im a teenage, and im going to tell you. don't be dominering don't nag, that just pisses us off let us be in control of our own lives.

I'm a teenager (too) and i'd like to have some input on this since I can kind of see parent's perspective as well... you need minimal interference in their lives.. you should be AVAILABLE to talk to when you're needed (don't make it look like you don't care at all) but don't ask them too much about stuff that doesn't relate to you..if they want you involved, they will come to you you shouldn't make them do things, but just 'nudge' them in the right direction... show them the path, don't push them to follow it and always put your kids before your respect and reputation, when your child does something unexpected & wrong.. don't think about what people will think of you but think about how bad he needs your love right now be compassionate, and hold yourself back as long as you can

Parent and teen relationships are probably some of the most challenging but can be the most rewarding. Teens want to be looked at as being independent and one who can make their own choices. The conflict comes in most instances after some promises have been broken and parents want accountability and the teen wants to be acquitted from his mistakes. Keeping an influence in your child's life can be done while allowing free agency. Never doubt your right as a parent to be firm, Opinionated, directional, and authoritative. Equipping your self with good information from experts is the best way to keep your edge with your children. their are many sources out there for helpful insight. http://www.parentteen.com/parentingmyths.html

Teens are at the age where they think they know it all. They think they don't need you to but into their lives. They think they can do it all on their own. THEY ARE ALSO VERY WRONG! Just remember what it was like to be their age. You thought the same thing. You have to do a lot of listening over all, and be prepared for everything life can and will toss at you. Never react badly when you hear something you don't like. It will take a lot of practice, but it will make everything much more smooth. If you let them dominate you and let them have control, they will walk all over you. The best thing to do really, is never let them gain that kind of control. After all, you are the parent. Set boundaries and keep the order. It's okay to let them make minor decisions on their own, but they don't have the experience to make big life altering decisions without guidance. They will always view you as the enemy, and not much can be done to change that. The only thing you can do is level with them and explain where you are coming from. Stay firm on your decisions, don't lose your cool, and don't back down. They will see that weakness and prey on it. You're going to find yourself explaining a lot. Don't lie or hide things from them, you want them to feel they can trust you and confide in you. Always be there for them, no matter what. Your primary concern is that they are safe, and making good choices. Don't pick their friends. Try instead to get to know their friends. If you see one that concerns you, talk about why you are concerned. Suggest you don't think it's healthy, and be prepared to listen openly. Never let them think you don't care. Maybe they will get pissed off at you, but they will understand when they are older and have teens of their own. They will appreciate you more and respect you more for being there when they are grown. My ex's daughter still loves me and calls me mom, and asks for advice when she needs it.