Run for your child...NOW!!!

Yes, no court should appoint her custody if that is the case. Grab your son/daughter and run. She has no idea if your child will even be molested. Get legal advice first and fast but then if you can afford it go for it.

You should most definitely seek custody of your child. The way she met the man does not bother me, however the fact that she is so reckless as to move a stranger into her house and endanger herself and her child by not giving the relationship time to develop more. She has no idea what it's like to live with the man, or even to have a meal with him, and she has no idea how he will interact with her son. I met my husband online, it can be done, but people have to be smart about it and not move too fast. Things worked out well for my husband and I because we took the time to get to know all the family and friends and made sure we had spent plenty of time together. I hope it all works out for your and your son, and even your ex, but your son should be your main priority.

YES! YES! YES! YES!

I'd certainly want custody at least until you get to meet this guy and see what he's all about that's for damn sure!

mmmm well if you think that the child would be better raised by you however typically women do the better job of playing mommy.

You apparently didn't want it or think you would handle it before. Has the situation changed?

Well I wish it was that simple.Has their been problems in the past?Does she have bad judgement?Does she require you to approve of her boyfriends?.I think if she is normal and has not had issues in the past then a judge is going to trust her judgement when it comes to boyfriends.However if there is more to the story than you are saying then he may listen to you.Either way if she has full custody,you will not be able to obtain custody because you don't approve of her boyfriend or how she met him.

You can't control what she does, or who she sees, and it's no excuse to try, and take your son away. She moved on, and you need to.

That's a messy situation right there. I don't think there is no right or wrong answer. You know your ex best, and hopefully she makes good decisions. How old is your child? Getting full custody can be a long drawn out process. Maybe you, your ex and this new guy need to talk. If you don't have a good feeling about him..then by all means go with your gut!

Do you have joint custody now? How old is your child? What kind of woman is your ex-wife? After all, she chose you at one time so maybe she has some good qualities. Have you talked to her about the decision she has made? What does she have to say about it? After all, people lie all the time and maybe this person is a great guy, but maybe he is an evil dude, just conning her to use her. I think you're going have to do some investigation on this. Good luck! :)

You need a gusrdian ad leitem. Go to the division of human services and ask them to help you. Also they will have to ask the court to intervene and look into it. Don't forget to file a waiver of fees if you don't have the money for it.

In your court decree does it state that others that enter the relationshp after the divorce is a no win situation. mine said permitting an unrelated adultwith whom the counterrespondent has an intimate or dating to be in the same house with children

yes, or complain loudly and threaten legal action. a child has no need for that situation

Depending on what state you live in and depending on the laws governing custody. Custody is ussually not taken unless a parent is proven to be misfit or abusive in some way. If you know the name of the person she may be moving in the home witht he child run a back ground check if there is a criminal back ground of any sort or a history with this person you may have legal ground to stand on to petiton the court with emergencey custody. Call Department of Family and Children Services and have them investigate the home situation as well this way it is documented should you decide to got for custody. When you have the child note any differnce in behavior patterns, or physical tell signs of anything differnt. (never question or pump the child as to why or what goes on)Be patient things will start to come out....

torch his house and car!!!

When I worked for Child Protective we got calls like this all the time.We had to tell them there was nothing we could do about the custodial parent's lifestyle unless it puts the child in danger. you don't know what kind of person he is, and i don't blame you for being worried. Your ex is making a compulsive decision.Tell her you're worried about it. Talk to the child but be careful what you say. Don't put any ideas into his head or he may make something up when he gets angry at mommy. An innocent guy could go to jail if that happens.Let the child talk about"home" in his own words and don't ask any "leading" questions. You could (and should) hire a service to investigate his background. It shouldn't cost very much, and the money would be worth it. If there is anything you can use, it could force her to either get rid of the boyfriend or lose custody. Another option is to make friends with the new boyfriend and get to know him.... Maybe you could let your ex know that since she's in a new relationship you would gladly give her more time to be alone with her new boyfriend (by taking your son off her hands more). She might go for it.

Are there legal papers stating she has custody of the child? I have papers from my custody battle that state, niether of us can have anyone in a sexual relationship stay the night while my child is around. Seek professional help!

First Stay calm, then do a full background check on him, find dirt everyone has dirt just find it hire an investigator I mean what would it cost 500.00 for everything? if you cant afford that then somethings wrong. It's your kid I am sure you can find the money get all your shit together then express your concerns to the police they wont do anything but at lease you would have a document once you have everything you need then get an attorney 0r do what I did rent a apt next door to them.

Do you think your child is in danger? Do you really think that your ex would have a crazy man in her house?

if you are concern, DO NOT PROCRASTINATE. Go to Family Court and file a Petition for custody. YOU WILL need an attorney because as a man you have little or no rights in Fam. CT. You will have to prove to the court she is "UNFIT". I have been down that road and its not nice. Be prepared with Facts, not Feelings. Family Court is a dirty little secret that favors WOMEN...everyone knows, but no one does anything about it. Good Luck.