A friend of mine got a girl pregnant and then she dumped my friend. Well we just found out today that she wants to have an abortion, is there any way that my friend can stop this from happening?
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mommyof3angels
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I guess he can talk to her or something, but it's really her choice.
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no theres nothing he can do unless he changes her mind himself, its always the womens choice tell ur friend im very sorry, theres not many men today who are willing to stick around like that she should feel blessed
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No. It's her choice.
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Sadly, there's not a real lot he can do except maybe appeal to her better nature (if she has any). The odds are very much stacked in favour of the woman making the decision. About all he can do is refuse to pay anything towards any abortion but offer to help her with financials if she keeps the baby.
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The decision should be hers. He should accept it. Your friend needs to be taught how to use a condom. Lesson learned. He should help her with the expense of the abortion.
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Men only have obligations to pay for a child, not any rights to it.
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The best thing to do is to try and talk it out with her when she realises his committment she may be persuaded to go on with the pregnancy other than that there's not much he could do.
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Unfortunately no, because it's her body, but that's his baby. Maybe he can talk to her about it, and get her to change her mind!
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To the twit who downrated me again, you only proved how lacking in intelligence you really are.
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Some things to try: Appeal to her conscience.It's killing, is it right or wrong, etc. Show her a movie and/or pictures of what her baby looks like.Make sure it includes skeletal images. Remind her that she won't be able to change what happened and she will have to live with it for the rest of her live. Have her talk to other women who have had abortions, if you can find any that are willing to admit to it. Have her read some of the questions & answers on this site. Beg.
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He can find help on this search list: http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&rls=RNWO%2CRNWO%3A2008-13%2CRNWO%3Aen&q=unmarried+father%27s+rights&btnG=Search
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She has made her preferences clear twice: once when she dumped your friend, and again when she decided to have the abortion. She has made her decision. It's no longer any of your friend's business, and it's definitely none of your business. Leave her alone, or she might sue your friend for paternity costs.
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He can present his opinions to her in a calm and reasonable manner. He can try to get her to see his side, and offer whatever he's willing to contribute. There's nothing he can do to stop her, nor should their be. It's her decision to have an abortion or not, and while it would be the right thing to listen to what he has to say, nothing should obligate her to do what he wants. I sympathize with your friend's position, but since he's not gestating the child, he doesn't get a final say in what she does with her own body.
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Bullshit. That "her body" argument is tired as shit. They both made the child, they should both have equal say in what happens to it. If the situation was flipped, you'd all be saying for him to "take some responsibility for the child" and the child would most definately be had. Maybe this girl should be taking some responsibility. The fact that it's pretty much solely the girl's choice is sexist and defying in any logic. If the guy wants HIS child to be born, it should be born. And about him helping pay for the abortion, if that bitch is doing something that he doesn't agree with, he shouldn't have to pay for it. If she's making all the choices, she can damn well pay for them.
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Well he didn't 'get her pregnant' they both had sex together and pregnancy was the result. As to him stopping it, no, he has no legal say. he can try talking to her but in the end she gets to make the choice. I hope both of them learn from the experience and use protection in the future.
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The only good news is that he found out that she's a killer before marrying her. He'd of had to sleep with one eye open for the rest of his life.
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