2006
Dishonesty.
by sportykidd6 on November 30th, 2006
rude things like get in the kitchen you b****
by anonymous on November 30th, 2006
Stalker types
by justme32 loves the weekends on November 30th, 2006
I personally cant stand to be around a man who thinks he knows it all. One who tries to talk a big game but in reality is only making himself look stupid. My ex husband would be the perfect example of one of those know-it-all dumbass men.
by JUSTNORMAL on November 29th, 2006
I would have to say arrogance, or someone acting like he is all that and a bag of chips. And obviously, lying, cheating and not being respectful to me.
by bowlinggreen on January 7th, 2007
Self-aggrandizement and contempt towards others.
by Wendora on November 29th, 2006
Jealousy, the sick and twisted kind. Then comes being overly cheap or stingy.
by anonymous on January 7th, 2007
Arrogance and being Disrespectful.
by Tranny on December 1st, 2006
I can't stand when a boyfriend says other girls are hot. I'm not trying to say that I expect a guy to think I'm the only girl thats not but-ugly in the world (because there are a lot of beautiful women and I'm aware of it), I just don't want to hear what girls or celebrities he thinks are hot.
I dont even care if they say it to other guys really, as long as I don't hear it. I don't want to become paranoid, and i have to admit i do a little sometimes.
by lady fuschia on December 1st, 2006
clinginess, or a posessive trait.
by tigueron on November 30th, 2006
I have all of those, do I win something?
by VS Angel aka Mrs. Stealth Intelligence on February 6th, 2008
Selfishness
by Shopping Sheryl - home from the hospital on August 21st, 2007
Dishonesty
by EarthAngel on January 8th, 2007
Men who are unkind. I won't ever accept that.
by muguet on December 1st, 2006
I had an ex who talked about nothing but sex ALL THE TIME. Every single conversation had something to do with it. He told me thousands of times "you're so sexy", but never said that he felt love for me - which is one thing and that is fine, but he also never complimented me on much else, even to say that I'm pretty for example. Also, do I not have a heart, a soul and a mind? I would hope someone would want to be with me because of traits related to those parts of me, as opposed to just my sexual organs.
In a close "second place" of what I find least attractive in men that isn't a physical trait, would be being repeatedly accusing me of cheating. I have never cheated on anyone ever, as I have more class than that. I had an ex many years ago who kept accusing me of having sex with other guys. What is so ridiculous is that we spent so much time together that I'm not sure when he thought I was going about this - I also was working two jobs at the time besides. He is pretty stupid if he can't recognize me for just not being like that. I've had other relationships where the guy liked me so much more because he could see that in me, yet this guy couldn't somehow. Fortunately that was a long time ago and I'm with someone wonderful now.:)
by Azraff on November 30th, 2006
Inability to vocalize feelings that they are uncomfortable with so problems can be mediated or worked upon. Inability to make admissions of guilt, say I'm sorry just to clear the air. Cutting off a finger would be an easier task.
by ILuvAnimals on February 6th, 2008
Being a liar.
Never being reliable.
by snickerdoodle on July 22nd, 2007
Cowardice. I can't stand it in women either.
by Mr n Mrs M... on July 8th, 2007
a pre-occupation with 'bum sex'
by Anonymous on July 8th, 2007
surliness - it is just one seriously horrible trait.
by BabyRottie on April 27th, 2007
Hides the truth... doesn't necessarily lie, but he doesn't say what's going on either...
Breaks up because he doesn't want to get you involved in his personal problems from his past when they come back...
This junk just happened to me... and yes, I am crying over the keyboard...
by Firebrand on December 22nd, 2006
Bad hygeine and Arrogance
by Forgiven on December 22nd, 2006
when a guy lies to me! I'm such an honest and loyal person that i cannot have a guy lie to me.
by Anonymous on November 29th, 2006
Arrogance, childishness, high tempers...
by Jane on January 24th, 2008
someone who is a flake or someone who is always late...both are at the top!
by Babycakes on July 22nd, 2007
Spitting in public...ewwwww and ewwww again!
by cupcakexcutie on July 8th, 2007
selfishness and being inconsiderate.
i can't stand it when a guy puts himself first, then his friends, then his PRETTY MUCH EVERYTHING BESIDES ME... then when he has time, or if he cares, maybe we can hang out.
i want to at least seem [or preferably BE] important to them.
by Smart2 is back! Did you miss me? on July 5th, 2007
smoking is an immediate turn-off and arrogance or self-importance is a close second!
by The Devils Own on May 22nd, 2007
incoherence
by natzter the bionic has a broken hand on May 9th, 2007
When their too gushy when you dont even know them. 'i love you' when youve only just met. Too needy and clingy. Im miss independant, but i do want a man maybe thats where im going wrong? Also i hate the stalker types who call you non stop and ones that have NO conversation what so ever.
by Indielauper on May 9th, 2007
Not being honest and avoiding situations by not telling me, especially within their past.
by Galeanda on April 27th, 2007
Selfishness and unkindness
by Ezzy on November 30th, 2006
being cocky
by Lord Knows on January 27th, 2008
Selfishness
by Little Bo Peep on January 24th, 2008
Liars are ugly.
by PuppyTooFat on September 24th, 2007
No sense of humor...
by Ocean is gone... on August 25th, 2007
Dishonesty and a BIG EGO!! Not very attractive...
by NotAPeoplePerson on August 21st, 2007
Being pompous, cocky and self-centered.
by APACHEmeansENEMY on August 9th, 2007
dishonesty.
by Debris - the new slimline version. on August 9th, 2007
imaturity, I want a man who is grown up enough to deal with day to day life and the problems it throws in your path.
by Anonymous on August 8th, 2007
Obviously checking out other women when on a date or in a public place, staring or making comments about another woman's body parts
by anglrckx on July 8th, 2007
guys who think all girls want to be friends with benefits. get a life. smoking, getting stupid drunk, all the time, acting llike women don't have sexual needs.
by chelbell on July 8th, 2007
When men avoid you when they are with their friends. Thats a totally ass if you ask me. & when they burp in public or fart. totally embarrassing.
by unknown on July 5th, 2007
I hate when a man chews with his mouth open. It is so annoying to me. I could never marry a man who chews with his mouth open no matter how much I am in love with him.
by Galeanda on May 22nd, 2007
Disrespect to others and to themselves. THat usually comes from selfishness, asa they think too highlyof themselves and thus do not respect other people.
by KiFiLwM on May 17th, 2007
I cannot stand really controlling guys who won't let you talk or be friends with other guys and get jealous really easily.
Ladies, what will you do to rate a guy on a first date whether he is going to be a potential partner?
by Mr.Cr on January 26th, 2012
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Do women not feel loved unless you waste time on them not to be confused with spend because you might not even know them?
by -O-uknow on January 30th, 2012
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Ladies: Why buy the pig, when you can get the sausage free?
by snatchquach LOONYVILLE INMATE on January 29th, 2012
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This is for women.If five men were left on the entire world
who would you choose to be with?
by melo. on January 24th, 2012
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How many women like it when guys pass them/leave them notes? Esp. in high school and college.
by squiggles1 on January 15th, 2012
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Comments
Wow- a really thorough answer!
by lady fuschia on December 1st, 2006
lady fuschia do you think this is too mcuh to ask for?? I have yet to find this man.
by Angeleve on December 1st, 2006
Damn straight it applies to women too..good call..up points up!
by Redhawk on January 9th, 2007
I think I know a few. They're not always obvious at first glance though- you have to give them a fair chance to prove it.
by lady fuschia on January 9th, 2007
you lookin for me then. lol
by bahaminb on June 25th, 2007
Angeleve you have just described my brothers! Sadly they are all married. I wish I could have found someone like my brothers too. Sigh.....
by sammy326 on August 28th, 2007
A very impressive answer, :-)
by Zark424 on November 5th, 2007
damn i struck out only everywhere here!
by Mildbill on December 31st, 2007
dont want much do you lol
by Scooot on January 4th, 2008
You sound like one smart girl! I was going to render an answer of my own, until I read yours. I can't find anything else to add! All the best - Sara
by Sara Mercury on February 29th, 2008
This sounds like too perfect a person. If you did manage to find him he'd annoy you.
by Canoodle on March 16th, 2008
Give guys a break here will ya? You are describing probably a small percentage of the ideal man (1%). Most guys are too busy in the hunt their first 30 years before they decide to settle down. Those that think they're ready early end up in divorce court. We are like a piece of sculptured art and women are the masons creating the masterpiece. If they're not careful, caring, and sincere, major pieces fall off and can't be replaced so what you get is a broken, scarred, and a full of many flaws cast. Call it a corny analogy but it's true. A perfect matched set is what you want if you let us carve you out an image as well.
by Pete Parker on July 31st, 2008
Great answer +100 - Sincerity leads to a great and loving relationship.
I can't add any words, you placed them all and that is what I would expect from a woman.
by Hans Schecter on August 29th, 2008
I agree that this answer echoes how I feel too. I think that you have touched on many of the same ideas that I believe. Sincerity and respect are so very important. How can a man be attractive if he does not treat me as the person I am. Men and women are equal but different.
by cynthia on September 20th, 2008
I enjoyed reading your answer...thank you.
by IAM on October 11th, 2008
Wow... very, very true. I agree 100%. And it is hard to find a guy like that, but it's hope that keeps women like us searching for him.
<3
by earthy_kindred on October 31st, 2008
nice answer worth tob r8d A++
My congratulations for such a kind of frank and helpful views. Thank you,
by Abu on November 23rd, 2008
As children we are scolded when we do things bad with an attempt to mold us into something good.
Not very often are boys sat down & really explained how to treat girls or what they like. Boys are influenced to like blood & gore to be tough, to fight, to be mean, so a boy trying to be what a boy is supposd to be is rarely pleasing to the girl. Once puberty settles in it's like a drug or toxin that floods the brain & makes the boy desire sex like a horny dog, that's the first thing on his mind when he sees a pretty girl but the last thing on the girls mind. This is where the dating problems arise. The man must release frequintly before he can even think straight.
Then beyond that the woman must reprogram the man to be what he should be. Any man that is a perfect gentleman was trained to be that way, it's not the nature of the male so quit waiting for Mr Right & get to training them, we are eager to learn but can't figure it out on our own.
by MisterMan on December 24th, 2008
Excuse me but thet sounds sexist Misterman. Girls have sex on their mind too but try to control it so they don't get pregnant.I had sex on my mind more thsn the guys did but I learned how to control it. Please don't speak for women if you don't know what you are talking about. The movies only show the male side of sex so maybe that is why you are mixed up!!
by blondie44 on March 22nd, 2009
parts of what Man said may be considered sexist by some, but i highly doubt you truly understand what he means by "sex on their minds" blondie. when a man sees a woman (any woman, old, fat, with a beard, a peg leg) he immediately sees a flash of lust that is animalistic in nature. we immediately have a thought that lasts for a full millisecond of the perverted, filthy things we could do to her. if women have this bristling, untamed sexual energy, i would be highly surprised.
and what Man said about boys being programmed to like and enjoy violence and anger is anything but sexist. though you will find a boy who doesn't believe in violence (i met a few) there are very few that do not have some form of a combative attitude.
by SigFreud27 on June 16th, 2009
Excuse me if someones already brought it up, but i was wondering dont a lot of women find arrogance sexy in a man?
by TheMan--- on July 8th, 2009
Nope...not me..not in a man or a woman...a pompous ass is just a pompous ass...a bore! Someone who is doing things, but is actually HUMBLE...now THAT is sexy to me.
by Redhawk on July 9th, 2009
@TheMan: Arrogance is NOT sexy. It's annoying.
by AnonymousGirl on November 26th, 2010