My boyfriend doesnt have a job, and we're still in high school, but it bothers me that i feel like i have to pay for him in order for us to have fun! am i being selfish or does he need a job?
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bekah017
ANSWERS: 15
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You're not selfish. I payed for my girlfriend for everything throughout High School. He needs a job; Some ladies man lol =).
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an education is his job. all other things, including dating you, are optional. would you rather he work at mcdonalds now, or have more energy to focus improving his education to have a better future?
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Tell him you need to start saving and if he wants to go out he will have to pay his half.That may get him into the mood for money.
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The options are: 1) He gets a job. 2) He doesn't & you stop paying for him to have fun with you. 3) You continue to pay for him. I'd pick Option 2.
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job job job job job! if he gets used to having you pay for everything now, what's his motivation to pay for anything later on? tons of people work while they're in high school. it build character and teaches you a lot of life lessons that your parents just can't drill into you alone.
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Even if you were being selfish...it's your right. If it bothers you, it bothers you. Do, what you feel is best for you... not what society deems fitting. This above all things...to thine own self be true. Axe
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HE NEED A JOB girl i understand you my boyfriend didnt have a job and it seem like i was paying for everything but when he got a job it was great
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NO - He on the other hand is being selfish. You don't have to 'pay' to have a man in your life. You can be broke all by yourself. If he wants to be a freeloading mooch let him but let him do it on his OWN time. There is nothing more disgusting than pulling up to a drive thu and feeling obligated to pay for theirs too because well, their ALWAYS BROKE! Drop that minion and wait for a guy who knows what 50% and more truly means - they're out there you just have to have patience.
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An interesting change from the more common paradigm where the boy pays for everything. I think you should both have jobs, and you should both have opportunities to pay for things. Not everything fun costs a lot of money, but it's not fair for you to have to pay for everything. If he won't contribute, you can do better.
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Your boy needs money - he doesn't need a job, just money. If he is dating, he needs to understand that it costs money. My daughter will expect that the guy should at LEAST pay his way on a date. Moochers don't get a second date.
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Tell him you'er tight and most of the time broke, and let him suggest..or should I say volunteer to get financially abled? This is to help him think considerately and creatively who knows you both could end up working together and having fun at work too. Kool ya?
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May I suggest that you focus more on your education than your love life at this point.
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why do you have to spend money to enjoy each others company anyways if you stop spending then things will change trust
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High school is young. A lot of people don't have jobs in high school. However, this doesn't warrant that you should have to pay for everything, and it's setting a negative example if you let him keep getting away with that. Put your foot down and pay 50/50 or take turns paying.
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if he's a really man, should find and get a job. Right?
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