I would say that because that person is usually able to fit into both genre's of society and there is a lot of envy. People want to put you into one category and with you being bisexual, that becomes quite difficult.

I agree with intuitive_demands answer, but I also think that some gay people may find the idea of "one of their own" not coming "all the way over" to their side of the fence. For most gay people, the coming out process was very difficult, from coming to terms with their homosexuality to telling their family and friends. So the idea that these people may not be fully one way or the other may sound, to some, like the person "wimped out" and is not being true to themselves or the gay community, like they're trying to "pass" as straight sometimes or trying to have it both ways, when they, themselves, had to make a very tough decision to come out and deal with the repercussions.

Some gay men simply don't believe in bi-sexuality. Those generalized non-believers, consider bi-sexuality a cop out; a lie which closeted/"down low" gay men tell themselves to retain association with/ identity in the straight world. I support the Kinsey Institute's findings that there are various degrees of same-sex attraction in addition to gay and bi-sexual. Alas, many in our culture are disturbed by the concept of there actually being more than one sexual orientation. For those with that disturbance, I imagine, the prospect of there being more than three sexual orientations is beyond chaos. Even though basic logic says that ALL bisexuals can't be 'scared closet cases', I feel compassion for the intolerance which labels them thus. Gay people WOULD be MORE accepted, LESS stressed and, perhaps, SLOWER to judge, if ALL Gay people could, without threat of rejection, violence, and death, embrace the natural unfolding of their sexuality. If, by some mass coming out, there were a more truthful representation of how common being gay really is, BEING Gay would become more "common". "Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it." Mark Twain

I'm always surprised by this same issue. It's like they are saying: you can be a little outside the box but hey, you guys go to far. How dare they! I've always thought that if we want to allow people to follow whatever moves them if it is unhurtful to others, the door is open or the door is closed. I think too that there is a certain amount of jealousy, that gays don't want bi's fraternizing with the "enemy" breedders.

When I first "Came out" at about 30 years of age, I thought very briefly that maybe I was Bi. But, as I thought more and prayed about my situation, I felt that I was probably just DONE emotionally and physically with men, not because I "hate" them, but because I felt WHOLE with women, I felt "right" about myself in ways I had never felt with any man. As I became active in being a Lesbian, I also felt I didn't want to go where dick had been in possible recent times, I was attracted to other women who FELT about woman the way I did. I've never been emotionally or physically attracted to Straight women, nor to Bi women who might at sometime be attracted to men. Because there are still male friends, straight and gay that I love and care about as individuals, I can understand, (I think to a point) how a Bi woman might feel...we love WHO we love for who they are, what they bring to the relationship, and how we feel when with them on different levels. I don't have a problem accepting Bisexuality, but even were I not in a committed relationship with another woman, I wouldn't want to pursue someone who knows they are Bisexual, to the best of my knowledge...I want someone on the same page as me with their sexuality. I know there are some really hateful people out there, Straight, Gay and Lesbian. Some Separatists tried to get me interested in THEIR idea of being a "good Lesbian" not long after I first came out. After hearing their scoop, I actually burst out laughing, INCONCEIVABLE! To write off and dislike ANYONE not a Separatist? NO Straight Women friends, NO Gay Male or Straight Male, or Bi friends...I really thought they were trying to pull a joke on me at first, just because I was "new" to the life....how can such utter stupidity be even remotely real...yet it was and they REALLY meant every word they said...I kinda pissed them off laughing so hard, but I couldn't help it. LESSON #1 ANYONE CAN BE AN ASSHOLE!

we are in a shadow, we're not here not there and eventually you have to make a choice in order to make a commitment. I don't really care about it.

The same "logic" that applies to blacks and whites not accepting the light-skinned offspring of mixed-race couple. if anybody figures THAT out, let us know!

Theres always an extreme for every situation. If there was a group of people who loved the color blue, there's always one or two who love ONLY the color blue and anyone who doesn't is horrible. I know that's an odd comparison, but that's just the way life works sometimes. I think that it's just people being extreme, and as someone who I think would know a little something about needing and wanting tolerance, they just aren't able to have some for other people as well.

who know's why and they scream that no one gives them a chance or they get their nickers in a twist when other people put them(gays) down .... sorry to say but a lot of them are hypocrite's and are very two faced BUT it would go a long way to help if people STOPPED describing bisexuals(m/f) as gay or lesbian because we are NOT either of those we are BISEXUAL !!!!

BI SEXUALITY: TWO OPPOSING FORCES. ================================== Just the other night my friends and I had a great night out. Good salsa, then the clubs. We met a guy who threw himself around girls, then me, and more girls then more guys and my friends and I went: Whoa man, he simply enjoys the attention. A very attractive guy that is not afraid to kiss and be kissed by a man, that asks me to feel his heart-rate (his chest) because of all the dancing and then wanders of with a woman - damn. We asked him later and he assured us he wasn't 'gay' (meaning he didn't want to go home with any of us), however, he was way too gay-friendly in our opinion to not have some sort of attraction to men. He didn't seem to care either way. People come in all shapes, forms and sizes (physically and emotionally) and I have long given up on a BLACK/WHITE view on sexuality. But 'bi' is the result of two (or more?) opposing forces - the ones who are VERY confident in their sexuality and those who simply are NOT. THE ONES THAT ARE CONFIDENT enjoy both female and males because they have gone beyond what society thinks, beyond existing stereotypes - and evaluate a person equally. They have an attraction to both genders and can freely live it. They can admit and enjoy beauty in a man, and the beauty and absolute uniqueness of a woman - without fear of being labeled. They also will make an INFORMED choice (including love of course) to whether they want to marry a woman - not because they were meant to - or because it was the "right" thing to do. THOSE WHO ARE SCARED hide behind their heterosexual feelings - fleeing to homosexuality when they simply can't deal with hiding any longer. Fear of being labeled is strong, but not being able to live ones sexuality to the fullest is eating away ones feelings on the inside. Most who sleep with women enjoy the "sex" act, but can't ever connect on this deeper emotional level and just enjoy their partner. This hiding game is what most gay men hate in a "weak" bi-sexual. Because it hurts everyone that gets involved. Betrayal, secrets and absolute chaos are most often the results. Personally I am not bi, I am happily gay and love men. But good for those who can. Enough said I think :D Harlekkin

i'm really young, but i know that i like girls AND guys in almost different ways... i'm not going into details cuz that'd be weird. anyways, who i want to have fun with may change, but i highly doubt it will. by saying that i'm not saying i'm confused, i'm just saying change happens sometimes and that's okay.

I guess this response is to Unicycle. I would have to disagree that the misconception is based upon whether someone could lose their lover to another sex. Have you actually been in the community lately? YOu can't even go into a library let alone a club without the possibility of that coming true. The other thing I can't stand is when someone in the community bashes a bi or someone who doesn't want to or is not ready to come out for not being as "brave" as they are. As if they don't have enough pressure to deal with already. I think I should start another thread for that, lol.