Because women are generally considered to be more focused on their emotions than men. This isn't always true, but that's the stereotype.

Please link me to the information that says most ABers agree on that. Of course a husband can be having an emotional affair. An emotional affair is an emotional affair, regardless of gender.

as far as im concerned it goes either way

well i agree with both sides i take no sides and i am a man

erm...doesn't it take two to tango? and doesn't the wife cheat with another erm...man?...

Yes... A man can have an emotional affair, just as a woman can. It used to be called "alienation of affection" for the person with whom they are HAVING the "emotional affair" and there is no difference between men and women, there (other than men may POSSIBLY do it more than women). With a woman, though, it's stronger, because women ARE emotional, whereas men are more visual.

Given the finite restraints of AB, it's empirically impossible to determine how many ABers feel that way as of now. ;) I think the levels of emotional involvement in an affair can vary from one participant to the next, regardless of gender.

This is because society makes us think this way. most people have stereotypical views on gender with involvement in a relationship....it is also true that physiologically and emotionally, men have different needs to women (generally)

because men are children and women are adults

I guess I've missed those questions. An affair is an affair, emotional, sexual, spiritual, intellectual, whatever..it is "cheating" on your partner with someone else. There is no difference if it is engaged in by a woman or man..it is a betrayal! :)

This ABer think's it's irrelevant. It's an emotional affair regardless of who conducts it. I've never seen any ABer who thinks overwise

I haven't seen too many baggers out there who belive this in a one sided way. Personally, an emotional affair is indicative of dishonor for whichever person is involved, regardless. Husband, wife...it makes NO difference.

I looked at as many of the questions on this issue as I could find....the consensus that I see, which agrees with my opinion, is that an emotinal affair is wrong, whether it is the wife or the husband...or a same sex partner. Now you have to do the same homework I did and see if your claim that most ABers are in agreement with your arguement is true or not. I think it is not.

I believe there definately are affairs, both for husbands AND wives. What is emotional cheating? This type of affair is often characterized by: Inappropriate emotional intimacy. The partner being unfaithful may spend inappropriate or excessive time with someone of the opposite or same gender (time not shared with the faithful partner). He or she may confide more in their new “friend” than in their partner and may share more intimate emotional feelings and secrets with their new partner than with their existing spouse. Any time that an individual invests more emotionally into a relationship with someone besides their partner the existing partnership may suffer. Deception and secrecy. Those involved may not tell their partners about the amount of time they spend with each other. An individual involved in this type of affair may, for example, tell his or her spouse that they are doing other activities when they are really meeting with someone else. Or the unfaithful spouse may exclude any mention of the other person while discussing the day’s activities to conceal the rendezvous. Even if no physical intimacy occurs, the deception clearly shows that those involved believe they are doing something wrong that undermines the existing relationship. In other words, if there was really no harm in meeting with a friend, both parties would feel comfortable telling their partners the truth about where they are meeting and what they are discussing. An emotional triangle. One that may only be known to the unfaithful, who then struggles to keep the other two from knowing of the impact of one upon the other. Denial will likely characterize the unfaithful person's response to an invitation by their spouse to reflect on the competing demands of the relationship with the other person. Sexual and emotional chemistry. Sexual and emotional chemistry can present itself based on a physical attraction one might feel for another person. In addtion, it can also be related to an increase in dopamine, a hormone that produces feelings of pleasure, and norepinephrine, which is similar to adrenaline and causes an increase in excitment. This may or may not lead to physical intimacy, however, if nutured it may present itself. The time between the first meeting and a first kiss can often be very lengthy, but the time between the first kiss and sexual intercourse may be very short. In most of these affairs, however, an unspoken attraction exists. A partner may spend extra time getting ready before seeing this "friend" or may buy new clothing or change their appearance in order to seem attractive to them. They may obsess anticipating phone calls, emails or text messages. Denial. Denial of the presence of sexual behavior, sexuality or even of an atom of limerence. "Limerence is an involuntary cognitive and emotional state in which a person feels an intense romantic desire for another person. It is characterized by intrusive thinking and pronounced sensitivity to external events that reflect the disposition of the limerent object towards the individual." This denial can be exhibited by the cheating partner and/or the partner being cheated on, especially if the partner cheated on is male. If the cheating partner accepts that the element of sexual attraction exists, however, and physical contact starts, it can cause the current relationship to start collapsing. Betrayal. There is an implicit betrayal of values, believed to have been shared, about the sanctity of a relationship based on love, of the idea of a soulmate and of being faithful to fundamental agreements underlying intimacy, that are perceived by the spouse not involved in the affair to be a core of their committed relationship and world view. Sorry if you've already read this, I know it's long ;)