Would you give oral sex without receiving?
She asked me to perform oral for her. I suggested a 69 because I enjoy receiving it. She says that she doesn't give and if I love her I should want to please her. WTF? Isn't a relationship based on both needs?

If you were willing to give without receiving, it would be an expression of your devotion. Having said that, I think she is being unreasonable to expect that you will. That is very selfish IMHO. You're right, a relationship should be based on the desires of both parties. I'm not sure I'd suggest leaving her over this, but you may want to consider how she is going to treat you in other topics if this is what you get from her about this.

I love giving it, and I love getting it, but if a girl pulled that card on me, I'd be pretty pissed. She sounds like a selfish cunt. The fact she expects you to do something she wouldn't do.

I'd bail, this is just the start of listening to every order she gives you friend.

I have, and I enjoy giving head. It doesn't matter if my partner reciprocates. But, to ask someone to give you and not being willing to give yourself. That's not right. Your girl is selfish.

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I share your pain!!!! If she isn't willing to accommadate your needs for oral as well, I say quit giving in to her needs and urges for oral...

As long as she's selfish and unwilling to give, then she shall not receive..

Simple as that.

I love to receive, and I never give. I make that clear at the outset. And I don't see anything wrong with that. He's free not to pursue the relationship.

Some people just dont like giving oral sex.
I give oral and dont recieve cause my bf doesnt like giving it, I like getting it, but I respect him and wouldn't make him do something he doesnt wanna do!
He makes it up to me in other ways.
If you feel shes being unreasonable then dont give it, she should also respect that you believe in giving and taking and this whole 'if you loved me' shit is emotional blackmail tell her to cut it the fuck out...
It makes her sound like a self centered bitch.

Oh wtf, she is one of those girls who think that only sluts do blowjobs or she thinks its degrading or she finds cock to be disgusting. Well she is just being a bitch, you give her head a couple of times, if she doesn't reciprocate just ignore her, stop giving her head. Yes it is based on both needs, but some people think that just theirs presence is the biggest pleasure you could get. Aaaah, I've been in that kind of relationship, i loved that girl but she drove me mad. Listen, I've found this site, it helped me a lot back then (well actually a few month ago) so i totally recommend it, try Jacks blowjob persuasion and good luck.

I would and have given cunnilingus very gladly without receiving fellatio.

Give her what she wants, no hesitation there to show your commitment. BUT when you're too good in giving blowjob (after a few months eating her), refuse to give her bj unless she gives it to u once in a while. If she really like your mouth work, she'll be willing to do it just to receive bj later on.

For me honestly, I like to give bj to a girl, and don't care if I did not get any.

I am used to give without receiving.
If a girl does not want to give, you have to respect her decision.
Most girls I know only want to receive.
From all of my girlfriends I had very few gave any kind of sex to although I was giving to them frequently and as often as they liked oral sex.
And I still have girlfriends who have nothing with me at all except that I give to them oral service when they like it or want to have it.
But this does not change anything at our friendship I have with them.
You will have to learn that you can not always expect a service in return if yu are giving generously.
I like to give and expect never any return.
But giving the ladies and girls a good oral service givesto me their respect and friendship in return.

Even if some people are rating me down, I won't change my opinion.
Giving service to the genitals of a woman or a girl with my mouth is for me a matter of friendship and appreciation of the woman or the girl and I do my very best to pleaede her as much and as long as I can.
There are probably more women and girls who love to receive oral service than males and why should not give to a woman/girl oral service if she likes it.
It is also true that quite a lot of these women never would give oral service to a man.
But I never expected a woman or a girl to give me oral service because I don't like it basically.
A completely happy, relaxed and grateful woman or girl after a good oral service given by me can be more satisfying to me as any kind of sex.
Women and girls use to be quite respectful if they get good oral service and as most women or girls want to have it for a long time usually I am no longer that much horny that I would like to have real sex with her.
Never I would expect a woman to give me the same in return what I give to her.
They like my tongue and so they can have it.
Maybe you can think that these women are selfish at first sight but I can say, they are reallynot.
They just dislike to give oral sex, while they love to receive it at the same moment. This makes nobody selfish at all.
It is just a different female point of view which I can understand and I never had the feeling that those women were regarding me as inferior just because they had me only for oral sex. Just the contrary I woud say.
They like me more and give me more respect than to any other male because I am not demanding and beause I do expect nothing from them.
They give to me their sympathy, their best feelings and usually their whole friendship.
So, I am not disappointed if a girl or lady wants me only to go down for her.
And if a woman r a girl only wants to have as she likes I think it is not selfish but intelligent.

Maybe with a little time and patience she would be willing to reciprocate? Sometimes making the extra effort on her behalf is all that is needed.

The "game" of marriage, is not a zero sum game. That is, if she "wins" you don't "lose", so if she gets off and you don't you're better off because she's been pleasured and you'll get yours sooner or later.
On the other hand, if you want o play by your rules, you are certainly welcome to do not give her pleasure if she doesn't reciprocate.

1. I would give oral sex without receiving yes.
2. Some girls don't like blowing guys.
3. Yes, sometimes compromises need to be made.

would she give you a handjob?

Wow. This got to be the most selfish thing I've ever heard about.
I love giving, even more than receiving but if a man would tell me something like that I wouldn't do it just to show that being selfish leads to having nothing in the end.

Although a relationship SHOULD be based on "both needs" there are some things and some times it doesn't always WORK that way ! My wife hadn't had oral sex either giving OR recieving when we met - she too said she didn't DO that ! I told her I loved her and although I would MISS it I'd learn to live without RECIEVING oral sex from her but if I couldn't go down on HER we had a problem ! She reluctantly at first allowed me to go down on her and GRADUALLY was able to relax more and more each time until she was finally able to climax from me pleasuring her orally ! She never resisted me again and even got to the point she'd ASK me to pleasure her orally ! A female co-worker told her how much SHE enjoyed performing oral sex on HER husband and my wife SURPRISED me one night by going down on me in what seemed to be "out of the blue" ! She decided she LIKED it and we now ALWAYS include oral sex when we have sex - often in the "69" position ! My POINT is I would DEFINITELY settle for performing oral sex on her even if she didn't reciprocate - I would want to "please her" - and pleasing her would please me ! There's always the possibility she'll decide to reciprocate later on ( as in MY case ) - in the meantime enjoy the oral sex she's willing to allow you to perform for HER !

No offense but she answered her own question that if you loved her you should want to please her. Pretty much goes the same for her if she loved you she should want to please you. Sounds kinda hypercritical to me. Sorry I was In a relationship for two years with a girl that did not give head told myself I would never do that bullshit again. Before,during and after sex I just felt incomplete like I was giving my all to someone who who refused to do the same for me. Six months after we broke up she came over and deepthroated me and swallowed and wanted to know if we could get back together I thought about it a few days and said no because I know she had to have learned that shit from somewhere and she could have been practicing with me.

Absolutely. I given my bf a bj many times without having him go down on me, and he's done the same for me. Either way , we always wind up with him inside me, and then I'm satisfied.

Call me shallow, but I couldn't handle it.

I would give her the most amazing head possible - once - and then let her know she can have all she wants if she's willing to give in return. Otherwise, the southbound express is out of service!

absolutely, I live for giving oral

I believe its really up to the two people involved. Once when I had sex, I went down on a girl and she never did the same to me. It wasn't really a big deal.

I personally dont like to get oral.. but i really enjoy giving it. But its messed up she expects you to do it for her but not return the favor.. it always has to be on the table. i wouldnt do it anymore and see how much she likes that!

I much prefer giving oral sex without reciprocation to men or women, but it's primarily men who want it. I love pleasuring people and feel a warmth all over when they cum in my mouth... and if they reciprocate I lose that feeling... though if someone wants to reciprocate I'd rather it be a woman.

yes, i do when we are active, but she hasn't allowed me to give in over 7 months and has never given. It can be a bit frustrating of course.

Absolutely, and I do all the time. My wife comes from a country where prostitution is rampant, and most of the women there associate blow jobs with something only whores do. I'm slowing working on undoing this perception (it's working, but it's pretty slow), but since I appreciate her sense of dignity and self-worth, I don't force the issue and just, ehm, lead by example, so to speak, and--knowing she probably won't give me oral in return--happily bury my face in her little pussy until she cums. Real love is totally unselfish. And she gives me all the vaginal intercourse I can handle anyway!

Sometimes in bed, I'll get a nod from her towards her crotch which means she wants oral. I know she's not going to return the favour but I know how much she enjoys receiving and she always orgasms this way. Some women can only orgasm through oral. On saying that, I guess there are differing reasons why some don't like giving men oral. From not enjoying it to being nervous about doing it.
If she has a great body and you don't mind doing it to her, well I'm not sure but I wouldn't withhold it from her