Do threesom's cheapen the act of intimacy?
by 
AmorousLilith
ANSWERS: 32
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I've enjoyed threesomes for the biggest part of my life! Mostly with girlfriends, but whether it be MFM.FFM, they are always great! Its all about the pleasure of the lady, and to see/hear/feel, and to enjoy her at her most passionate level! Is the greatest thrill on the planet! We never play separate or alone, just swinging sex for the extreme passion. If both people enjoy it this jmuch, and have a few basic ground rules, than everyone wins!! If one or the other get jealous, then they are not,and should not enjoy this type of play! But "we" love it! and encouarge others to do the same!
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I feel it most definitely does. There is nothing better than the sexual intimacy I experience with another person. If it ain't broke, don't fix it!
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For me it does.
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No, I don't think so. I've never had one, but based on talking to people who have...
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I guess it would depend on who you ask. For me Intimacy can only reach it highest limit when you only focus on one person. When another person is added something has to be taken away from the other and that to me cheapens it.
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I don't know if i myself would choose to have a threesome with someone i actually saw a potential of being with for quite some time. But i don't doubt that the experince alone would be a whole different rush on its own. I'm probably in the middle on this one.
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threesome is better in theory than in reality.it is a decadent form.
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The word "intimacy" means closeness to the exclusion of all others. The more you have in the relationship, the less intimate it is. That is only logical. IOW YES.
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It's an interesting dynamic that I've never experienced for more than one night. I don't know, but I imagine if there were three people that were honest and giving enough to carry it off, it would be possible. But it's difficult enough finding a twosome that works, much less adding another variable into the equation.
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Yep, unless you have to pay for both people, then it can be quite expensive. I dont understand why people feel the need to have one anyway. The only wa
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It depends on the ground rules, not all threesomes are three-ways. Like when my girlfriend said that me and the other girl weren't allowed to touch eachother, and that we could only focus on her (which I thought was a little selfish, but fun none the less).
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For me, it would, yes.
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if you wanted intimacy, you wouldn't engage in a threesome. Your attention is divided in a threesome.
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I dont know. Lets give it a try.
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Intimacy is much different than raw sex. Intimacy is the close connection when you are making love. Casual sex is totally different, and there is rarely any type of intimacy involved. It is just the act of sex, and nothing emotional. I do know that some couples who share intimacy between them can manage to get into a threesome once in a while, but more for the thrill of the adventure, and it is just casual sex then, not them making love to each other. Very different, and very personal choice. I don't think anyone who likes this type of sex has reason to feel cheapened by it, if that is their thing, and all are consenting adults.
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Yes of course it does.
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I believe so. One reason why I've never engaged myself in one.
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Not if I'm one of them, LOL!
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Everyone is diffrent, for me it would not be what I want!
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well to be honest if you are having a threesome intimacy isn't what you are looking for. the threesome is a sexual act of pleasure and the mere fact that more than two people are involved negates the feeling of intimacy..I think the more approriate question is does the intimacy after a threesome cheapen between the couple..I would say that depends upon the couple and their comfort level with all that has happened. Intimacy is something that can be shared in other ways besides sex so I would say no it doesn't cheapen the intimacy of a relationship if you realize that intimacy isn't an act that is only gotten through sex.
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Having sex and making love are two entirely different things, the only commonality between them is the insertion of a penis into a vagina. Many people believe that these things are one in the same. If either partner in the relationship feels that way, then you're playing with fire. Some nights my wife an I make love. To me, that's a deep emotional bond as the main event while the sex is the secondary event. It entails a lot of holding, kissing, etc. Some nights we just have sex, and that's good too. I get off watching her come over and over again. So sharing that with another person, in my opinion, isn't taking anything away from the intimacy of the relationship.
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For me, yes, it would! For others??? I don't know.
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I guess one of my situations was a good way to "get around" the cheapness of it. He very badly wanted me to be with a woman. And one time, we did bring a friend of mine in. And, you are right, it felt a lot less intimate. Though, later, when we would be in bed together and talk about her, that felt intimate. So he wanted me to be with another woman - so, I was. Only without him. And somehow when I was with her, it was more arousing knowing I was doing it for him. And knowing that later I would tell him about this and we could talk about all of the details, but just with the two of us. I hope this makes sense to some people.
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I asked my gentleman this question. And here was his response: ........"To the extent that the question implies that threesomes are about intimacy, the question is based on a false premise. Threesomes are primarily, if not exclusively, about eroticism and the allure of forbidden behavior; breaking rules etc. They're not about emotional closeness."
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I don't think having a threesome is about intimacy. A threesome is about the excitement, the taboo, the extra person! When I have a threesome I am not thinking about the love and passion I have for my husband, or our third person (duh), but I am thinking about what feels good, and living in the moment and the feeling. Yes, it does cheapen the intimacy, but I don't think people having threesomes are going for intimacy to begin with.
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I don't think so.
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A 3 some is about fun, not intimacy. For me and my wife, we have intimate times for 2, her and I. But we have 3 somes for fun, and that is just sex. There is no love involved, just fun, and pleasure. One doesn't preclude the other. But, the most intimate act, most loving act I have ever been apart of, is watching my wife with another man. Knowing that she is gaining extreme pleasure, and you are not a participant is an extreme act of giving, and, is, in itself and act of extreme devotion and intimacy in another way. sounds contradictory, but, I love knowing my wife is in the throws of pleasure, and watching her be seduced, and pleasured in front of me is wonderful
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No threesome's don't cheapen the act of intimacy and a threesome with two bisexual males and one bisexual female don't cheapen the act of intimacy either and you asking such a question like this is nothing but nonsense and I also believe that you are a high school drop out because only a highscool drop out would only ask a question like this that you are asking, and if you are not a high school dropout then your question is still nonsense and you are also a bullshit artist.
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It didnt for me
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Sure do but it's not about intimacy, it about good old feels good sex
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It is something that is for the individual(s) to decide. If two people have a secure relationship and both agree that involving another person in their sex life turns them on, then why not? Intimacy can certainly be maintained and increased in these three-way scenarios. Likewise, sexual experiences with just two people can be very intimate. Conversely, sexual experiences with two, three or more people can be very impersonal and emotionally cold if it's in the wrong situation. I'm sure almost everyone who is honest has had at least one experience like that, regardless of how many partners were involved.
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It doesn't cheapen it but it makes your primary relationship less exclusive and opens it to the influence of a third party.
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