If you don't tell him, your guilt will become all consuming.. you wont be able to sleep.. you can't look into his eyes.. well.. thats what i felt.. i couldn't even hear my baby's voice without shedding a tear in secret.. and how her voice sounded so sweet, but still tore my body apart.. it's best if you confessed if he ever meant anything to you.. If you truly love him, and want to keep the relationship going, you will understand that a working relationship is based on truth and honesty.. if there are mistakes made.. it's only human.. but you can not let secrets become the foundation of a Great, happy, and Serious relationship.. if you have done something wrong, and you know you have, and you are sincere.. Then admit to your mistakes.. take full responsibility for it.. if my baby ever cheated on me.. i would rather her tell me.. even if it destroys me, i would rather have her tell me, then have me continue living in a lie i did not want to be a part of.. Good luck, there are no right answers.. In the end, its whatyou think is right and wrong, from my experience.. i believe honesty to be the most important thing to me.. it may not be for others.

Confession is good for the soul--but although your confession might feel good to you, it would hurt HIM. So confess to someone else. If you have a church, go there and say everything you feel to the pastor. If you don't, you can still do it; ask a friend for recommendations. Remember what Rhett Butler said to Scarlett when Melanie Wilkes was dying? "Don't unburden your guilty conscience by confessing your guilty secret to Melanie on her deathbed. Let her die in peace." (Not an exact quote.)

hmm, being the person that was cheated on by my husbnd, you should tell. it is going to be destroying if you don't tell him and he finds out, or if you do tell him yourself. telling yourself you won't do it again is just to make it feel better for not telling him. what happens when temptation takes hold again, you will think he didn't find out lst time, so it wont hurt this time. tell him, it is not simple but either way is hard, but what is right for him.

Some things are best left unsaid and this is one of them, unless you think he may find out from someone else, in which case you need to tell him first. If not, try to forget about it, you made a mistake but you are only human after all, good luck.

Excuse me, you are not married. You can do as you please unless you led your bf to belive he is the one for you. Are you living together? Did he give you a ring? Having sex with an old crush is a great way to fiqure out where your head is out. Make sure your old crush feels the same way. He might think that you 2 can pick-up where you left off. You are between a rock and a hard place. As a guy, tell your current bf nothing. Tell your old crush, thanks for the memories but you don't think it will work out. Do not say anything. You can relish in the love of 2 great guys. Make your choice and never say a word. Treat the guy you choose with your love and keep it at that.

Learning from your mistakes is the beginning of Wisdom. The next time a similar opportunity arises, you will remember the pain you traded for a moment of pleasure (although, it sounds to me that you are already at that place). If it were me, I would want to know (but I may be a lot more forgiving than him). I believe that you should tell him, but not at this point in time, maybe a few months down the road. I just hope he doesn't find out for himself in that same time period. I also hope that you didn't get pregnant because of it.

I would say if you cheated once, there is nothing to say you won't do it again. If you tell him, be prepared for the consequences. If you don't tell him it will manifest itself to the point that your behavior could change and he will notice. The ultimate decision is up to you, but you can only pray he doesnt hear it from someone else first.

I think you have to talk about it to him, the chances are that he will find out by himself or through one of his friends, and either way, relationships are about trust. If you don't talk to him about it you will be abusing his trust. It could be difficult, but you have to talk about it. Its the only reasonable option - and if you truly love him then you know that he deserves to know the truth, from you. EDIT Is this the same person who inspired this question?: "I want to break up with my boyfriend of two years because I'm just getting bored. (but then again I don't) How can I maybe make him break up with ME?" If he is, perhaps you are not matched well. Sometimes you can meet someone so special and loving, and yet they are still not the right match for you *in a relationship*. My ex said she went out with me for 3.5 years because she "wanted to love me". In her songs she said she loved me, she acted like it, I loved her... but at the end of the journey she said it was all a lie. Living that lie tore her apart until she took it out on me. It was horrible, very painful. If you can, try not to let that happen.

Either way you're going to Hell. Have fun! But seriously folks... It won't be ruined when you tell him: it's already ruined. You ruined it, nice going. I guess it just wasn't meant to be.

I have to agree with HonestPsycho (but not about the going to hell part). I'm afraid the relationship is already ruined and you caused it. By cheating on your boyfriend you have already put into motion the demise of your relationship. Things are only good between you and him now because you are making more of an effort because of your guilt. But eventually that guilt will be so over whelming it will destroy you both. He will find out eventually whether it be from you, (perhaps you don't tell him but the clues will be there) or who's to say your "old crush" or someone else doesn't do it for you?? Either way it will definately come out sooner or later so its best to tell maybe you can work past it but you have got to ask yourself because of your infidelity are you truly happy in this relationship and do you really know you won't do it again, how do you know you won't be tempted by this "old crush again or anyone else"??? Also get yourself checked out for STD's and pregnancy ASAP Good Luck

can';t tell you what to do, but it will never be the same with you and your b/f...even if he doesn't find out, yu did it, and you will be different because of it. This is not the stuff commitment is made of. Maybe you should just break up with him. You know how it would hurt him if he knew. Wouldn't it hurt you, too?..if he did this to you?

Too bad , you are showing a conscious(now) but the damage is already done. I say move on and learn from this activity,,if you keep doing it you will get the same results!

If i were you i wouldnt tell him because you would tell him so feel better not so he would know learn from this and let it go if you are sure that he wont find out and you wont do it again then put it behind you