He also probably told you once he wouln't cheat

.... whoa.... You should just leave this guy. Honestly, you think its ok with you? He cheated once, he'll do it again. Maybe get the same chik or another pregnant again. I just don't see how you could still be with him even after all that. Seriously, think for yourself on this one. Do you want a bf or maybe a husband who you have to worry about cheating on you? On the occassion ya'll do have kids, he leaves you or cheats again causing the family to break up, and cause tons of emotional stress on everyone, will you want that for you? I think you know what the answer to your question is already.

You either need therapy (for both of you) to address the betrayal, or you should move on.

Its been 2 years and time has not heal your pain of his infidelity, yes I think you should do what you think would make YOU happy.

Maybe you should break up with this guy,remember this will be on your mind for as long you are with him.I know i could'nt stay with him especially knowing his ex is pregnant.not only that he cheated on you,how do you know he would'nt do this again? could you accept the baby? after all he will be the dad.it's not a healthy relashionship really is it? If i was you i would get out and start fresh and find yourself a new man.

you are just one of his stable girls. and now you have his dog. what kind of a man would leave his dog behind? Dogs are man's best friend. He obviously thinks he has access to better friends.

FUCK him. He's a jerk for doing that to you, and you don't deserve that. You're gonna be stuck with these feelings for at least 18 years cause of the kid!

Not that you should get over it, but if you haven't yet, it ain't gonna happen. I would have been out of that relationship the day I found out.

He's correct when he says time will heal.. But, it epends on how he is now.. its been two years already, has he improved at all? If you can compare your boyfriend side to side with his old and current form, do you see a significant change? My boyfriend cheated on me as well. However, I always think about how he's tried to improve and make our relationship better. He's definitely improved a lot since I first met him..he still has a lot of work to do but overall, I'm proud of him and I keep in mind all the hard work and effort he's done. There are always times where I wonder if he really loves me or not.. but I recently had a serious conversation with him and I was able to talk out how I felt about our relationship. It definitely brought us closer. You need to talk to your boyfriend and tell him exactly how you feel. He might get frustrated or upset that you've harbored these feelings for two years.. he might say, "can't you just let it go? It's been two years..." but the fact is that there is no set limit of time where trust is achieved. I'm sure if you cheated on him, he'd always have it in the back of his mind and every time you have arguments he'll always think about how you cheated even if the argument is unrelated. The first thing I did was when I was in your position was to determine whether if I could see myself with him for the rest of my life. Could I marry this person? Does he have essential qualities that I need? Would he be a good influence on our children? Has he learned the consequences of his cheating in inconsiderate behavior? Is he reliable? Does he go out of his way to improve the relationship? The next thing I had to do was to talk to him. There was a period where we hardly talked for two weeks. At the end we finally decided to have a serious talk. We talked about everything, from the time he cheated on me to the times he was inconsiderate.. in turn, he also talked about times where I did things he didn't like. We basically got everything out in the open all at once. It helped relieve a lot of the weight on my chest and I was able to sleep again. For you though, if communicating thoroughly with your boyfriend and thinking things through extensively doesn't work, then moving on may be the best option. Keep in mind, your thoughts, the inability to get over his inexcusable behavior and what is now the past will never let your relationship advance. Basically, your relationship for 2 years has been stuck in the same place since he cheated. There's no advancement or improvement. In order to improve you and your boyfriend need to work together to erase any form of anxiety you have. If your main concern is him cheating on you again then realize the efforts he's done since that time. If he hasn't made an effort then it's his problem. It's not entirely your responsibility to seek peace of mind. He's the one that cheated after all so it's his responsibility to fix what he broke. He needs to offer that to you through his actions and reassurances. Ask yourself this... "one year from now will I still hold the same feelings? one year from now is there a possibility that I still won't be over the fact that he cheated?" Be honest. If you say yes.. then it's really time to reconsider the relationship. It's not fair to you and it's not fair to him.

WOW. I'm shocked you must of really loved this guy. He did cheat and get another women pregnant. The worst part is that it was while he was with you. So when you were building up the foundation in the first year of your relationship he was slutting around. Happy you found someone new. Now you can heal. I would like to take the time out to tell you to set ground rules this time around.He cheats and your out the door... Good Luck...

You are a tough cookie. If someone would have done that to me, I`d no longer be with him.

you've been together for over a year now since he cheated and it if he has not given you any reason to mistrust him again and it this is the person you can see yourself with for a long long time, then your relationship deserves a second chance. His baby will always be a reminder but in time it will become easier. Its ultimately up to you if you want to be in this relationship.

Do you really think you'll get over it? He had a baby with another girl.

Tough one. What is going to happen to the child. Is he going to support it? You have a life to live for yourself without carrying the emotional and financial baggage of others. I would move on and let yourself be loved 100% by another! Just my thought! Hope it helps! ;)

Honestly if there wasn't a child involved it may have been an option. However even if you were willing to really forgive, how are you supposed to forget every time he has the child? Talk about the past staring back at you? Think about the benfits of being with a man that had failed to keep your trust and has a child to remind you of that breach of trust. I would leave him and his past. His child is your future. Could you handle that? His ex is also part of your future can you handle that?

Professional help...give it a try to sort this out. This is one of those situations that you may never "get over" because this is a situation that will have to be managed for the rest of your life. Is that something you can do...even if you heal?

time to clean out the checking account and clear out of dodge.

You should have moved on the second you found out that this coward lied and cheated on you. You are not a victim here, you're a volunteer. Of course he says time will will heal, he's not the one in pain. Get out while you still have a shred of dignity left. Why would you want to spend another second with a lying piece of crap like him?

look. if he is truely sorry which is sounds like he is he deserves a good relationship... which he can not have with you because he has damaged it. you MIGHT be able to have a "healthy" relationship with him, but it will never be as good as you both can have of you start fresh with someone else. you can forgive him but the scars will always remain. end it amicably

you've answered your question You still arent over it and if you're asking you already know its not right Leave and enjoy what lays ahead I wish I would

move on or regret it for life!

You have done your best to try and forgive him, but it hasn't happened. In my opinion, you were very fair. It is unfortunate but he made a poor choice and with actions come consequences. In addition, he now has a child from someone he cheated with. That is a double whammy. I commend you for trying to hang in there, but the time has come for you move on. Good luck to you!